The conversation is getting stale or nothing to talk about so you just stopped replying…
What is a conversation killer for you?
Too pushy, and forward... random personal questions, brags about sexual skills too much. I saw this guy once for a after work drink. All he would text after that is what he wanted to do and for how long... just all the time... it got gross.
Dont get me wrong when my boyfriend text that he is gonna throw me. down and suck on my clit for hours. I love it. But thats not all he ever texts lol... and we are in a long term relationship
Gives off the trying to hard vibe.. or your a slut...😀
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The person is not interesting and can't talk about stuff that isn't right in their wheelhouse. Like if you are a person interested in life then you can have a chat about stuff you don't know everything about learn new things exchange ideas whatever. This girl I met her while I was meeting someone else we didn't talk much or vibe when I was there but she asked for my number and she wouldn't stop texting me. All she does is go to her mandatory work hours, (it's not a paid job more just like giving people something to do. ) sleep & eat or watch TV. I told her I don't watch TV, she even said most of TV is trash. She asked what I watch I sent her links to sites of the show I was watching right then but she never tried it out but she still kept texting me asking me if I was watching whatever was on TV right then.
I was never interested in her in any way from the start but I was like in a phase where I was trying to be more social and think and analyze less. But she's a real headache. I've had to explicitly tell her I don't want to meet up or text with her. It's alright if we see each other at that place where we met but otherwise no.
The attractiveness of the mind is extremely important in my opinion but some people don't even try to think about anything. It's baffling to me sometimes.
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Religion and politics early on.
Anything about their Ex and Sex.
Anything overly into them or their idealogies.
Saying something that sounds like, they need no man.
Sarcasm. I can be sarcastic, but early on it sounds just plain cynical.
Dirty and ghetto talk.
Having weird and strange hobbies. I once met a girl who loved rats and rat dentistry.
Talking about their love of drugs and drinking.
Sending naughty pictures, that at least shows off the goods.
Asking about my job, car and outlook on my 401(k).
Talking about the other guys she is seeing, trying to sound highly-desired.
Talking about her very life, job, studies and family. If I can't see a future with me in it, I am not going to waste my time.
Taking about mental illness they are dealing with and medications.
Talking about stuff that violates my personal morales and sensibilities.
Chatting endlessly about non-important things and not letting me get a word in edgewise.
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from real life dates: Biggest date pet peeves
- mansplaining: when he disagrees with a girl. so he talks over her and doesn't let her utter a word every time she tries to talk. I can't tell you enough about how irritating this is. Biggest convo killer ever
- intentionally insulting her because you think its funny: I have literally went on dates with guys who made Asian jokes in front of me , an Asian girl.
- not being able to carry a conversation. if all you're saying are "yes" and "nos" or "why?" in a conversation, you're not pulling your own weight. The other person will eventually find themselves trying to overcompensate your lack of input by talking more. There have been times where I speak 80% of the time. And no, its not fun.
- talking about yourself too much and not knowing how to listen. We all know everyone loves talking about themselves. But keep in mind that we need to take turns. We are not discussing an autobiography about you.
- lack of conversation etiquette: this mainly affects guys, rather than women. You never ever directly say you are stronger or smarter than the other person or that the other person will never be able to do something. This itself shows you are rude, inconsiderate and likely you do not care at all about your date or friend.
- you consistently prioritize your family / work over me. If I feel like I'm not important enough, its only a matter of time before I dump you for someone who can make me feel good enough.
- If sex is mentioned on any of the first 3 dates, "after how many dates do you have sex?" "what is your favorite sex position?" "what kinks are you into, do you wanna try it now?"
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When the guy is really cocky and you can tell he thinks he's better than you. I don't mind confidence but cockiness... No thanks.
When the guy doesn't agree/like when you don't like drinking/smoking. Especially if he assumes you'll judge him for drinking/smoking when that literally never came up. Shows some baggage he has lol.
He cusses like a sailor. It shows he doesn't respect me or he was raised really poorly. I like it when guys hold their language around me and even apologize when they accidentally say something crude. I mean I'll easily tell him I'm not a fan of cussing I don't expect him to read my mind.
When the feminism conversation comes up. Depends on what he says about it. I personally don't feel like I'm a feminist. If it's a blatant thing where the guy blames a girl for being raped obviously won't agree. But if it's like women giving guys a hard time for how wide they spread their legs, I don't care about that stuff lol. I like to keep myself away from feminism it's too toxic for me.
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If someone calls me on the phone and wants to complain that their sandwich they bought yesterday was off somehow, and they want a refund, but then claim they don't have the receipt, and I wasn't there when it happened and need proof, and demand to talk to the manager when they get there, I'll say I understand.
