What are the problems extremely educationally qualified or really beautiful girls face in their daily life?

[Anonymous]

Any assumptions that may work in a negative way or something...

Anything.

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[amber0x]

I hope I don't sound arrogant, but I have a master's degree, am very cerebral (read ~60 books per year according to my Goodreads account, study foreign languages because I like the challenge, and play 2 different instruments. I've also done some modeling for a professional photographer who my (ex) boyfriend and I were chatting to at a bar and one I met on a dating website. I don't know about "extremely," but I would categorize myself as educated and attractive.

A struggle I've found with dating is that guys either assume that I'm single or they feel like they'd have no chance with me. I've also dated guys who are very intelligent in terms of hands-on, practical stuff who are intimidated about me being intelligent in a more cerebral way and who are insecure if they don't have the same level of education degree-wise.

At work, I've struggled because I'm not warm and emotional like women are "supposed" to be. I am an administrator in a public school responsible for supervising staff, but have been told that I come across as "abrasive". Another administrator in the building has the same communication style that I do and he is "direct" and "assertive". I've read studies where assertiveness is a positive trait in leadership, but for me at least, it's almost like it's considered unwomanly. It's very irritating because if I make a request of certain people at work, they complain that I have a "tone," but if the other administrator makes the exact same request, there's no problem. It's gotten to the point where he's noticed it too and volunteers to communicate with those individuals or I request him to pass along the message.

[LilyoftheLake]

I know that as a fairly educated (though I'm not sure about qualified) girl, it's frustrating to have nobody who can properly give a two way conversation about things that I'm interested in.

Like, people share their thoughts, but most of them I could've guessed without talking, if that makes sense. I don't know - difficult to explain, ironically.

[Asker]

What are the things you are interested in?

[Manab]

That's a problem for all highly educated and intelligent people.

[LilyoftheLake]

@Manab True lol

[LilyoftheLake]

Hmmm... Philosophy, mainly?

[Bluethinker456]

I think I undetstand what you mean

[Manab]

Several years ago when physical conferences were possible, we had a physics conference about lasers, accelerators kinda stuff. I was just a Masters's student back then but I understood the basic idea and told them that design has errors and will cause problems in the future. In the room, there were many big professors whom I couldn't convince except one woman. Well, we discussed it in length later, and still, it was the best day of my life with a girl who can understand you fully. Unfortunately, she was older than me and was in a relationship. I haven't found that magic again. Most women aren't looking for intellectual connections any more. In most cases after they are clueless about their own subjects or interests and cannot hold up a topic for long.

[ElvenMr]

Yea, that's tough. You know from their answers that they couldn't care less about some topics you'd want to talk about with her. So you don't even bring those up.

Education is not even a requirement i think for a more deep conversation. Intelligence is more imortant in my opinion. If someone is willing to learn new things and are open to anything, then you can have a good conversation with them usually.

[LilyoftheLake]

@ElvenMr That's a much more accurate assessment, and I applaud you for it! It's more about the ability and willingness to THINK than any given education level.
I've been friends with guys that have masters degrees that can't compare to certain high school dropouts.

[OlderAndWiser]

Many guys are intimidated by intelligent women and assume that they will want to be in control of everything, or that they will be intellectualized and relatively unemotional.

[menina]

I don't know. I wouldn't be considered "extremely educationally qualified " and I'm not seen as beautiful according to Western standards.