Guys, when you tell a girl that you'll drive her there for lunch, but she said she feels uncomfortable, what would u think?

[Anonymous]

Like she feels uncomfortable having you drive her there, and insists of going somewhere near where you don't have to drive.

[lightbulb27]

I'd think she's not comfortable... like what she said:)

I'd keep positive, reassure, give her freedom to choose a better option of what she's comfortable with. I hope men understand why women say things like this. It's not something most men would say to a woman. Guys can be like this with long term commitment and girls worry about if they will survive the short term to have their offspring...

It may be a sign of her personality, her comfort with me, her current hormonal situation, or something else. Just accept the answer in that moment and time, be positive, and adapt...

[Asker]

Is it a turn off? Cause a guy I'm texting but have yet to meet said he wanted to bring me out for lunch. But the area he suggested is far. But he said it's fine since he can drive. I then told him that I don't feel comfortable for now, and would prefer somewhere nearer...

[lightbulb27]

It could be a turn off depending upon the person and if he is genuine. The more he pushes to avert your boundry, the less you should trust him. It's a good test of working together, finding solutions... that is how life is a lot. I'd have no problem walking away if he can't adapt.
There are realities for girls especially that you must consider. He may or may not know that or understand it.

[Miristheiss]

I'm having to interpret what you mean. Here is how I'm taking what you say. It is the very beginning stage of dating. She is going out with him for the very first time or first few times. Since she doesn't know him that well yet she doesn't want to put herself in the position of him knowing her address and her being stuck alone with him in his car.
For safety she wants to just meet at a public place. She may have him pick her up after she gets to know him and feels safe alone with him driving her around but until she knows him she meets him at the date location.

[Miristheiss]

Oh, if that is the correct scenario you describe it sounds totally logical and smart.

[Asker]

Why logical & smart? Would it be a turn off to the guy?

[Miristheiss]

Because a woman should take safety precautions when she starts dating a brand new guy and to not put herself into a vulnerable spot.

[Asker]

as a guy, how would you feel when a girl said that to you?

[Miristheiss]

She doesn't have to say bluntly to me: "I don't feel comfortable" but I'd totally be fine with and halfway expect her to say want to just meet me at a designated spot/restaurant for our date rather than have me come to her house/apartment and to be alone with me in the car all night. Not unless we already knew each other.

[wankiam]

personally i would totally accept the fact she doesn't trust me yet and probably wouldn't have suggested that plan in the first place so if he gets funny about it i would advise you take it as a red flag

[Asker]

Is it a turn off? Cause a guy I'm texting but have yet to meet said he wanted to bring me out for lunch. But the area he suggested is far. But he said it's fine since he can drive. I then told him that I don't feel comfortable for now, and would prefer somewhere nearer...

[wankiam]

no its not a turn off if he has any sort of respect for your wishes...

[ChrisMaster69]

That she’s been in the car with me before and does not like going fast lol.

The wide eyes, screaming gives it away that you may have took the last bend a bit quick, and that was just me.

[Asker]

Is it a turn off? Cause a guy I'm texting but have yet to meet said he wanted to bring me out for lunch. But the area he suggested is far. But he said it's fine since he can drive. I then told him that I don't feel comfortable for now, and would prefer somewhere nearer...

[ChrisMaster69]

I personally don’t mind it’s her option

[Asker]

would you find it annoying like what the other user has said?

[ChrisMaster69]

Nah cos that is like lunch time at the office, people want to go out for lunch, then needed on a call and can’t make it. Constant change of plans

[Wise4myage]

Then just ask her to meet you their and she can drive herself.

[Wise4myage]

*Id...

[boggboss]

That she dont trust me

[Asker]

Is it a turn off? Cause a guy I'm texting but have yet to meet said he wanted to bring me out for lunch. But the area he suggested is far. But he said it's fine since he can drive. I then told him that I don't feel comfortable for now, and would prefer somewhere nearer...

[boggboss]

Not a turn off but would be annoying yes

[Asker]

Why annoying? I told my brother this and he told me to never get into the car since I have never met him yet

[boggboss]

Because I'm having to change plans I would understand but it dont change the fact of it being annoying which is fine if u feel its best to be safe