Not being interested in the conversation is a conversation killer but im not a person that needs to talk to someone about something. I can be perfectly fine with just sitting in silence with them, no need to have pointless small talk if we dont want to just to avoid awkward silence.
Aw that sounds cute. It's hard to find someone who can sit in silence and feel comfortable. I can picture you making the best out of any situation which is rare since people need instant gratification since they're used to life being that way.
Yeah I can have a good time with someone doing just about anything. We can just sit and watch tv and occasionally talk and ill be perfectly fine with it. I dont need to be doing some crazy activity to have fun.
But I personally don't want to deal with it. It's not that I do not have compassion, but it is exhausting and mentally draining. One of my ex has it and to be honest, it put a gap between us. Probably because of me, but I tried listening, offering to accompany her to therapy and other options - all rejected and once the "depression phase" ends, we fight because "I have not done enough". Wash, rinse, repeat.
I get it. I’m just saying when a person opens up very sensitive and personal issues to you, they trust you enough. Nobody needs to deal with that if they can’t handle that and being honest up front with them will be much appreciated.
Yes true. That experience added a new "red flag" on my list. I've had people tell me that I am the red flag for not dealing with it. But in all honesty, I think it's not for everybody to deal with - and that's ok.
When we are 25 and they are making jokes and memes that are clearly from the fresh new age of high schoolers its like we are 7 YEARS past that life grow the hell up mate.
@siseñor no. feminism period. it was always the same. feminism never fought for equality. they only ever fought for "more rights for women". even historically. but that's a whole can of worms that goes really deep into history and sociology. i really wanna avoid having to elaborate on all this. cause the mainstream opinions about feminism are just plain wrong for the most part.
and even historically, feminism fought in favor of "very few women" and actually against what most women wanted and considered fair even at their respective time periods.
very few women are still women. women don't have to vote, but it's important that they are able to if they so desire. the power of choice and free will right?
@siseñor feminists claim that they were the reason women got the right to vote. Tho that is not true. Women did not want the right to vote. Because the right to vote was attached to the obligation to join military service (conscription) and bucket duty (a sort of civil fire fighters). Those were dangerous jobs that people would regularly die in and in these times women didn't wanna do those jobs. So they were granted an exception from those obligations at the price of their right to vote. On top of that, women did not usually work. Not because they were oppressed. But simply cause it was preferred by them not to work and instead to the chores and child raising which were legit full time jobs at the time without the technology we had today. Also most jobs would need lots of physical strength which men naturally had more of. So that Setup was a sort of mutual societal agreement, not patriarchy as feminists like to frame it. And in those days, politics was mostly about regulation of labour stuff, which women had no part in anyway and therefore no interest in.
As the times changed, conscription went away, house work got reduced by technology and all these things, society mutually developed into agreeing women should be able to vote. It wasn't some glorious fight that wouldn't have been won without feminists.
As genericname85 was saying, most men (white, non-land-owning) got the right to vote in 1918 with the provision that they must register with Selective Service, making men 18-45 years old eligible to be drafted into the military as well as the fire brigade bucket system. Women were given the right to vote without this or any other provision. Yet we're considered to have an equal vote as men and women despite the responsibilities being all too real for one group and non-existent for the other. Despite arguing for 'equal' voting rights to men, women of the day were well aware of this inequality in the rights they argued for, but accepted them anyway.
A hundred years later and not much has changed. Today these rights are associated with federal benefits (scholarships, housing, jobs, programs), and that when men turn 18 they must register with SS and be on the hook as draft-eligible until they're 25. They are denied these benefits if they do not register. Women turn 18 and receive these same benefits automatically.
Arguing feminism has always been about equality as per the definition, especially when done so adamantly, despite how this case - one of the most important in US history - proves in its obviousness the exact opposite dating back a hundred years, only reinforces negative views toward feminism and those who continue adhering to that belief.
