Why do people shame you for liking attention?

Question

Ok I’m a big attention whore I can admit but why is this always viewed as something to shame me or others? Why is liking attention a bad thing? It’s nice to be noticed positively you know.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Honestly @stormmistress I don't have a problem with you being an attention whore, personally. Because I neve seen you trying to act like your not, and I think your pretty honest about it. You posts are entertaining, even if slightly eccentric at times or overly sensational and excessively sexual in nature. But its all good fun to me. But in general attention whores for most part try to act like they are not attention whores, when it so obvious they are only looking for attention. So they get super defensive when try to imply they are full of crap and only wanting attention. Or are just acting like teases for the attention.  But you have been always seemed to embraces the need for attention and been pretty upfront and honest about it... so its all good to me.

nitsuj86 · Accepted Answer

I think everyone likes attention. Liking it too much can be an issue when it effects others around you.

You might like the attention you get from other men online or when you dress a certain way in public. Your boyfriend might feel differently.

You might like the attention you get when you are injured. If you like it too much to the point where you are faking illnesses and things like that. Basically lying to get that attention you crave. That can also be an issue.

Not to mention, you might attract attention that you don't like. If you are doing things to attract attention to yourself, and in the process attract negative attention, then you can't really blame others for that.

Basically, it's not an issue, until it's an issue.

DermalPunch · Accepted Answer

Because it is a toxic personality trait often linked with Cluster B personality disorders whose behaviour is harmful to people who come into contact with them.

It also shows a lack of substance on the attention seeker. An empty vessel that can never be filled. In a word, it is off putting and draining to deal with. Not to mention obnoxious.

Now, people need attention. But there is a limit and "attention whore" generally goes into the distasteful area of attention seeking.

And anyway, one should command attention not demand it.

FlowerChild94 · Accepted Answer

Exactly!!! We all want attention you just admit it. Funny because people say people who want attention are never reciprocating but I’m the opposite I give tons of compliments and people take it negatively because they see it as “attention seeking” or begging for validation. So I guess you can’t win with attention in this society.

Datboi65 · Answer

Because you are willing to compromize your values to seek attention, even if you won't admit that. Attention seekers like to get attention any way they can, even if sabotaging other people in the process is a collateral. They would start fights and arguments, make a scene, lie about shit, distract people that don't want to be distracted and just disrupt the flow of things JUST so that they can be NOTICED.

I'm a very lowkey person in real life, and I like it that way. I blend in with my environment. I carefully select my friend circle, and I don't worry about shit that isn't my business. If more people did that, the world would certainly be a better place.

ManOnFire · Answer

So your last question was asking us do you think a woman dresses for attention, as if you're implying that a woman is not doing that. And now you're asking us why do people shame you for liking attention. So which one is it?: are you dressing for attention but denying it, which would prove some of us right? Or are you really loving it and this question alludes to the truth of it?

Regardless, I think having a love for attention is more wrong than right. Enjoying some occasional attention from people, and even wanting attention from your own lover/spouse is not wrong. But being an attention whore like all the shallow chicks on social media who just want to be seen while they ignore everyone else? Is pretty messed up. A voracious need for attention is no less worse to me than greed. Both are rooted in selfishness. Selfishness is one of humanity's biggest vices and sins.

Bob92220 · Answer

It seems to me that liking attention is natural for people. I see both men and women liking attention - the muscular guy who wears a t-shirt with no sleeves and the girl who dresses provocatively. When I was in the military we had people we called, "Rank Happy." They shoved their rank down your throat. When talking to you they would shove their shoulder, which had the rank on it, in your face.

People who like attention are not an issue but when a person abuses whatever they have to get attention is an issue.

Guy13 · Answer

Who does that? someone who is stupid and you don't want to be with. Attention-seeking from a woman to an individual guy is USUALLY an expression of interest or love.
--Now, i do know some guys, in very serious relationship, where both girl and guy enjoy watching her get attention if left alone for 10 minutes. They are super secure though... so it seems more like a voyeur thing. It's fun gong out with them..."How many makers do you think she'll get from that guy?"-Seen him do a "there you are... I couldn't find you... hope it's not to late to meet and speak... and leave 40.00 with the guy she was talking too. It works for them...

TwiNshichamp1 · Answer

Hahahaha attention seekers are not cool. If you get attention one or two it's enough why always looking for an attention?
Yes you cute people already told you that before and you know.
Yes you gorgeous and people told you that you definitely know that.

Yes you're an amazing woman a dream to everyman and you know that why wanting any more attention again?

Sometimes is a physiological problem. Feeling lonely inside can cause that.
I have this problem too, and I try to kill it now. Sometimes being lonely and feeling lonely can make someone wants an attention.

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

HA! Love it! Looking at your profile image looks like you totally deserve all the hard earned attention you can get.

Side note: I am a clean freak and I never complain. Ok I do my best not to and getting better at it. I feel really good when others thank me though. SO its nice to get attention for the effort I put in for others.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

It isn't that they are shaming you for liking attention. It is that you are beautiful and unattainable. Women might be jealous of you. But the men want access to sex.

