Do women these days like a chivalrous man?

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OpenClose · Accepted Answer

I mean I think everyone likes a chivalrous person, and everyone should.

The issue is in whether or not it's fair to expect or demand such behavior. It should be an added nicety. Especially because different people have different ways of expressing this. In my case, I'm not fond of all the ritual. It feels like putting up a wall.

Also, always go on a date assuming you are paying for yourself. Like an adult. Don't assume you are owed money for your presence. The only reason this exists is because women couldn't make their own money. In the same way you wouldn't expect a child to pay for their own meal. Some call it payment for the extra effort she took for her makeup and expensive outfit. Well don't expect her to wear expensive makeup or an expensive outfit.

Just as bad as assuming, I think it's something else when people are actively insulted by chivalrous gestures. I don't even know what to make of that.

t-8900 · Accepted Answer

Yes but not all respect then imho. Good quality women will love a chivalrous man. If you're nice to a girl and the first thing she does is treats you like a doormat just get up and walk away plenty of good girls out there that still want a guy to cherish her and in turn cherish him. Just know who you a w being chivalrous for. Open up with basic common courtesy and decency, gauge her, then determine if she's the type of woman to be chivalrous towards. Chivalry is a high level of respect from a guy. He's showing a girl humility, he's willing to protect her, he's willing to go the extra mile to make her happy sometimes. That kind of respect should be earned, not just thrown out there for anyone. But for a good girl, yes it's worth it and even rewarding.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

It's called having good manners, being polite and respectful, and shouldn't be delegated to just the male gender. I have men gold open the door for me all the time, but I also do the same for anyone entering a place when I am, cuz I was raised to have manners. And I don't act offended when a man holds open the door for me, not do I act entitled to it. I just think they're someone with manners and I thank them or return the favor if we going through more than one set of doors...
Funny the timing of this question, the other day at gas station, two guys held a door open for me and the one joked to the other that I got the double door treatment (OMG that kinda sounds like a bad porn title🤣)

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

There was a dating coach on YouTube who said a guy might give you rides and pay for your dinner and pull out the seat for you at restaurants but then hit or abuse you after you fall in love with him, so I won’t like a guy just because he is chivalrous, I need to learn that he can be trusted.

lilyanony1 · Answer

I'm a respectful woman and want a man to see me as his other half. Not the weaker, just the other half. The half that wants to be looked after and look after him.
Acts of chivalry isn't offensive, sexist or demeaning they signs of generosity respect, gentleness kindness and love.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Chivalry, a code of conduct on the battlefield and in the presence of the Lord or King, could be the designated entitled path of kindness or ruthlessness depending on the situation. I was taught to be a gentleman, which is probably more in line with what you are asking about than the ways of the warrior, like Chivalry or Bushido.
I think a lady deserves the kindness of a gentleman.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Yes but at the same time, if he isn't... its not the end of the world. I can open my own doors but if he wants to, I'll even remember to say "Thank you" as so many people forget that part.

Most my family, my father and brothers are all this way. My boyfriend is into it so much that he has to clear the snow and ice off the side of his truck so I can get in without slipping.

EmmaMary · Answer

Absolutely, and I do consider myself so extremely lucky and fortunate with my husband being one of the very few.

globetrotter22 · Answer

By réflex I usually treat women chivalrously given my upbringing. It doesn’t cost anything to open doors or pull out chairs.

However when it comes to money that’s a different issue. I found that when I consistently pick up tabs many women see that as a sign of weakness and they shamelessly exploit. This is why that on first date I never buy full dinners. I might buy coffee or drinks. But there are so many POS “meal ticket” women out there it’s insane. No excuse for it in 2022 either but sadly many of them still exist.

If she really likes me she won’t care how fancy the first date is. I only do expensive dinners for women who truly appreciate me.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Women will tell you they do but in reality most women will just ridicule a chivalrous act.
In reality women want what they want ONLY when THEY want it. Don't waste your time guys. I'm not saying don't do it. But do it only because you're a MAN and you feel it says something about your character. F*** what she thinks.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Hell yes. Treat me like a lady and I'll treat ya like a gentleman. We bring this out in each other. Mutual respect and consideration.

PrettyPriya · Answer

Absolutely, 100% yes. I love that my current SO is a true gentleman. It makes me feel that extra special.

purplepoppy · Answer

It's more about acting like a civilized human being than an ape.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

You mean nice men? Yes. I also dont believe that men in the past were so gentleman/chivalrous. It is a hollywood myth. Even in james bond movies the "hero" raped/harrassed the villains/antiheros or female characters. Sexual harrassment in the work place was normal in 60s, rape in marriage was legal etc. So modern men are actually chivalrous to me.

Electmen · Answer

It all boils down to personal attractiveness. Some women love receiving flowers from Chads or having the door opened by them, but try to do that to a woman being a sub five to see what happens. I've seen this happening many times happening to me and other friends.

TruthBringer · Answer

Sadly, we are living in a time that chivalry is seen as weakness by women. There is a reason why they get with men who are the complete opposite of being chivalrous. The only time they tolerate it is when they are with a guy they are already very much into. But then again, if he doesn't have any of the 'bad boy' traits, it is often a dead end for him.

