Why do people hate on the fact that I'm planning on becoming a single mother?

[pupluv45]

By the time I'm 35 and still single, I'm planning on having 2 kids on my own. I get a lot of hate especially from men. why can't I embrace my power to give birth as a woman?

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+1 y

I'm having my own biological kids, not adopting.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Seems to be what most women do, so I don't think you're setting any sort of trend. Just don't become one of those chicks that come back complaining about how high value men don't want to marry you... those bitches are annoying. It's like, he's high value, just why would a man with status want to settle for a blown out pussy and 2 kids that are not even his?

If you're just doing your thing and it doesn't become something you complain about later... do your thing. Some people just want to be parents. Some though, just complain about everything and have created to opinions on it that you're probably getting hit with in response to your plans. A lot of single mothers out there complain and make a scene like they don't understand why some thot with no kids gets the attention she doesn't get. If you go into it knowing you'll be a non-choice for men that don't want to feel like a cuck... then kudos to you.

[pupluv45]

There are plenty of single men who die alone and childless , without family.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah, you have to do what's your wishes

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Aerissa_Jade]

Most the time it is because historically single moms are on tax payer things like housing, and SNAP... even if you won't be, many people think you will be simply because so many single moms are.

Then add into the mix that men think us women are too hard and they can't find any women they want to be with and they can't have kids on their own, they get jealous.

I like how you state that if your mid 30's and still single you'll do it, but are you planning on trying to find a man until then, or not really?

[pupluv45]

i can't let the fact that " i can find the perfect person " destroy the rest of my life. I have no problem getting admirers but the man im looking for simply doesn't exist. i have lowered my standards, but still nobody fits the bill

[pupluv45]

its always been my life goal to become a mother. if i dont become a mom, there's no point in me living. I just feel like my only purpose to life is to raise and enjoy children. i have no doubt i would be an amazing mother. my children would be lucky to have me.

[Aerissa_Jade]

See your trying though, or have tried... I get it. It isn't like your not trying. Often we hear that women are only trying for the top 10 or 20% (whatever number men throw out) but sometimes just wanting someone who is stable and we are considered picky.

Best of luck to you.

[pupluv45]

don't take these bitter, jaded nasty guys on here seriously. Men in the real world aren't like that.

[Sour-rose]

Because it's the history of having children. Just think of it of not being the average sheep when you should be. To them anyways. You must have a man, like it's the law. :D

[pupluv45]

hahah they're just angry that they're not needed for having children.

[Sour-rose]

Pffff xD

[FilmGuy93]

I would think the main reason is that you are placing your kids at a major disadvantage by personal choice. Single mother households are statistically horrible for children, in terms of income, mental health, general levels of success.

Most women in that situation are there by accident, but you would be there as an intentional choice.

[pupluv45]

you can't generalize that all kids born to single moms won't succeed. I make 100-120 an hr. I can afford to send my kids to elite colleges.

[FilmGuy93]

I didn’t generalize anyone. I stated an undeniable statistic fact. Fathers do a hell of a lot more in families than just add income

[pupluv45]

statistically single moms are under poverty. but I'm not part of that statistic. You can't just go around generalizing every single mother out there that she must be a certain way or her kids must be doomed to fail.

[pupluv45]

fathers are unnecessary.

studies actually proves kids born to lesbian, gay parents tend to do better in school than kids born to heterosexual couples.

as long as the child has a loving relationship with both parents, it really won't matter what the gender the parents are.

[FilmGuy93]

I’m not generalizing anyone. Fathers typically add structure and discipline to kids’ lives that mothers typically don’t. No one is saying that your kids can’t succeed if you raise them alone; it’s just that they are likely to have a tougher time succeeding than they would if they had a father around

[pupluv45]

[Fathers typically add structure and discipline to kids’ lives that mothers typically don’t]

again, you're generalizing. Not all mothers are the same.

you can't assume that I'm under poverty, can't discipline my children, or that my kids can't succeed simply because I'm a single mother.

I make 100-120 an hour. I can afford to give my kids a better education than most heterosexual parents.

[FilmGuy93]

Will you stop interpreting everything I’m saying as some personal attack? You asked a question, so I answered it. Want to raise a kid yourself? I don’t give a fuck. I just answered the question you asked

[pupluv45]

this was a question about me being a single mom. we aren't talking about other single moms.

[FilmGuy93]

And what I’m telling you is that the issue they have has nothing to do with you as a person; it has to do with what they know most single moms deal with.

[pupluv45]

I'm here to tell you that if a single mom makes enough money, her offspring can succeed just as well or even better.

Traditionally two parents households did better than single parent households due to having more money. It has nothing to do with parents being of a different gender.

LGBT parents' children do better in school than heterosexual couples because they have more money. lgbt folks cannot have kids. but the lgbt folks who can afford to pay for modern technology to make babies - tend to have kids that do better in school.

why?

richer parents can afford to give their kids a better education.

