Being a guy I am pretty aloof of what a meaningful conversation means to girls. I have tried things on Tinder or even workplaces and clubs , but found that what normally is considered great and intresting by my male friends ( thats mostly about girls, food , cars and sex ) is not applicable to females. Most important question seems to me is what kind of conversation will her feel comfortable and open and make intresting conversations go on for hours? Please suggest some pointers or sites or suggestions or ways in which I can make meaningful connections and female friendly conversations?
What are meaningful conversations and how to practice them?
The most important thing is that you both feel a connection with each other. You probably notice it’s easier to talk to some girls than others because you vibe more. Get to know the girl’s personality in addition to likes and dislikes. Be humorous and see how she responds. Be genuine with your answers when she asks you something. I find when I can tell a guy is genuine in the conversation that I want to engage more with them. Don’t be afraid to be open about yourself, because we will most likely open up a lot more to you. It also looks more mature to a girl when a guy isn’t afraid to do so. Be honest, open, and genuine and the right one will notice you.
Well, it's subjective so it will vary from person to person. But some important elements to what I define to be "meaningful conversations" tend to be:
• When both people are being receptive towards the information or perspective given • Both people are providing a nice balance of perspective & information towards the conversation • Both are asking questions & being critical in thought • Both are not being afraid to joke around
And of course, there are probably more. But if those requirements are met for me, I'll definitely want to message the person more.
I learned mostly to open up about myself a lot around women. I found lots of women dug soulful conversations where you share something about yourself, she shares something about herself, and you take turns opening up this way without even having to ask questions. It's the type of conversation you tend to have at the edge of the party with that lone girl on the balcony: hopes and dreams, childhoods, embarrassing stories, things like that. If you can do it right for women who are into it, the conversation can last all night long.
With guys, we usually don't talk on such a "soul-baring" level. We talk about work, hot girls, some geeky things we enjoy, something academic, and without revealing the deepest aspect about ourselves in the process.
But with women, I've found many seem to enjoy it if you really open up to them and let them do the same. So you can talk even about things like what dream you last remember, and she can share hers, and it tends to inspire a sense of mutual understanding and trust. And that's another thing with women is that it helps if you talk in a way that makes her feel like you two are on the same page, and she feels so safe and comfortable around you.
You ever had that moment in school where a literature teacher might criticize a student's book report saying something like, "Yes, that's a most concise description of the book. You've clearly read it and understood it. But how does it make you *feel*? How do you relate to the book's story on a personal level?" That's the sort of thing I find far more women interested in than men.
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