Why are so many girls when in the nightclubs so ruthlessly mean and shatter the confidence of some great genuine guys?

[Anonymous]

If he's that weak, he deserves to be crushed

It's time for girls to be in power

The type of girls who go to clubs are generally meaner

Girls are generally unaware of how they affect a guys mental health

Something else (comment below)

[Diodoro]

a lot of girls vomit their emotions on the surrounding environment because they don't cope well in life.

I don't know why this one girl stands out in my mind. I was not looking at this girl. Not trying to talk to this girl. No intention of doing anything with this girl and when she came into my field of vision wasn't even my type.

But the bar was packed and finding an opening to talk to a bartender took effort. I stood probably about 2 feet behind her and 6-10 inches to the left, looking to get a bartender.

She turns around. Sees me. I catch her looking for a moment so I look back and she immediately just have this look if disgust like "oh my God, why is this guy looking at me? Another one?". Just wore it so plainly on her face.

No idea if I wore my emotions in my expression at the time, but in my head I'm like girl you're not even cute enough to qualify. Get out of my face lol. But just that type of reaction when I wasn't even looking to her. Just existed in her environment. I could only imagine what some guys went through trying to talk to her or girls like her.

Never met a girl like that since. But that's out there. Some people are just shitty and that's that. They'll have all the excuses in the world to justify the shitty behavior but that's not for you to do with. Let her be miserable elsewhere

[Chthou95]

Depends how you look really. If you're unattractive, you're going to be considered annoying or harassing even though you're probably not but they still treat you like shit. But if you're a good looking dude (Chad) you'll receive positive attention from women. Women say they don't want to be bothered but really just depends on the person that's approaching them

[Asker]

The odds are def in the good looking guys' favor but even those guys are treated ruthlessly by some girls. Some girls just have a particular type. I just think there's a much better way for girls to take on guys who approach them for both the guys' and girls' sakes

[Chthou95]

There's a thing called the Halo effect. People are perceived to have certain traits due to their looks. Good looking men because they're attractive are perceived to have positive traits while ugly men are considered to have negative traits. If a good looking gets mean or negative reaction, 9/10 times it's his fault for doing something wrong

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the person.
But the majority of times I've been with friends, we have been there just to dance. Had a couple of people in clubs before come up to me and I've politly declined, but no was not a reasonable response so yeah...
I know not everyone is like that, but myself and many girls I know really don't want to be hit on in a club, it is flattering but it is load and we want to hang with our friends

[Flower7]

Maybe the nightclub isn’t the best place to try to meet a woman.

[Asker]

I already know it def isn't but I'm curious why do you think this happens?

[PhenomenalQueen]

As women, we’re always harassed and put in comfortable scenarios… That’s why a majority of us act aggressive when guys are hitting on us… Also, it’s very common now that men cannot take rejection and we’re put in very unsafe situations.. I’ve been stalked before for years due to rejecting a man, and it got really bad. I was in constant fear for my life. He was eventually arrested, but I still have to be vigilant. I know that not every guy is a creep, but sometimes we still have our guards up.

[Varanus]

Imagine you went somewhere to dance and have a good time with friends, but every time you went, there were like 30 people that interrupted you to try to sell you car insurance, some very insistently, and most with a really shitty policy. You might legit want insurance on your car, at some point, but that's not why you're there, and after a while it just gets really annoying. How long are you going to be polite and friendly before you're just tired of it?

[Asker]

I agree but why do these girls continue to go? Girls can go somewhere to dance and have a good time with friends elsewhere

[Varanus]

Why do we keep going to movie theaters when we just want to see movies? Girls can watch movies elsewhere.

Why do we keep going to restaurants when all we want is dinner? Girls can eat food elsewhere.

[Asker]

This would be a good argument if at movie theatres and restaurants you were interrupted 30 times to try to sell you car insurance with a really shitty policy every time you went but it's not like that at least not in NYC where I live. If you think it is like that, then I want to know why you keep going to theaters and restaurants?
I have to wonder what kinda place you live in if this happens in theaters and restaurants and why girls would still go to these places. I'd really like to know why. Since I'm in NYC, I've seen a lot of crazy stuff but what you're telling me just doesn't make sense to me.

[Asker]

Do you have an answer?

[Asker]

Please explain. I really wanna know

[Asker]

@varanus Please answer. I'm very curious.

[Varanus]

I have no idea how to dumb things down any further than I already have. You're literally arguing that leaving the house and going anywhere men exist is implicit consent to be harassed. If you actually think that's okay, I don't want to be within a thousand kilometers of you.

[Asker]

That's not what I'm asking.

I said that I agree with you but why do these girls continue to go? Girls can go somewhere to dance and have a good time with friends elsewhere

You argued:
Why do we keep going to movie theaters when we just want to see movies? Girls can watch movies elsewhere.
Why do we keep going to restaurants when all we want is dinner? Girls can eat food elsewhere.

Now, I'm saying,
This would be a good argument if at movie theatres and restaurants you were interrupted 30 times to try to sell you car insurance with a really shitty policy every time you went but it's not like that at least not in NYC where I live. If you think it is like that where you live, then I want to know what kind of area are you living in, and why do you keep going to theaters and restaurants? My guess is that it isn't like that where you live either, so I want to know, why keep going to nightclubs when you're well aware that this kind of harassment happens all the time?

[IncognitoBandito]

Its a nightclub, you're not gonna find the highest class of women there.

[Anonymous]

Probably mean because they are not there to pick up guys, they are there to have fun with each other so unless you’re really good looking you don’t have a chance

[JustiReno]

I’ve never been crushed by some broad I just said hey to wtf?

[Asker]

I haven't either, but this isn't about us. This is about other guys who don't have the same mental strength.

[JustiReno]

Then he should talk to his pops about it

[Asker]

What if he doesn't have any parents to go to?

[JustiReno]

He should go to the police station and talk to them, someone will probably take him out for coffee

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s called a shit test.

[Asker]

So how do you pass

[BarryLiverstone]

Being yourself. Don’t act desperate or become upset by what she says. Stay calm, make a joke, or challenge her back. Or just turn around and walk away.

[BarryLiverstone]

Think of it this way. If she can shatter your confidence in 3 minutes then you don’t really feel confident. There will be much tougher situations in life, so you pass by proving the little shit test isn’t affecting how you feel about yourself

[L101idk]

This is actually quite true😂

[Anonymous]

Because the club isn't the place to find quality women.

[Anonymous]

All is fair at a night club. That’s where degenerates go

[MountAverage]

Maybe stop bothering them?