Why do you speak and present your feelings and thoughts that are based on emotion as facts, and demand that your emotions and whatever thoughts you have about literally anything that pops into your mind when you're upset are truth, facts and reality, even when they can be so far fetched from reality that you literally sound insane?
I mean, all women are different but it's possible many do this, and it just baffles me and I literally don't know what to do.. .. I don't understand how you getting upset about one little thing all of a sudden connects to 5 things, then 10 things, then 25+ things that you forgot you were also upset about and then you're furiously enraged and there's nothing a guy can do about any of it and it's obvious you hate, no, DETEST, us.
You push and slam us away and then also become furious and pout when we're not there and disrespect us behind our backs and talk to your friends all about how men this and men that and men are bad and compare the evil stats of this guy to the other one like we're fricking villain trading cards, and on and on and on and on.. It's like you're trying to ruin our lives.
Honestly who in the universe do some of you think you are? Do you really think that you're perfect goddesses while us men are the evil villain peasants that you can laugh at while we battle with demons you never even knew existed let alone ever conceive of? Some of you will NEVER understand how hard it is to strive and break yourself and battle through living hell just to be a good man in this world of evil men. You will never understand the pain we feel when no matter what happens or how we feel or how broken we are, we just keep going, and we do it all alone, we cry alone, we break alone, and we get back up and keep going, alone, by ourselves with not a human soul that could ever truly understand or care.
I don't get it. God help me because I need it.
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Originally this was a question, but morphed into a vent of sorts, I guess I feel a little better now that I spilled a bit of my heart on the ground for the universe to step on. Maybe I'm a little pathetic but, you decide. The problem we face is that the world expects us to be invincible, to just keep going regardless of what we face, and we never talk about our problems or how we feel because women just laugh at us and men just tell us to man up, so we keep everything to ourselves.
Ladies, when you're upset, why do you do this?
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Some women will do this, but not as many as many guys seem to think. For most, it's not so much about trying to make their emotions facts, they just want them to be validated and acknowledged. Like, as an example, she may feel like he's paying extra attention to other girls. He may get angry and say it's not true, and get mad at her for feeling that way, and then an argument shall ensue. He doesn't need to be bitched on with false or no evidence, but he does need to accept that her feelings are real, and knowledge that.
Both genders are shit in some areas, and in men's cases, often (not always) one of their main ones is emotions. This has been an agelong struggle and likely will continue to be. Also, if there are unresolved conflicts in the relationship, one thing can trigger 10, 25+ more, or even them all. To the guy, it may seem random, but to her, these things could have been stewing and suppressed for months or somtimes years.
All I can say is, having good communication is key to most problems in relationships. Not ignoring problems that come up, and not pretending unresolved arguments aren't still there waiting for inopportune moments to make things difficult. You need to speak to the facts and the emotions because both play equal parts in our lives. If she's not open to communicating and trying to understand each other's midnset, then it's best you leave.
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basically women are simple in a relationship they want to be/feel loved by the one they love, she’s gonna be upset at you if she wants/needs it from you and feel you’re not giving it to her. Cause in a way she is bound to you with her emotions and powerless, she can't go anywhere, and it’s going to make it very hard for her to cope. She’s hurt basically. In the meantime since she’s too upset she can’t care about you. And you feel more alone and she feels more disconnected and you both feel even worse. But she can’t understand you if you don’t explain it to her… men and woman have different struggles… but I will say a woman that is cold and in control and always collected probably doesn’t love you because that the sort of stuff that happens when you have genuine feelings for someone.. you don’t control your emotions basically, but over time and communication you do because the guy explains to you that what you feel isn’t the reality… so of course you have to trust him… I’m not saying she’s right or anything I’m just trying to explain womens behaviors
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