What makes a conversation meaningful to you?

[Anonymous]

What makes a conversation meaningful to you?

In your own words, what would have to happen in order for you to feel like you've had a meaningful conversation with someone?

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[btbc92]

Meaningful conversations is like taking consideration to the important things that matter to others around you. A perfect examples are of the many conversations I had with strangers, teachers, etc. Not sex obsessions, gossips, who is screwing who, who did what, none of that garbage. But more so like instead of having small talk like: "so how's the weather?" Expand on that! Everybody practically heard it all before. It's an equivalent to some guy using pick up lines or start asking you for your number and you don't even know who the hell he is, or why does he really need your number. Not that you don't know the exact reason why anyway. But you're not going to entertain it. It comes off rude and that you are a poor host and or comversationist.

I believe that the main thing that one has to really remember is that you do not have to be and eloquest in order for you gain the attention of people. In fact it has nothing to do with much with Charisma or just having confidence even though confidence is very important. But it's about the intention. If you want to be engaged and meaningful conversations. You got to start taking an interest and things that most people often don't think about. As I said before as an example concerning the weather. Don't just ask about how's the weather engage about what you been noticing about the weather. A good example is that we've been getting hurricanes and tropical storms lately right?

Talk about how the change in weather has been causing a lot of issues lately especially with health, technology, etcetera? Because now you can Branch into other conversations that are interconnected, and you may come to find other things that you have in common with the other. Thays what makes it meaningful. Especially when you feel something that is generating with the person or group around you. These are perfect examples of having an intellectual conversation.

[btbc92]

In other words. If you don't know where to start, you can ask those who are considered intellectuals themselves or who is Holly verse in their fields. Go to the library and pick up a few books and start learning some things. Do some research on the internet, look up some videos on YouTube around the world, you may find a few interesting facts and stuff and build a conversation on it. You may be able to learn a bit from other people as they also learned something from you.

[Asker]

Well said, I like that!

[jennifer_bloom]

If I’m given an opportunity to explore new ideas and the other person is receptive to my exploration - psychologists and therapists say to ask open ended questions - for example “tell me about yourself” is better than “what do you do?” Or “what is your cultural background?” Or “What is the nature of your religious practice?”
- the fastest way to offend or lose me as a friend is to refuse to listen to my point of view or be unwilling to acknowledge that my feelings and responses to experience are justifiable and worthy of consideration or at least respect

[Gedaria]

The person look at each other listen and chat interact with each other, enjoy the time. This is what drew me to the second wife. We were at a funeral of a mutual friend, after half an hour I just didn't want to be anywhere else. We were there about 4hours then we went for a drink and a meal.
Took her home in the car got to her place we just chatted. and kissed, I didn't want it to end...

[Lionman95]

Meaningful conversation are conversations that I can remember of years. They don´t need to be deep, but they should either solve a problem or make me laugh. I have the flaw that I can have them for the most with people I know for a long time, I can´t have them with strangers.

[Mollynotgemma]

When you’re both asking and answering questions with truth and ease. When it’s not one way. And you hear and say things neither of you thought you would. So many of us ask questions about something we want them to ask us the same. A conversation is hard when it’s natural and pure. But when we’re in that meaningful co versatile we feel happy and complete and perhaps will never have that again with that person. But enough was said

[SexyAshh]

If someone tells me something about their childhood or how they grew up and are vulnerable about it.


I dont like vulnerability but when i hear it about someones family, or hardships im a sucker.


Makes me feel like i can trust them and understand them a lot more

[chapawapa]

When they actually ask me question about my life and try to get to know who I am as a person.

And I have then question and we just click.. I hate having all the question... Like an I the only one interested... Probably lol 😆

[Asker]

Yeah, I will legit leave someone on r if they don't ask me shit too 😂 doesn't even have to be about me, just in general

[chapawapa]

Jesus. Sorry for the spelling errors. I really need to proof read my autocorrect... Ironically

[Asker]

😂 I didn't even notice

[Paul09]

Well when conversations go both ways. I do not just want to always talk about what the other wants to talk about. If they show interest in me too. When both people are interested in each others interests, life style, values, hobbies, etc. pretty much. Because à lot of the times it feels one way convo.