So it is always about control. They are constantly trying to figure out how to control you. And they only way they know how is to lower your self-esteem and confidence. So you are a slut, or attention seeking whore or whatever insult they can think up to keep you inline.

That's what it has always been about.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Scientifically 😆, because attention seeking behaviors are OFTEN associated with mental disorders such as narcissismPD and histrionic personality disorder.

In a normally functioning society, those people may not contribute to build up the society and instead may tear it down and make people feel bad.

It is effin annoying to some people.

Anonymous · Answer

Well at least your honest but this where you piss people off when it comes to “wanting” attention:

1. You dress provocatively and a man you find unattractive approaches you and says “hi”. You think it’s okay to label him a creep because he can’t read your mind.

2. You lead guys on and friéndzone them because although you don’t like them you love the attention. You have no respect for their effort, time, heart, money, etc.

3. You post suggestive pics on social media and still expect to be respected or taken seriously when it comes to professional jobs and interactions.

Now I have no idea if you are none of the above, all of the above or some of the above. But if you are any of the above then yes I do have a problem with you “loving attention” without considering what it costs other people and/or yourself.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Just because someone can articulate (talk about) their personality flaws does not make those flaws any less annoying. And someone always trying to be the center of attention / steal other peoples attention for themselves is annoying AF! It is irrelevant whether they admit it or not… in fact if they do this deliberately and shake it off like “so what, bitch at least I admit my flaws,” that makes it even worse!

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I think it can be unhealthy if your doing it to feel more confident about yourself. It really depends on how you go about it. I'm a confident person so some might say I like attention. I think a lot of people mix up confidence with wanting attention honestly. There's a difference in my opinion.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It’s the internet and it’s a thing that people will try and shaming is really common.

You also get it in the real world where girls do that individuality thing.

Try dating a goth or similar and see how much shit they get and shamed.

A lot of people are basically arseholes and will have a go at anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think most people shame women just for enjoying attention. But there are some instances when it is a problem.

One is just being dishonest about it. A LOT of women dress in certain ways to attract male attention and then claim that's not what they are doing. Sorry, but we all know that's not true and denying it is kind of silly.

Then there are also a lot of women who do it and then complain about the attention they get. Huh? That is obviously shame worthy.

And lastly, and this is sort of related to the last one... a lot of women dress in ways that clearly are intended to sexualize and objectify themselves, and then they claim they are oppressed because they are sexualized and objectified. This is the ultimate form of dishonesty and it really undermines respect for women right now.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Because attention seeking can blur lines into them been difficult person. But there is nothing wrong with liking attention. Just like clinginess, again just clinginess can blur lines into bad things.
It's all about how much. But a lot of people if more conservative will just shame for the sake of it, jealously and ignorance that just be.
Nothing wrong with seeking it longs if you aren't hurting anyone, and if someone gets annoyed by it they should mind their own business.

DoctorSex · Answer

Most people are jealous because they can't gather attention.
It's also what you do with that attention. If you use it to uplift others, you'll become a great human, if you use it to uplift yourself, you'll slowly become a horrible human using quotes from philosophers about , "loving yourself' as a way to justify your rotten behaviour.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Generally, being preoccupied with the attentions of others is correlated to a number of mental illnesses. The piercing questions have more to do with how you behave when you’re not receiving the attention you crave. Particularly when denied. If it’s destructive, self-destructive or antisocial, it’s time to seek help. Otherwise maybe find a career in performing arts. Ell oh ell!

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

It can be annoying to be around an attention seeker. Embarrassing at times. It can be detramental if it's drawing unwanted attention to yourself due to association. I've seen it and experienced it, harm relationships when one partner seems to value the disrespectful attention of lust seekers over the boundaries of their partner.

It also depends on the type of attention. There are types of attention one works to obtain that are respectable... and then there's the type that's not.

lauraanne02 · Answer

They're jealous of how insanely attractive I am 😌😂

Freyke · Answer

I respect those who admit and own up to it, but I look down on those who do not.
There was one not too long ago who posted and admitted to it and... respect to that girl. But those who don't but keep posting. Does this bra fit? But the bra is too small to be extra tight or revealing and all that. That is a bit annoying.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Different cultures have different attitudes towards seeking attention. Given a choice I would like to live in a society with American rights and freedoms but a more Japanese tolerance of introverts. I realize they are fundamentally incompatible, but still.

Crafteroon · Answer

There is a limit to how much attention each person has. So in a world where Russia bombs schools and malls, where women's rights get trampled by morons, where China castrates Muslims in concentration camps, and Nestle is allowed to function despite child labor being one of their lesser atrocities, can you tell me how much attention do you deserve compared to these and other disasters? If you want to make it about you, you should tolerate other people talking shit about you.

Marianna546 · Answer

Well i post my photos because i am cute but some people think i do this for attention.. who cares? lol

moonpie89 · Answer

I'm the same kind of whore. Should we make a group?

