Why do older women always assume men go for younger women for really bad/manipulative reasons? They think we’re a downgrade?

[Anonymous]

Okay I’m tired of this shit. I hate this argument of older men going for younger women because they’re a “downgrade” from someone their own age. And saying the guy is immature so that’s why he dated someone younger because she doesn’t have her life together like him? Like who invented this BS? I am in my 20s and doing extremely well financially and professionally. Assuming younger women aren’t very bright and mature is actually extremely sexist.

[Levin]

I hate this too. Women go in for the kill when they get wind of this.

I remember recently saying I liked a girl in her mid 20s or late 20s or whatever she was, I don't remember exactly. And someone said she's too young for me, I mean, wtf.

My intentions were innocent. If you like someone. But age is not wholly important. I mean, their faculties, level of consciousness, their attitude to life, their spiritual development. Which is bloody well not necessarily dependent on age, judging by the older tards and slobs in society.

[Asker]

There was once this ugly 35 year old woman who had like nothing going for her as much as I do and she had the nerve to tell me the same guy we dated went for me for “abusive” reasons lol.

[Levin]

Yeah, not to be horrible, but I wouldn't have to resort to 20 year old girls if the 30 years actually kept themselves in shape...

[Asker]

I’m 26 and in better shape than when I was 20.

[Levin]

Sorry, I mean, girls in their 20s. In any case, most people let themselves go these days. I workout 4-5 times a week, I have a six pack, and I'm in my late 30s.

[NamerOfStars]

The third force of Darwinian Evolution invented it: social selection. The ugly, "no-one-wants-to-admit-this" truth is that female sexual attractiveness is front-loaded; as fertility declines with age, so does sex appeal. This doesn't mean that you're doomed to ugliness once you hit 30, but it DOES mean that power to attract you had will fall off with time.

Many women don't realize this, or think (not unreasonably) that it's unfair, and won't acknowledge it- but that doesn't change the truth. Since they can't change biology, and any of the measures they can take to make themselves look better can also be taken by younger women, they turn to social recrimination and ostracism in an attempt to force others (men their own age, in this case, but also younger women) to behave the way they want them to.

It's pretty much exactly the same behavior you see by those who get annoyed by members of their own ethnicity who date outside that group.

[Asker]

I think it’s so hypocritical when a woman who’s like 35 gets played by a guy and it’s because it just didn’t work out, but when it’s a younger woman it’s because she was manipulated and stupid and immature.
I have my life more together than most women who claim to have their shit together and older. They need to stop using age as some kind of weapon.

[NamerOfStars]

That they do- but nobody likes admitting they've been duped.

[Asker]

I dated a guy who was 37 and I’m 26 and his ex went off on him about how I’m too young for him. Meanwhile her life is a mess and she’s older than me. It doesn’t make sense how some of these women don’t have it together and get upset when a guy goes for someone younger than her who does have it together.

[Levin]

Yes, they're glad to accept the gross favouritism and attention when it benefits them in their 20s.

[NamerOfStars]

What else does she have to argue with?

[NamerOfStars]

@Levin Fairness, now- would YOU recognize favoritism if it was all you'd ever known?

[Asker]

@Levin personally I just don’t understand all the negativity other women display towards each other. And just because they’re older doesn’t mean they can’t look good and feel good about who they are. People need to stay in their lane.

[Levin]

The hypocrisy is real. I remember another woman having a go at me for my dating profile age preferences (how petty, eh). All the while, her partner is like 10-15 years younger than her. And incidentally, the other example I gave, that woman also solely dates younger men, too. She told me recently she's never dated, up until this week, anyone older than her. She's 46.

[Asker]

@Levin people should just do what they want as long as the person isn’t too young you can’t relate with them about anything or if they’re not of legal age.

[jennifer_bloom]

There are benefits in both younger women and older women and also in women who are neither younger nor old. It all depends on what the guy wants and who he matches with.

[nawtee_me]

I do not understand it at all! NO girl that I have gone with is an upgrade or downgrade from the others. Period... Every girls is different from the other and none of them are better or worse as a person than the others are. Different girls have different gifts about them and are good at being who they are.

If I were to compare one to the other then why did I leave the first one to start with? Ego is all this is. Whomever is spouting this nonsense does so to inflate their own ego and make themselves feel better by trying to make someone else look worse.

[Owasso]

I know a LOT of guys in their 40's who go for younger women... my roommate of the last 10 years was 1 of them. 47, and continually put on a laughable front. The shades, rap music, silk suits, DJ'd at nightclub, fake bling, soft talk, all of it. Behind closed doors, he readily admitted he avoided women his own age like a roach does Raid. He's on child support for 2 different women in 2 different states and regularly switches jobs because he sets them up to be robbed-or gets fired for sexual harassment. The ONLY female I've seen say to his face, "I won't mess around with you because I can see it in your eyes," was...50. That's why he avoids women his own age.

[inhua]

men go for who they find attractive. that's just it.

every older woman was once a younger woman at some stage in her life when the deck of cards was stacked in her favor. it wasn't a problem then but those cards get misused improperly and they are no longer of use, it becomes a problem?

[Anonymous]

The only people who assume men go for younger women for bad/manipulative reasons are older women who can't compete with younger women. Most have squandered the years during which they could have secured a good life partner and are just bitter about the reality they now face.

[MountAverage]

With many guys it really is because it makes them feel like they can control her better.

[Luckycharms12]

Can be number of reasons to say that jealousy being one