[ValleyofDrakes]

Being able to say or talk about anything and being understood. Period.

[ValleyofDrakes]

I've lost so many friends and potential romantic partners over misunderstandings.

They never want to take me seriously after being offended. They just want me to agree with them and apologize.

I won't because I'm not wrong nor have I done anything wrong.

They can go.

But I want my understanding person who just gets me.

[Asker]

I feel you on that

[no_leaf_clover_3]

Only a conversation in which you can open yourself and let the other person learn about you, get to know you is meaningful. Or one in which you express what's inside of you, and it feels like a relief afterwards. The other types of conversations are just chit chats.

[jcnum10]

We have to open our mouths and make dem word sounds people talks bout.

[Asker]

You are just full of knowledge today

[jcnum10]

thanks. I am taking smart 💊 2day

[Asker]

😲 the redpill?

[jcnum10]

Ya knows it

[Asker]

You do know what you've gotten yourself into right?

[jcnum10]

... umm... yeah... maybe. no!!! No I don't 😭

[Asker]

You are truly brave for taking the pill of knowledge 🙏

[jcnum10]

Oh we need more people to take it

[Asker]

Wait have you heard of what red-pilled means irl? Nowadays it typically is said amongst the dating sphere

[jcnum10]

No. Wha?

[Asker]

Redpill is usually the acknowledgment of the real way the dating world is. It's mainly men that talk about different aspects of how women primarily like looks, money, status. And there's usually an emphasis on improvement in those aspects. But mainly on the improvement of looks since it's more in their control. They'd call someone blue pilled if they think that personality is the driving force for general intimate interactions. And someone's just gotta change their charisma in order to get the girl. Then there's the black pill. They're a whole other breed. This photo sums up what the different types are pretty well:

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[Asker]

But there has been a recent blur between redpill and black pill. In the photo, it's like a pickup artists way of picking up women. That can be unrealistic though. But many men buy it

[jcnum10]

Lol. Incel thinkin.
Looks gonna have some to do wit it but I don't want no dumb ass that bores me but it fine af.

[Asker]

I personally don't think its incel thinking. Only because there needs to be a specific set of circumstances in order for it to be that. With incels, they feel hopeless and they usually attribute their worth to their dating life. And you can be black pilled or red-pilled without doing that. It get confusing. 😂 With incels, now there's less of an emphasis on getting laid, and more on longterm relationships. But it's their defeatist attitude that makes them unattractive and they don't even know it.

The videos long so if you don't wanna listen, it's cool. But I do agree with this guy. He has a pretty reasonable take. He basically says why he doesn't identify with any of the pills. Because they both generalize and aren't very hopeful of women. Because some really are different. I've met em!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FE0WsrJnCLg

[likelyOK]

If we connect and talk about thinks on a deeper level, or if we have a lot of relatable things to talk about.

[Hangry22]

Them telling their life troubles to me. Something that they've gone through which affected them a lot.

[Jjpayne]

If they relate to you and support you. You can also relate and support them too. It's being willing to share with each other and support each other

[Hazelstar99]

I think the conversation is meaningful when you can be completely comfortable to talk anything and be honest about it.

[SebastianPlanet6]

When we ask questions in regard to stuff that matter to us the most and not just everyday conversations.

[AlongCameCindy]

Hmm something about how we feel about life, in life? our worries, our fears, things that mean lots to us, stuff like that? i tend to find stuff like that beneficial and interesting to talk about.

[Posterboy56]

Each party taking effort to truly listen to, and understand, one another. A lack of anger.

[sensible27]

Insight and other things..

[sensible27]

Good/decent question though

[Asker]

😂 Why thank you

[leahzrc]

i dont know i think everything has meaning

[Asker]

So you would derive meaning from anything?

[leahzrc]

yeah

[Asker]

Even this?

💢💫✨💯🔥👯‍♀️

[sensible27]

"meaning is a jumper you've to knit yourself"

[leahzrc]

gorl power

[Asker]

😂 I just tapped random shit

[SavageGirl101]

A convo laughing about our experiences with life🙈

[askuser]

One in which questions are answered.

[peedy]

Beer

[michael1469]

Complete silence is golden.