We used to work together. (I’ve had a crush on her and she knows this but originally like a year or year and a half ago she basically told me that she wasn’t into me in that way although in a polite way) Anyway one day out of the blue I texted her to see how she was doing and I briefly joked with her. Then she said “lol I’ve missed joking around with you!!” and I said “me too😔” and she said “You’ll have to come visit South Bend this year!” (where she goes to college) and then I told her I could probably find time to go up there but that I would have to check with my boss to see when I could get off. Then she replied “Yay lmk!” and then said “Fair warning we do stay in dorms for all of school so if you come to stay the night you will have to crash on my futon lol” I’m assuming that she’s being friendly and just offering me a place to sleep. And then we were trying to figure out a date for me to come up there and we were having difficulty just because each of our schedules were conflicting with each other just because she’s busy with school and then she plays for her school’s tennis team but then she said “Worst case I can make a day trip to Indy when I’m back home for Easter”. I then said “Yay 🙂” and she liked the message with a heart. Luckily we were able to agree on date that didn’t conflict with either of our schedules for me to come up and visit. In your opinion, is this a normal thing to ask male friends to come up and visit if you see them just as friends or would you only ask this if you were really interested in someone? It’s also worth pointing out that her remaining responses were rather brief and generic (like 5 word responses) and she took several hours to read (especially) the last message and we haven’t messaged since. Obviously I don’t want to bombard her with messages especially if she doesn’t like me because obviously that would be rather annoying lol and I want to respect her boundaries but she hasn’t messaged me further or initiated conversation.
Girls, Is it normal for a woman to ask a male friend to visit her on campus if it is a 3 hour drive and she only sees him in a purely platonic way?
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