Why do the matches I get ignore my message?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I get an unexpected match from a girl who seems too pretty to have matched with me. But I dont get a reply.

They just swiped on everyone

They got better matches

They had second thoughts

[ZackBan]

Since you're mostly getting dogsh*t advice here I'm gonna try useful for a change.

A match doesn't mean she's into you, girls don't mass swipe like guys do. They pick and chose but often times they chose multiple options.

You need to work on your opener.

What do you send as a first message?

[Asker]

Something normal like hey, hello, my name is x. How are you. Etc

[ZackBan]

And there you go.
It's not "normal" it's generic it's what every other guy is saying.

If you took her phone and popped open tinder you would day at least 1500 matches all saying this.

What you need to do is make a personalized observation about the girl.
See what she's doing in her pictures and comments on that.

Also avoid generic comments about her hair, eyes, lips, smile, body. These don't work either.

Instead you can compliment:
Her style
The aesthetic of her photos
Her pet
Her selfie skills (if all her pics are selfies)

If she has a question or a joke in her bio try answering that but make it funny not flat and boring.

Seduction is a well documented form of art you can find many tutorials online don't be ashamed to look and to learn.

[Blackmoonsns]

It is extremely difficult for a man to show his value and worth through any dating app you're going to have most success in your life talking to women on the street or through friends or in any public space. But if you want tips to get a woman to respond to you you have to be funny charming clever and seductive in your opening statement you got to be able to play a better game of cat and mouse with her you have to reach a woman on an emotional level and it's very very hard to do that online. So in short you got to be funny and clever.

[Little_Bumblebee]

My first thoughts are maybe it's a botx or she got a match with another person and wanted to see how it played out.
Or maybe she's inactive

I'm thinking most would delete the match of they had second thoughts

[Asker]

They aren't bots

[Little_Bumblebee]

Another possibility is your message

[Anonymous]

How much time do you give them to respond? Some just aren't in their inbox 24/7. They could be shy. Or they are thinking about how to respond.

[AnUglyBarnacle]

You probably:

- Matched with a bot.

- Matched with a seller (OF or Instagram).

- A girl only liked you to see if she'd get a match, in order to feed her ego ("Another guy thinks I'm hot. Sweet.") Sometimes they'll immediately unmatch you, sometimes they'll just never respond.

[Aerissa_Jade]

When you get hundreds of matches/messages a day... no way to go through all those, we pick a few to take a chance on and then respond to them.

[dustybiker]

They are often bots created by the site you joined with.

[Asker]

Doubt it.

[dustybiker]

You’ll figure it out.

[lightbulb27]

I always wondered that myself. I really think there's a lot of fakeness out there...

[bean2k21]

She's too busy getting lip injections and posing for her Instagram followers.

[LiamJHayden]

The messages might not interest them. Or they have so many responses that they just reply to the male models.

[MountAverage]

Because women get messages from MANY different guys. Obviously they're not gonna respond to all of them.

[Anonymous]

Why are you expecting anything good from a dating app?

[Anonymous]

You wanna match, how about your face and my ass; that's a match

Those sites are scams.

[SphynxUK]

No one knows the reason. I find it infuriating.

[sheikalana]

Perhaps your approach is not the best.