Broken may be too strong of a word but let me explain. I've been on Match for the last 6 months & my findings are this. I didn't even go on one date lol
~ A lot of divorced men that didn't learn from their first marriage & approach women predominantly on looks or the seeming easiness in which they'd have sex (I changed my photos around to test it). Interestingly enough few had any real depth or character (I found a lot were boring to be blunt).
~ Changing my "gender" to man and pretending to look at women I found a lot of women in skimpy outfits, even writing on profiles they'd go from FWBs or causal till "long term" existed (when they're offering it cheaply wtfh would a guy bother with a serious LTR with them?)
Never mind the number of single mothers.
~ People that seemed to have varying degrees of mental or personality issues. I'm trained in mental health so I can analyze someone decently even just by their texting style and/or I more readily notice keywords that raise a red flag about their stability.
For the last bit as example one guy showed narcissistic potentially abusive tendencies in his writing - it was just words that caught my attention. When I broached it in a causal way he turned it around & said his wife was the abusive one / he'd reported her to the police, etc & yet he was still living with her (he had a job by the way & claimed to be debt free).
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That's an interesting perspective. But by that logic, wouldn't you be broken too if you were at any point on a dating app? Personally, I actually agree with you to a degree. It's so easy to communicate with others online, that most people today lack even subpar communication skills. So a dating app will attract those kinds of people because it's how they've become accustomed to communicating. Further, I think most people today are broken, and most dating apps just naturally highlight that. The problem is most people aren't self aware enough to acknowledge that they have developed patterns from both their childhood, and past relationships, that are counterintuitive to their overall happiness in dating especially. What's worst, because we see so many options online, many people incorrectly assume that they have access to those options, and thus develope unrealistic standards for whom they will and will not date. Most often, people in today's generation assume they are more of a catch than they are, which I belive is the main reason why dating apps don't work well for most people. I'd love to pick your brain as I too have a genuine love of human psychology. If you're up for a chat, hit me up.
That about sums it up. I haven't been on Match but the ones I have been on? Absolutely loaded with people that have some sort of baggage whether it's their personality, position in life, etc. I guess that's what they resort to though. I mean the amount of extremely good looking women I've seen on them that really shouldn't be single at this point, but somehow still are, definitely raises yellow flags. Dating apps aren't the move anyway. Nobody on them seems to be in their right mind in my experience
Because that’s where all the misfit toys are.