People's political beliefs. I want to like you, and you probably don't have a PhD in Poli Sci. or Economics, or have an extensive background in political commentary. I'm sure you've given your positions a great deal of thought, I truly am. But, and I say this very respectfully; I just don't care what you think.
When someone let's me know by thier actions they're just not interested in talking. I can talk to anyone about pretty much anything. I'm not going to analyze why someone did or didn't say something without a reason to. And it's NO ONE'S job to "entertain" another person.
She gets lazy texting back only one or two words making it difficult for me to continue the conversation. Tries to tell me how I should use my money in investments (none of her business). Keeps asking and bringing up my exes over and over. She's so insecure about her body and keeps bringing it up. She's rude to me. Insults me and plays it off that it was a "joke". Takes waaaay too long to respond back. More then a day for me is a red flag conversation killer.
Yeah, a poke followed by "I was just kidding. Jeez." is one I agree with. I especially dislike when politicians write blatantly-discriminatory legislature based on sex or race and then pass it off as satire or an equalizer for something they feel is unfair upon getting rightfully roasted for it. For example, in 2020 England, when a woman was killed on the street, a woman from the Green Party suggested a six pm curfew for all men so women could be safe at night. The backlash came and she tried to say she wasn't serious and was only trying to make a point. Well, when a suggestion is written and put through proper channels as possible legislature to be voted on, it's not a joke nor just a point to be made.
When someone starts a conversation (gender/relationship status don't matter.) and they don't have a clear plan of what they're going to bring up first. It really makes the conversation boring to begin with.
I also hate it when you act interested in one conversation. And then suddenly start acting uninterested 2 days later. This seems especially common in women, as men tend to keep a consistent attitude whilst conversating with someone.
A non mutual communication: women say they want interesting guys who can hold a conversation but a lot of them can’t themselves a lot of women today just follow trends and don’t even really know themselves being pretty only gets you so far a lot of women are boring
Well one thing that is a conversation killer for me,... provided if this at all does count,... is if she has a face and a body of an instagram or a fitness model, but she has a pretentious attitude and personality. I have met a few ladies like that, and I'm no where near attracted to that.
In my honest opinion, coldness and indifference are really a conversation killer. If a person doesn’t answer with interest or with questions, I think the conversation will end soon.
As far as emails are concerned, I'll write two or three paragraphs and the other person responds with three or four words, or at the most, one short sentence. It goes on and on like this and I lose interest.
When the other person isn't trying to find something you're both interested in. They either just stare at you and nod their head a lot or ramble about themselves or some bullshit that doesn't make a back and forth conversation.
Phones - from constantly checking to nearly full-blown immersion while your trying to have a conversation. This behavior is to me insulting and in itself literally kills the conversation because they're paying more attention to something else. Like trying to talk to someone while they're playing video games.
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Not being interested in the conversation is a conversation killer but im not a person that needs to talk to someone about something. I can be perfectly fine with just sitting in silence with them, no need to have pointless small talk if we dont want to just to avoid awkward silence.
Aw that sounds cute. It's hard to find someone who can sit in silence and feel comfortable. I can picture you making the best out of any situation which is rare since people need instant gratification since they're used to life being that way.
Yeah I can have a good time with someone doing just about anything. We can just sit and watch tv and occasionally talk and ill be perfectly fine with it. I dont need to be doing some crazy activity to have fun.
List of demands.
List of expectations.
Religion is fine, trying to convert me is not.
Short replies. "K" "Haha" "omg that's funny".
When you say you have depression.
Depression is too personal and too sensitive to talk about. So if she tells you that, she trusts you enough…
But I personally don't want to deal with it. It's not that I do not have compassion, but it is exhausting and mentally draining.
One of my ex has it and to be honest, it put a gap between us. Probably because of me, but I tried listening, offering to accompany her to therapy and other options - all rejected and once the "depression phase" ends, we fight because "I have not done enough". Wash, rinse, repeat.
