Even if they want it or not, at times that desperation comes out from their mind. Yes, I completely agree with you that it’s a normal human desire. However, the society just thinks it’s so weird and unattractive. This is not the every single person’s opinion. Although people just find it uneasy when someone is desperate for them. Similar issue is also happening with my friend. She has asked her therapist about it and was told to not just look desperate as of course “it is unattractive.” Honestly, it’s pretty unfair since when multiple people thinks this way, the others also get influenced and additionally think desperations are “unattractive.”
I think what people tend to do is call certain behaviours desperate even when they really aren't. Like how many times has a woman been called desperate for showing interest in a guy? How often do women give off disinterested signals so that she doesn't come across as desperate or needy? We equate the small act of showing interest with desperation and now everyone is afraid to do it. Now that girl who's playing hard to get succeeded in not looking desperate but the guy she's ignoring now feels rejected and undesirable. So while women shouldn't be desperate for a guy, we should be very careful about labeling natural behaviours of interest as desperate so that we don't dissuade women from showing interest in guys. It'd make life easier on everyone.
Wish I knew, there are many men experiencing the same. I suppose it comes down to whether the person you're desperate for is interested in you. I'd love to find out that someone I liked desperately wanted to be with me as I'd likely end up feeling the same and matching their energy.
In personal opinion, it just isn't a very modest thing to do. No one should be desperate over anyone, but I believe that there's a certain level of dignity women should have. Again that's only ME, not judging anyone else, we're all our own people. I personally just wouldn't do it
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Think of a job interview: you want to appear confident, but not cocky; eager, but not desperate; and tall, but not short. It's kind of like that. Coming across as desperate makes it look like you can't find someone under normal circumstances; that there's something wrong with you.
No, it really SHOULDN'T be that way, but it's how things are.
Men don’t like women who act desperate because the women look too needy. They find confident women more attractive. It’s good to show interest, but not to the point where you appear desperate for attention and live. Them them come looking for you, not vice versa.
Everyone wants love and attention.
However you can get those things by being the right amount of confident.
By showing that you are desperate you will only make people get bored of you/find ways to manipulate you no matter your gender.
Desperation is NOT a good look.
It's natural to desire to love, care, and attention. The problem is that when women are desperate, they will attract the men who want to take advantage and control them. These women will not attract men who want to love, care, and give them attention.
I don't mean to say this so rudely & bluntly,... but then again when a guy acts all desperate for a woman,... you ladies very swiftly get creeped out all the time and run for the hills.
but if it's a guy who is your type,... guarantee it... you'll be all over him no problem.
Because Desperation brings on spontaneity and spontaneity can lead to quicksand by ending up with the wrong guy.
It's fine to want love and attention. But act classy, not desperate.
Being desperate just puts one in a negative position, no one wants to be with a clingy, desperate, low self-esteem person.
don't be desperate. it's fine to have needs but desperation is very noticeable on people and very unattractive
Being desperate would make the guy question WHY? she is desperate when she has a platoon of fuckboys available on dating apps.
However its worth noting that clearly communicating romantical interest instead of wallflowering is NOT being desperate.
u nobody should be desperate for anything... period
SHOULD,. though
Everyone wants to be desired and loved by someone they care for but being desperate brings the worst out of people and makes you act out of character.
I think it's a turn on for men to have beautiful desperate women. But they wouldn't date them because they want to be the best breeder.
Because if the queen gets desperate, her whole respect and army she's made crumbles.
u Because It can come off as clingy and that can be a turnoff
the world and our families have constantly told me to do the seeking so its unusual for a women to do it
Because girls have always more options in their hand than guys... That's why they aren't desperate. There are few guys who have more options for girls are not desperate more than any girls.
When you are desperate in life regarding anything you usually end up getting the short end of the stick.
You can have all of those things without desperation. That is what a healthy relationship is.
I think nowadays it becomes more and more liberal.
But anyway, every party plays own role - it's in our genes for ages.
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