"What happens in the dark, comes to light." Is this always true?

Question

I've been meeting up with this guy and I haven't told anyone about it particularly my parents.

rbow_Z28 · Accepted Answer

Yes -- it does, and I won't' say how; but from experience - yes eventually it will come to fruition. So If you are doing something you are ashamed of - be ready to own it and just be honest the first time. Your parents are there to love and support you, don't be ashamed of it. Remember, your parents were young too once - I am sure they've done things in their life they are equally guilty of. Growing up my parents, particularly my mother never got along because I always felt like she was a "helicopter" mother. If I could change anything, I wish I would have owed what I did, instead of trying to hide.

I guess what I am trying to say is, if you feel strongly about this guy, be open about it. What consequences follow, don't let it discourage you, hold your own. But don't become an enemy to your parents. Listen to what they have to say, if you don't necessarily agree. Something to affect, "Mom & Dad, I know that you love me and you are trying to the right thing to protect me, but this is something that is really important." Try to have an open discussion the first time. I will show you have maturity and your parents will be more understanding, even if they don't necessarily agree with your decisions, don't hold it against them -- remember they are just looking out for you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Your 35 so you can make adult decisions on what to do with your life. You can choose who to tell or not to tell.

With that said I sometimes know even as adults we still ask ourselves these questions. For example I recently have given up a serious addiction (gambling). I’ve been four months clean and have been going to meetings consistently.

I’m independent. I own my own house and have a good job. There is no reason to go around telling people about this problem unless I have to.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

I don't know that you can say "always", but I will agree most of the time. It is hard to keep things (big things like a relationship) from those closest to you. The better question is why you are keeping this in the dark?

Is there a reason at the age of 35 you are concerned about what your parents think about a relationship? That part I don't quite get. That is usually something family is excited and supportive about.

There has to be some reason why you are hiding this from others. Maybe use the update box to update the question so we can give better advice.

Pending the update, I will stick to my opinion that there is no reason for you to be hiding this from family or friends, unless you have a VERY good reason for doing it. What will happen when it does come to light is cast you in a not so good "light".

They will wonder why you felt it necessary to keep this from them. While I do agree the statement is true most of the time, if you are super careful, you can hide it. I just don't know why you would want to.

Rei02 · Accepted Answer

Not always, unless you want your relationship goes to a next level, becoming a formal relationship and you want your family meet him, and the same with his.

Parents can be very wary and distrustful because they don't know him and they can always think bad of their daughters and sons relationships if they haven't known them first. If you see him as just a fling, then you don't need to tell them, just tell them that you are dating with a random guy or going out with friends. But if you want to make the relationship more formal, then you have to prepare both sides to their first meeting like going to a restaurant or having lunch at home.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Maybe not always, but it comes to light often enough that you’re better off just not doing shady shit.

Haha456 · Answer

I will tell you something from a lot of life experience, if your parents and friends don't like the person you are dating. There is a good chance your "lover" is not exactly the highest quality person. But you just can't see it because you are too in love.

TruthBringer · Answer

You can't hide stuff forever, especially something as being romantically involved with someone. If this escalates to be more serious between the two of you, eventually it will come to light. But if it ends between the two of you, and you're sure you haven't told anyone who may be able to spill the beans in front of your family, then it is possible that you will get away with it. However, nothing is a guarantee.

Guy13 · Answer

You are 35. It seems to me a 35 year old ought to be able to move around freely. Is there a reason that you feel obligated to share with your parents. Are you in small town where everyone is easily visible ⁉️

Personally I can’t imagine that it would surface if continued discretion is maintained.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

no its not true. sometimes it is but you will never know how much stays in the dark. sure they solve a 25 year old cold case every once in a while but some cop is still looking at one bag of teeth with no idea whos they are and who put them in the bag and threw them in the dentists mail box. i always liked the saying "the only way you can keep a secret between 3 people is if the other two are dead" some day the cop may figure out the bag is 2 different peoples teeth

RavVid · Answer

Wow it sure can. I got a cab to a girls place and the cab driver was chatting with another girl and said something - I don't know what - but she put 2 and 2. I was busted.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

Listen listen, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas, fuck the dark bruv just change analogies😂😂

20yearsolder · Answer

I don't believe it to be true. Just be careful. As long as you don't get caught and don't tell anyone. It will never come to light

melanieeeB · Answer

Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't.. if you do it right lol

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Eyes are everywhere and words spread faster than any plague could.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

Maybe before the man upstairs but not sooner.

Flower7 · Answer

No because lots of people get away with doing horrible things.

MCheetah · Answer

Eventually it becomes true, yeah. It may just not matter after enough time.

mobiusforniner · Answer

If your guy is married... yeah, itll be found out. Average time is 2 years

Anonymous · Answer

not sure why you'd need to tell your parents or anyone else about your dating life unless you are having an affair...

Lunatic1 · Answer

It is a very true statement. You should be able to be open with your family about your relationships.

Twalli · Answer

They'll. find bbn out eventually unless it ends before becoming too serious. Then they might lean you were dating him, but aren't

Justneedtokno · Answer

Very true secret never last either through history or people

BJP21 · Answer

How good at you at playing roulette with the truth? Here's the thing, it's about you and him. My congratulations if he's a great guy.

JPresidente · Answer

Yep, it almost always happens sooner or later. You're an adult though, why should it matter?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Not true. Women are masters at covering their tracks. Of course what trips women up is their inability to keep their mouths shut.

Fuentes · Answer

Not on time it may take years but eventually Karma exposes you.

Anonymous · Answer

What does it mean? I don't know can you explain?

AlandTheGamer · Answer

No not really. But I believe this quote came from trevor philips in buried the hatchet

TroyDT · Answer

Ultimately, yes. Just might not be on this side of eternity.

krin_m · Answer

You are an adult. You don't have to explain or inform anyone (including your parents) if you don't want to.

Anonymous · Answer

You're 35. Do your parent REALLY need to know if you cum in the dark or if you cum in the light with this dude?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Certainly. God will expose everything on judgement day.

Guardian45 · Answer

I hope NOT, or there's going to be a LOT of problems.

nickaboy · Answer

You are 35 if you single u don't have to explsin urself to anyone

MrTaboo · Answer

What happens when you do it in the light to begin with?

maximumpower · Answer

Not always true. Totally your business unless you're underage.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

You are 35. You don’t have to tell your parents anything

Agape93 · Answer

Nope, it usually doesn't come to the light

Drumlin2001 · Answer

No. Somethings stay secret.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yep. They're gonna find out eventually.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

No it’s pretty much always the other way around

OddBeMe · Answer

Not if you take care of the witnesses.

BLP11520 · Answer

People are not good at keeping secrets,

Pleaznhim4me · Answer

Not after you die.

Shayyyy1 · Answer

Sometimes

Account · Answer

That is not true.

hahahmm · Answer

Yes.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Usually.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

True

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Yes,

jimmy2 · Answer

Most likely

Talksik6 · Answer

Not true

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