When the derpwad then demands I *do something* non-specific about his issue right then and there, when I literally can't do anything for him over the phone, especially not financially, and he won't even let me finish explaining it to him before he personally launches into some tirade about how I "don't know how" to do my job because I can't give him what he wants that he can't even specify, then I hang up.
And if he tries to call back five or six different times, I let the manager know that we have a crazy man after us. Where I live, especially with all the refugees that have fled here from NYC, the local mental illness rates have skyrocketed in just one year. Lunatics that harass gas stations over insane BS are everywhere now.
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Over text: If I generally get the impression they aren't into or listening to the things im saying or if i keep attempting to talk to them and all i get back are one word or two word answers (without some kind of explanation fir why at least: ie busy often)
In person: if they appear bored or uninterested in what im saying and they clearly wanna go or do something else rather than talk
to me.
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Talking about an ex when you showed romantic interest in someone is absent-minded bad taste at best but a friendzone insult times 10 at worst. Also bringing up politics with no context. I remember a time when women almost never did that. Now that bullshit happens all the time. Even if the guy agrees with your political views it isn’t romantic talk. Never bring it up on a first or second date.
But honestly I really like (sarcasm) how so many women are complaining about guys being “too cocky” or arrogant talking to women.
In principle you are right. But too many of you mistake that for confidence in the heat of the moment. There is a reason why those overly cocky men usually get they want. If it didn’t work for them they would quit that bad behavior. Sexual frustration can really change men. But just admit that too many women spread ‘‘em for that.
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It takes a lot for someone to kill the conversation with me. If someone has no personality or conversation skills in the slightest? Yeah that’s a quick exit for me. The biggest conversation killer for me in the dating process when they start trying to telling me what I should do in order to get favor with them.
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"Ok"
"K"
"Cool"
"Nice"
"Rate my dick"
"Do you like furries?"
"I'm horny"
"You got a boyfriend?"
"Can I see ur tits?"
"Do you masturbate?"
"Y tho lol"
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overheard two guys chatting yesterday, normal guy stuff, sports/beer, that kind of nonsense, a girl turned up and the more chatty (and handsome) one became really crude, really poor language and really nasty stories (unclogging ex girlfriend's toilet etc) it was pretty odd. The girl seemed to be lapping it up though.
Always amazes me what good looking people can get away with that the rest of us never would!
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When someone brings up politics out of the blue, especially with the assumption that "any reasonable person" would automatically agree with them.
Whether it's politics I disagree with or agree with, I don't want to hear it if I just met you. And if you push it, I'm going to argue with you and make you look like an idiot, even if I actually agree with your point.
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Undue Criticism even in jest
Distraught at not having something in common case and point:
"EVERYONE LIKES GAME OF THRONES, How can you not like GOT?"
ME: I watched one episode and didn't care dir the injustice of it all.
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When people sound unintelligent, uneducated, unsophisticated, or ghetto.
When I realize I am dealing with a pretty face with no substance, I come to the conclusion that she is one day going to be old, ugly, possibly fat, AND STILL STUPID!
Looks are secondary to intelligence. Looks fade over time, but I cannot hang out with someone who makes no effort to become more intelligent or better. 50 to 80 years of spending my life with an idiot is not ideal for me. -
Talking about your ex
Comparison to the same sex or opposite
A big red flag is... negative talking!
I can't think of anymore at this time but that is what I wouldn't want to hear if I was on a date with a guy. just saying it would be a total turn off for me on a first date and all together. -
I don't like discussing politics, unless I'm with likeminded friends. Even if I agree with someone's politics, it gets boring to the point that several minutes of discussion is sufficient.
Otherwise: kids, dogs, and cats all bore me to death:
"Boo Boo Kitty coughed up a furball this morning."
"I need another drink."
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If someone wants to have a conversation it should not be over SMS. Simple Message Service is for things like, "I'm at the restaurant." Or "Hey can I call?" Start sending me pics and stories of your kids or what you're eating for lunch and you're history.
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Politics. I know nothing about em nor do I care. I was speaking with one guy and his job was government based security sum like that and allllll he spoke about was politics. I listened because that's what he does or interested in but I hardly had any feedback.
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I think for me, the biggest conversation killer is when you start bringing in religion, beliefs and politics into the mix and start rambling about it. Maybe it's because I don't consider myself as a very religious or political person and I never consider that when I'm looking for a potential partner, but for me, that's when the conversation starts getting stale.
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For me the conversation killer is when I realize that only small talk is being done, no useful talk is there, no beneficial talk is there. Nothing contributing is there or beneficial is there.
If this is there, then I just go and make some excuse to get out from there.
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When woman start a conversation asking about what type of job I do.
For me that's totally unimportant when you get to know someone for the purpose of finding love and it raises red flags inmedietly because it gives me the feeling that they are after money instead of love
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