Anxiety is making me worry, can someone tell me their opinion?

[Anonymous]

Hey there everyone. I'm a 19 year old sophomore in college. Matched yesterday with a 21 year old girl at the same college as me. We hit it off very well, got her number and snapchat. We started snap chatting and I usually ask her random stuff or ask her to ask me, or we talk about something. She asked me out to dinner or coffee. We planned dinner for Friday and coffee for today but she had to postpone today's coffee for maybe tomorrow (She's equestrian so she gets busy at the stables). Last night I said goodnight and that im looking forward to coffee with her, she left me on open (although she had just told me she wasn't feeling good and was gonna sleep). This morning I said good morning, she said Hi. I asked if everything's alright and if I maybe said something or was acting annoying because I sensed she was drier to me. She said "No!! Sorry, Not at all!" We're snapchatting throughout the day. I sense my anxiety kicks in because I have this rosy view that everything has to be flirty 24/7. Am I doing well or am I doing wrong? (She is interested in me I think because well she's still talking to me and still down to meet up and when I compliment her or say cute stuff like how I wanna meet her horses and if shell take me, she says "Yes of course!!". She also didn't mind that I live in the dorms and don't have a car.

[SteveSmith1985]

I think things sound all-good from what I can tell here. I think you're overthinking this and letting your anxiety run away with this.

It definitely sounds like this girl likes you. She's the one who asked you out... you guys are having great chats throughout the day. The only problem is you getting in your head that SOMETHING is wrong because you perceive her as being "dry". I think you read too much into that.

Things don't have to be flirty 24/7. In fact, it's better if it's not that way. You definitely want lots of flirty goodness, especially at the beginning. Don't stress trying to make your relationship a movie by trying to be "on" all the time. You're all good man. This sounds like nothing but a promising beginning. Nothing to worry about here. 🙂

[dudeinohio]

Yeah... anxiety sucks... I can take certain texts as being "off" too. It'd probably be good to explain your anxiety when you two are together in person. That may help her understand you better.

[PrettyPriya]

You seem to be overthinking things when she doesn't reply or give you the reply you expect. It is new. Give it time to figure her out instead of jumping to conclusions.

[ManHater]

You are chasing her. Back off no one wants a guy who is needy

[Iron_Man]

Why is their anxiety about this? This is special

[Asker]

What do you mean special? In a good way?

[Iron_Man]

Yes 👍

[In_Trance]

What are you asking here?

[Asker]

If she seems to be giving good signs or if I messed up.

[In_Trance]

I don't think it's either. If they were good signs you would have made a move by now. If you messed up she would have made a move by now