I get it. I’m just saying when a person opens up very sensitive and personal issues to you, they trust you enough. Nobody needs to deal with that if they can’t handle that and being honest up front with them will be much appreciated.
Yes true.
That experience added a new "red flag" on my list.
I've had people tell me that I am the red flag for not dealing with it. But in all honesty, I think it's not for everybody to deal with - and that's ok.
Exactly. It’s like a preview. Thanks for telling me you have issues and I have issues with that. Case closed. Let’s move along. 😃
When we are 25 and they are making jokes and memes that are clearly from the fresh new age of high schoolers its like we are 7 YEARS past that life grow the hell up mate.
You don’t like memes?
@pinay_akoThere is a difference between funny memes and then there's memes that feel like a 8 year old made them.
🤣 ok
"i'm a feminist". because that for me opens a can of worms i don't wanna get into. and it makes me assume the person is stupid and/ or ignorant.
i am in favor of equal rights and equal opportunity and against discrimination and tyranny... therefore i'm against feminism.
*modern feminism
@siseñor no. feminism period. it was always the same. feminism never fought for equality. they only ever fought for "more rights for women". even historically. but that's a whole can of worms that goes really deep into history and sociology. i really wanna avoid having to elaborate on all this. cause the mainstream opinions about feminism are just plain wrong for the most part.
and even historically, feminism fought in favor of "very few women" and actually against what most women wanted and considered fair even at their respective time periods.
oh yeah, conversation killer and that. they didn't fight for 'more rights for women than men' either though. are you strawmanning?
very few women are still women. women don't have to vote, but it's important that they are able to if they so desire. the power of choice and free will right?
@siseñor you know what conscription and bucket duty is?
tbf no, what is it?
@siseñor feminists claim that they were the reason women got the right to vote. Tho that is not true. Women did not want the right to vote. Because the right to vote was attached to the obligation to join military service (conscription) and bucket duty (a sort of civil fire fighters). Those were dangerous jobs that people would regularly die in and in these times women didn't wanna do those jobs. So they were granted an exception from those obligations at the price of their right to vote. On top of that, women did not usually work. Not because they were oppressed. But simply cause it was preferred by them not to work and instead to the chores and child raising which were legit full time jobs at the time without the technology we had today. Also most jobs would need lots of physical strength which men naturally had more of. So that Setup was a sort of mutual societal agreement, not patriarchy as feminists like to frame it. And in those days, politics was mostly about regulation of labour stuff, which women had no part in anyway and therefore no interest in.
As the times changed, conscription went away, house work got reduced by technology and all these things, society mutually developed into agreeing women should be able to vote. It wasn't some glorious fight that wouldn't have been won without feminists.
Feminists only claim these victories for themself in hindsight to legitimate their movement.
As genericname85 was saying, most men (white, non-land-owning) got the right to vote in 1918 with the provision that they must register with Selective Service, making men 18-45 years old eligible to be drafted into the military as well as the fire brigade bucket system. Women were given the right to vote without this or any other provision. Yet we're considered to have an equal vote as men and women despite the responsibilities being all too real for one group and non-existent for the other. Despite arguing for 'equal' voting rights to men, women of the day were well aware of this inequality in the rights they argued for, but accepted them anyway.
A hundred years later and not much has changed. Today these rights are associated with federal benefits (scholarships, housing, jobs, programs), and that when men turn 18 they must register with SS and be on the hook as draft-eligible until they're 25. They are denied these benefits if they do not register. Women turn 18 and receive these same benefits automatically.
Arguing feminism has always been about equality as per the definition, especially when done so adamantly, despite how this case - one of the most important in US history - proves in its obviousness the exact opposite dating back a hundred years, only reinforces negative views toward feminism and those who continue adhering to that belief.
