Is it weird to sunbathe topless in front of your family?

[hayley2008]

I was sunbathing topless in my back garden yesterday and my mum told me to cover up because it was inappropriate, but she never had a problem with me being topless when we've been on holiday abroad. Our garden is well covered so no neighbours can see, so why is it a big deal?

Updates

+1 y

Yw and thank you, it's cooled down a lot in the UK now so it's not really an issue anymore anyway lol

[MikeInHawaii]

Your mom may worry a little more because of your stepdad and your age. Your profile says you are 13. How long ago was your last trip abroad? You might look a lot more like a woman than you did only a year ago.

Also, step fathers and mothers’ boyfriends are about eight times as likely to molest girls as their biological fathers are.

[hayley2008]

I was 10 last holiday abroad but they haven't really grown much since then

[ChrisMaster69]

Only your mum knows really.

people tend to do things differently on holiday that they would not do at home.

even clothing we wear on holiday we would never wear much where we live.

It may just be her house, her rules thing.

[ChrisMaster69]

@hayley2008 the other thing that comes into it, are other family members and visitors.

Definitely not something to do in UK today lol.

[hayley2008]

There was only my stepdad home, my brother was out all day and we didn't get any visitors. My stepdad didn't care but my mum got upset when she got home

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah mums are like that, duty of care etc.

I still get in trouble from my ex wife with various decisions I make lol.

Culture etc can play a part, I know in Europe it does vary, even in the UK it varies, admittedly some of that is it being normally cold as fuck lol

[ChrisMaster69]

@hayley2008 try talking it through with ur mum.

[hayley2008]

@chrismaster69 I'm just waiting til she goes work before I sunbathe

[ChrisMaster69]

@hayley2008 lol sounds familiar

[ChrisMaster69]

@hayley2008 thanks for MHG, most appreciated

Good luck sorting things out.

[elizamichale1]

No not at all honey n i dont think ur mum shud hav told u to cover up i mean how would u sunbath being in covers... i always get naked for my sunbaths.. we just hav a standard fence n i know some boys do watch if they get the chance but thankfully my mum doesn't stop me... all she ever says is eli close ur legs lol

[AviatorTom]

When you're on vacation, no one knows who you are, so if someone notices you topless, it's not a big deal. If a neighbor sees you topless in your backyard, your mother is probably going to hear about it... and some explaining would be needed.

[laurieluvsit]

It's not weird for me but I am from a nudist family.

At your age you will be developing larger breasts so maybe she just thinks it's time to start keeping them hidden as a rule, not so much due to where you are at the time.

[Sirenboobzilla]

My mom and I usually go to nude beaches together too sunbathe. Been going since I was 16

[Snsl153]

That's not something I would do, but maybe I'm just old-fashioned.

[ChrisMaster69]

@snsl153 yeah defo old fashioned
Almost Pythonesque

Those puppies do need some air though

[Snsl153]

@ChrisMaster69 LOL. My "puppies" are breathing fine, thank you :D

[ChrisMaster69]

@snsl153

Admittedly, my views on all this is, boobs are not actually sexual.

I live 15 mins or so from a naturist beach.

[litty]

You never know who is watching. All it takes is one peak, then next thing you know you got people lining up or recording you. There's a lot of voyeuristic porn of unsuspecting sunbathers.

[nawtee_me]

maybe because you are getting older or maturing more?

[hayley2008]

Maybe but it sucks that it's fine for guys but not girls

[nawtee_me]

I agree... boobs are boobs whether it is male or female. nudity should not be sexual...

[hayley2008]

Exactly

[EmmaMary]

@hayley2008

I can only reiterate fully what @chrismaster69 has put.

[ChrisMaster69]

@EmmaMary thank you

I’ve been there with mine.

Alcohol is another lol.

[EmmaMary]

@ChrisMaster69

Hmm, I do wonder (and secretly hoping) that perhaps "bump" might/will give me this experience. 🤞

[ChrisMaster69]

@EmmaMary having friends with sons and daughters and me having a daughter.

Sons give less hassle, also cheaper to take shopping.

Taking a teen shopping is losing kidneys

A shopping trip with a Son is about an hour, x pairs boxers black, jeans and shoes.
With my daughter …. 🕰🕰🕰🕰🕰

[EmmaMary]

@ChrisMaster69

Well if my wish does come true 🤞my husband will have the little guy to do all the "manly" things that you guys do... And I shall have all the girly time in the world with our daughter. 🤞

[ChrisMaster69]

@EmmaMary as a woman lingerie shopping is not really a problem. I’m sure it’s a new torture for fathers.

[EmmaMary]

@ChrisMaster69

That I can fully appreciate and sympathise with... Along with dealing with all the other women's "problems"!

[ChrisMaster69]

@EmmaMary oh zero probs with that stuff,
It’s the sitting for an hour in some place like Victoria Secrets, they need decent coffee bars in them

[DrewJohnson]

I can't answer why she has any issue. But it doesn't seem like a problem to me. Sorry you had to stop.

[KrisPW]

I don't think it's weird, but it depends on every family.

[Anonymous]

Ask her. My guess is that she's afraid someone will see you at home, and people know her. On holiday, they're all strangers. "Too close to home" kind of thing? Or, maybe it did bother her on the holiday also, but she just didn't say anything then.

[OfDeath]

I don't think it's weird. Especially when nobody can see you.

[Anonymous]

She might be concerned about the law. If she's concerned about social acceptability, guys go shirtless in the UK as soon as it's warm so she should have no issue with you doing that in your own yard

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think I'll need pictures to correctly access the situation. Just take some selfies in the bathroom and send them to me.

[Snsl153]

She's 13 creep. Are you a paedo?

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Snsl153 lolz I didn't even look at the age... Just trolling through giving stupid answers to stupid questions.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

If your garden is fully covered, then it’s not weird.

[Kaamraj]

Might be it's okay in Europe but at least in Asia is highly unusual.

[jeremy_09]

How big are your boobs and are your dad or brothers around? Otherwise it seems fine.

[hayley2008]

Not very and just my stepdad but he was fine with it

[jeremy_09]

Well of course he's fine with it, you're a naked 13 yr old girl.

[hayley2008]

Exactly so its not sexual

[litty]

It is sexual. Because if he's around for longer, you are going to fill out, and he's going to think of you when you were topless. It's not like he took care of you when you were a baby. Teens is one of the most searched porn categories.

[hayley2008]

He did take care of me as a baby he's been with my mum basically my entire life

[Charliefretz329]

You were probably making your stepdad uncomfortable… home nudity is a personal preference.

[hayley2008]

He didn't care it's my mum who got upset

[Charliefretz329]

Your mum might have noticed your stepdads unease

[hayley2008]

He was in his office most of the time anyway

[jjj101010]

U never know if neighbours can see. I have seen my neighbour changing through the window in the past

[spartan55]

I think that's a Euro thing

[Chazmatazz269]

It was never weird at my house.

[ProVox]

If you're really only 13 and I was your parent, I would be asking you who you were tanning your tits for. Just being honest. 😆

[hayley2008]

We're going to Spain next month and I don't want tan lines

[Anonymous]

She's probably afraid what the neighbors would think.

[Alexz0]

It's totally fine!!

[Guy13]

Super weird to me. Not time or place.

[hayley2008]

Why is private in my garden any different to a public beach in Spain?