Anonymous · Answer

It's not inherently bad to like getting attention. Lots of people do and there are healthy ways to get it. But it becomes a problem if/when someone becomes toxic about how they seek attention and how they handle it when they get it. I see a lot of girls who dress very provocatively and then bash guys when they get the attention they were seeking, or worse yet they complain about being over sexualized by men. That is in my opinion an example of toxic femininity.

loveslongnails · Answer

Everyone likes some attention. That's not a bad thing. But if you're an attention "whore", or someone who always tries to monopolize a conversation, or makes everything all about you, then you're out of line. Personally, I don't find you to be that way :)

litty · Answer

What do you mean by noticed positively? Making a fundraiser or paying someone a compliment is positive attention.

What's not positive is when someone does something outrageous to say "look at me! Look what I can do!" Some actions can hurt peoples feelings all so the attention seeking person's ego can feel more validated.

Vegasrunner · Answer

@stormmistress This is an excellent question. in my opinion it's the lengths people (usually women) go to get the attention. Also there's a bit of hypocrisy and confusion attached to it because women will then complain when they receive attention from men they dont like so there's no real way for a man to understand what to do.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

It actually depends on how you are earning attention. If you are acting all cringe then that's weird. Most people do this only. If you want attention then you will do weird acts only. If you want excellence then you can get all positive attention.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Because you're a slut dragon! Slut!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

You ARE allowed to crave attention, just I am allowed to find it sickly and off putting.  Our views need never conflict however because I wouldn't shame you for it, merely avoid you when you did it.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

It's really just annoying. Since most people when getting attention have to do things to get the attention that is really annoying. Most people don't even care if the attention they get is negative they just like attention.

69Bruh69 · Answer

Ok, this is a tough one
I have nothing wrong with the idea of wanting attention, it is part of human anatomy and evolution, but for me it is the way people go about it
Some push others away to rise for popularity, and I assure you nobody like that type of person, but if you are nice to everyone and just like attention I have no problem

Gghnd · Answer

I can understand why they get annoyed because “attention whores” are extremely unlikeable and annoying to be around. They embarrass themselves without realizing it and have a complex like they deserve so much. When I’m reality they’re simply just basic humans that are missing something in themselves so they need other peoples attention to help fill a void. Hope this helped!

Pinay_ako · Answer

If you enjoy attention, good for you. But asking for it for the wrong reasons, is not. But if it’s positive feedback because you’re doing it right, who cares?

AltGirl20 · Answer

Yeah, I was worried about this.. now I'm more comfortable with the attention.. pretty sure it was the boobs, but still can be nice lol

annabananna · Answer

We all need some attention since we are social creatures but it’s when you need excessive attention that can be off putting since the need for too much is unhealthy.

Prof_Don · Answer

In itself, I see nothing wrong with liking to receive attention! I have a high attention threshold too so I totally understand where you're coming from. :-P

Honesttguy · Answer

Liking attentions is different than seeking it. Seeking attention is annoying to others around so they throw rocks at it to stop.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

It's just annoying and exhausting. It's like having a little kid scream "look at me, look at me" all day. Every person needs attention, we all get that. But by and large most adults have grow past needing constant affirmation thankfully.

bootieclapper9000 · Answer

nothing wrong with liking attention  but women have a tendency to make it their value  eventually attention will dry up and you will devalue yourself  cause its all the women had

JosyJosy · Answer

It's only a problem if you need the attention to feel good about yourself.

JSmuve · Answer

Because you like the attention, not the person, which means you're using them for selfish gain with disregard towards their feelings.

spartan55 · Answer

It gets to exhausting at a certain point, then just flat out annoying.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's just a question of degree. To what extent are you willing to go in order to get attention? It's just exhausting to be around.

Wubs3000 · Answer

Everyone likes attention but if you start being disingenuous and doing things just for attention you seem really fake

driven159 · Answer

because attention getters are all about themselves and had no time for other people and we can all see that not a turn on

motownplayer2000 · Answer

To a certain extent we all are. But it’s those that go above and beyond that have the biggest problem. If you crave it, or need it to function throughout your day, you need to seek help

fonduegirl · Answer

Because people estimate you'd do anything to guarantee your spotlight

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because it doesn't contribute to the GDP, and it doesn't contribute to society, either.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Depends on how you get attention, like with your body or what. And if you are an attention hog others may be jealous because you're stealing it away from them.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it demonstrates that you’re an egotistical worm with low self-esteem who needs validation from others because of how empty you are. 👍

Adronicus · Answer

Kind of like a vampiric sponge, you want to soak it all in but what's being reciprocated?

Wild_princess · Answer

Attention seekeing can be dangerous sometimes... i saw it😐

Chthou95 · Answer

Hey if you're honest about it and don't bullshit people when they tell you are then by all means continue doing so. Just be honest with yourself and don't lie about being one

altdbob · Answer

I dont know but most likely you come off as a stuck up bitch is my guess

Xtendable · Answer

So true, but I guess some people will find it annoying if the behaviour is contrived, or designed to garner attention. Not me, though - I love performers

TacosRAwesome · Answer

For me it depends on how you go about getting attention.

OddBeMe · Answer

Yeah, i guess only if you're doing it where you shouldn't. I hate assholes who take calls in the quiet carriage.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Didn't you just fucking argue women don't dress for attention? Crazy hypocrit.

lofii · Answer

People are willing to do things out of character for attention. It's a mental illness. You should get help

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