People's political beliefs. I want to like you, and you probably don't have a PhD in Poli Sci. or Economics, or have an extensive background in political commentary. I'm sure you've given your positions a great deal of thought, I truly am. But, and I say this very respectfully; I just don't care what you think.
When someone let's me know by thier actions they're just not interested in talking. I can talk to anyone about pretty much anything. I'm not going to analyze why someone did or didn't say something without a reason to. And it's NO ONE'S job to "entertain" another person.
List of requirements. This isn't a job application. I get to each their own preferences but if your list is longer than my forearm I'm out.
Facts! 👏
She gets lazy texting back only one or two words making it difficult for me to continue the conversation. Tries to tell me how I should use my money in investments (none of her business). Keeps asking and bringing up my exes over and over. She's so insecure about her body and keeps bringing it up. She's rude to me. Insults me and plays it off that it was a "joke". Takes waaaay too long to respond back. More then a day for me is a red flag conversation killer.
Yeah, a poke followed by "I was just kidding. Jeez." is one I agree with. I especially dislike when politicians write blatantly-discriminatory legislature based on sex or race and then pass it off as satire or an equalizer for something they feel is unfair upon getting rightfully roasted for it. For example, in 2020 England, when a woman was killed on the street, a woman from the Green Party suggested a six pm curfew for all men so women could be safe at night. The backlash came and she tried to say she wasn't serious and was only trying to make a point. Well, when a suggestion is written and put through proper channels as possible legislature to be voted on, it's not a joke nor just a point to be made.
When someone starts a conversation (gender/relationship status don't matter.) and they don't have a clear plan of what they're going to bring up first. It really makes the conversation boring to begin with.
I also hate it when you act interested in one conversation. And then suddenly start acting uninterested 2 days later. This seems especially common in women, as men tend to keep a consistent attitude whilst conversating with someone.
The moment they bring up smoking, drinking or all how many people they pulled (into bed)
Or eating ass...😁
@spartan55 anal anything 💀
🤣 yea I just say good for you 😝… 😒
I dont say “good for you.” I go, “well im gonna go now.” And they get mad but its whatever haha
I’m being sarcastic 😂 to them 😒
I know lol. But some won't catch on haha
That’s on them. I’m turned off anyways 😂 idc
Are you saved?
I’m on a cleansing fast.
It was so much better when Trump was President.
Saved from?
Usually it means “Are you saved from hell by your belief in Jesus?”
Oh ya that 😆
A non mutual communication: women say they want interesting guys who can hold a conversation but a lot of them can’t themselves a lot of women today just follow trends and don’t even really know themselves being pretty only gets you so far a lot of women are boring
When they just make me feel like they're not interested in the conversation.
Especially if it's just with those curt short answers and such.
Or if they don't do their part to keep it alive.
Yes!! Especially to the last one. I know what that feels like.
When all he can talk about are his Exes, yes exes, video games, cars, sports, and himself...
when i ask questions, he answers and loves the attention, but i get NOTHING in return back, even when i ask if he wants to know what i think.
What do you like talking about then?
Well one thing that is a conversation killer for me,... provided if this at all does count,... is if she has a face and a body of an instagram or a fitness model, but she has a pretentious attitude and personality. I have met a few ladies like that, and I'm no where near attracted to that.
In my honest opinion, coldness and indifference are really a conversation killer. If a person doesn’t answer with interest or with questions, I think the conversation will end soon.
As far as emails are concerned, I'll write two or three paragraphs and the other person responds with three or four words, or at the most, one short sentence. It goes on and on like this and I lose interest.
When the other person isn't trying to find something you're both interested in. They either just stare at you and nod their head a lot or ramble about themselves or some bullshit that doesn't make a back and forth conversation.
When a woman starts enquiring how much you make
Wowwwww
Phones - from constantly checking to nearly full-blown immersion while your trying to have a conversation. This behavior is to me insulting and in itself literally kills the conversation because they're paying more attention to something else. Like trying to talk to someone while they're playing video games.