Subarugirl · Answer

the discrepancy between what women want and what men think women want is kind of sad honestly

SkyCastle90 · Answer

Yup, but I like being chivalrous to men too. I find it amusing when I hold a door open for a guy and get interesting reactions:

1. The ones who are just genuinely flattered and would thank me
2. The ones who feel their masculinity is in jeopardy and must touch the door to feel like they opened it (even though it was already wide open) with no thanks to me
3. I just get ignored.

MTC29 · Answer

Never mind equality, women like to be treated politely. The door being opened for them, or having their chair pulled out so that they can sit down, has not gone out of style.

Today at the Dollar Tree, I opened and held the door for two women, both of whom thanked me.

Being a gentleman will never go out of style.

OlderThanILook · Answer

They love it, and that's precisely why I can't be chivalrous to everyone. It's the only card I have. Nobody want my ugly ass, and I don't have any meaningful talents or skills ☠ If every man started being chivalrous to every woman, it's over for me. I'm committing seppuku.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls will  claim  they like it, but men who have acted this way will tell you from bitter experience, no. No they don't. They revel in taking the opportunity to bust your balls over it.  So fuck 'em twice. First for lying about it, and second for bitching about common decency and politeness. Feminism truly makes the world a lesser place.

lucas262 · Answer

In my opinion. You do not start our with girlfriend or wifey privileges.

You start out at the dollar menu and earn better from me. Earn my investment.

If I am chivalrous it's not me saying I think she's better than me and I need to impress her.

It's me showing a public display of her value to me.

That she is irreplaceable to me.

That is how I interpret chivalry.

To do it to place her on a pedestal is to be a simp.

Shy80sgirl · Answer

I really enjoy being treated like a lady/old fashioned😊

Priv9696 · Answer

I do! But I don’t expect the guy to pay for every date we go on.

_piotr · Answer

Probably yes. Being treated like a queen sure feels good for woman anytime.
I hate chivalry as it degrades man to woman's slave or butler. This idea of "gentlemen" is spread so that men would not rebel and even want to serve by their own will. Brilliant plan girls, but some people can see through fog of lies...

icelolly · Answer

Yes. I like to be treated gently and respectfully. It's a huge turn on if you ask me.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely! I've been on so many sour dates, that if a guy was willing to open the car door for me, pull out my chair, or just treat me with general respect, who knows what I'd do. :P

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I've been and continue to be surrounded by chivalrous men, from my dad down to my husband. <3

MCheetah · Answer

Both no and yes. They say they don't, cause that goes against the "strong independent woman" rules. But they all really do and will get mad if you let a woman pay for her own dinners on a date or carry her own sh*t up the stairs by herself.

AviatorTom · Answer

Some do, some don't. I usually open the door for women, even total strangers. Many women thank me, some look at me weird and say they can do it themselves.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Of course they do. They never stopped liking it and they never will. Some guys actually are confused over this because of some bs red pill they read online.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

We both must respect each other not just one person.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think anyone would turn down a man like that 🗿 no one wants to be treated like poo.

Juxtapose · Answer

It's corny. Sure, I will be polite and open doors and whatnot but I am not going to simp.

I think women are either confusing chivalry with basic manners or are very open with their desire for a provider mentality.

DaveJord · Answer

Yeah they do, so you see feminism has only take us so far.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Duh they like it even expect it… but most are unworthy.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Crap. They all voted "yes.". Dang it.

jshm2 · Answer

Depends if your idea of "chivalrous" is an r/niceguys , neckbeard or a simp.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Yes, but women these days do not deserve a chivalrous man. If men treated women like women treat men, every single woman in existence would be in therapy and on mental health medication.

exitseven · Answer

I still think there are enough women out there that appreciate good manners.

cth2188 · Answer

Chivalrous men , ah ! Didn’t think men still did that.. 🏳️‍🌈🦄

Shamalien · Answer

They might like it, but I don’t see em respecting it, more like taking advantage of it

Anonymous · Answer

Of course they do, just like men these days like traditional ladies, who unfortunately are virtually nonexistent.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes but only the ones who act like a lady. Some don't like it but its pretty obvious which is which. And some don't deserve it, rude bitchy girls.

BoobMan · Answer

Chivalrous dudes--like hot chicks--never go out of fashion.

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

Yes I Would prefer over ugly personality that are bad boys and players and cheater.

Baredog69 · Answer

I think the ones who claim not to want one simply can't get one.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Well you will endup in brozone if you are more chivilarous need to use that shit carefully

johnyash1324 · Answer

i do not care if they like it or not... i'm not chivalrous man.. so i'm not going to fake it either... i'll be me...

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Hell yes. I don’t wanna be treated like shit lol.

RobT312 · Answer

I think so, and I hope so

bulletbob555 · Answer

Everyone likes attention. Women love chivalrous attention. Just do it

grega239 · Answer

Its 2022. Women are strong and independent and dont need men to open doors and all that

attackgrrrl · Answer

Yesss of course we do

Anonymous · Answer

If im chivalrous its because im establishing a dominant frame. Guys who do nice stuff but never establish a dominant frame are just dupes.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Definitely

Nazgol · Answer

Definitely! It's the only type I'd want anyway

dustybiker · Answer

Sexy. Yes.

Stoner710 · Answer

I’m here to read comments

ShadezMcgee · Answer

So long as he isn't a pushover.

Kaamraj · Answer

Wouldn't you like something that benefited you?

JoyGirl · Answer

Yes, pls.

Anonymous · Answer

Chivalrous yes. Chauvinistic no.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes but they are so rare.

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