[FilmGuy93]

Yes, I’m well aware that two parent LGBT households can produce fine children. This is a very strange conversation to me. Best of luck with single motherhood

[Pegases]

Children that grow up in single parents households are statistically proven to be at a significant disadvantage when compared to children that grew up in a two parent household. Your choice to be a single parent isn't just silly, it's selfish, which is why it rightfully should be shunned. You want kids so bad? Adopt. If you dont like that idea, it's because you're selfish, and therefore shouldn't have children of your own for that very reason.

[Pegases]

You're 24. It's astonishing the lengths that people will go to these days just to not be alone, all in an effort to avoid becoming a person that can cultivate a lasting relationship. If you feel you are so fxcked up that you'll be single by 35, then go to therapy. Kids won't solve your problem, and you'll just create problems for them.

[pupluv45]

[Your choice to be a single parent isn't just silly, it's selfish, which is why it rightfully should be shunned. You want kids so bad? Adopt. If you dont like that idea, it's because you're selfish, and therefore shouldn't have children of your own for that very reason.]

only men have to adopt, single women can have kids on their own. why would you raise someone else's child instead of your own?

[pupluv45]

I'm not 24. I'm 27

[Pegases]

"Children that grow up in single parents households are statistically proven to be at a significant disadvantage when compared to children that grew up in a two parent household."

"If you feel you are so fxcked up that you'll be single by 35, then go to therapy. Kids won't solve your problem, and you'll just create problems for them."

How old you actually are couldn't be less irrelevant.

[pupluv45]

["Children that grow up in single parents households are statistically proven to be at a significant disadvantage when compared to children that grew up in a two parent household."]

children who grow up in double parent households do better than kids who grow up in single parent households because of financial resources. two working parents has better financial resources than one working parent.

it has nothing to do with the number of parents. it all has to do with the amount of financial resources the family has.

[pupluv45]

studies show that kids born to gay or lesbian parents do better in school than kids born to heterosexual parents. why? because lgbt parents tend to be rich enough to be able to afford modern reproductive technology in order to have kids. rich parents can afford to give their children a better education

[Pegases]

For that to be true, it would mean rich kids never end up degenerates. Obviously that's not the case, so I won't bother to entertain that argument any further. I think you want to be a single parent so bad, that you'd make things up, or simply ignore reality all in an effort to support your feelings.

Next, just as you mentioned, two parent households are better than one when it comes to the development of a child. The why is pretty simple. Children do better in life when they have examples of healthy relationships in the home. Those earliest years literally shape the way we view the world, and other human beings. I'm going to bet that you grew up in a single parent household, which is why you envision yourself being single at 35, opting to become a single mom as a way to ward off loneliness. You are the primary example of why some adults have it harder when in relationships, when healthy relationships werent present in their childhood. As I said before, becoming a single parent won't solve your problems. Your kids shouldn't be forced to suffer with you. This is why people today speak so much on breaking generational curses. Your parents fxcked up, it happens to a lot of us. Dont pass that on to children like your parents did you. If you really do have all this money, GO TO THERAPY. Bringing children into the world to suffer with you, and then to suffer alone once you're gone is absolutely insane.

[pupluv45]

i actually was born to a mother and a father. I had a abusive terrible father. YET i was able to still end up as a successful adult. Just because you have a father, it does not mean your will have a good childhood.

and just because you are a single parent, it does not mean that you will be a bad parent or that you have a terrible home environment.

my kids won't suffer because I will love them so much. my kids won't have to share my love / attention with a husband. they get all my love and attention. i have the money to give them the best schooling, best nannies, best gifts, best food because I can afford to do so.

Honestly I'd rather be raised by an amazing single mom than a mom and a shitty dad.

[Pegases]

Therapy.

[RavVid]

Well nobody can stop you if you are fertile so from my viewpoint knock your self out.

I think a lot of people would think it is better for children if they are raised in a classic male and female household. Most boys and girls end up as hetero guys and gals so the argument would be having a a mother only household would be bad. There is some evidence that girls lose their virginity earlier for example if there isn't a father at home.

[AmeerX]

Actually someone here told me about it. She wants to get AI to have a child as she can't get a man to settle down with. And fyi she is not damaged goods or anything like that.
So, you should too.
Although, I think you can try searching your love not just in US or some country like that. Go to Africa or Asia, lots of men will be ready to settle down since they have larger make population

[pupluv45]

the man who i am looking for simply does not exist. dating sucks honestly

[AmeerX]

How can you even say that?

[AmeerX]

You are so young and you are giving up on a husband and married life. That's too sad ((.

[pupluv45]

im 27. I've never had a boyfriend, never had a relationship. Its very hard for me to come accross anyone that has the qualities i can fall in love with. I have been with a lot of guys, nobody seems to have what im looking for. Upon the very rare occurance that I do stumble on someone who i can fall in love with. Probably only 3 times in my life. They're all either too old with kids or married and unattractive or has character issues and doesn't like me back.

I just realized that its not only his personality that needs to fit the bill, his character and habits , must also fit the bill. At this point, I have no other choice but to lower my standards in terms of age. I'd even be open to dating a single dad. But even a finding a single dad who fits what im looking for is almost impossible.

[pupluv45]

it seems like im just destined to be single. god has made my fate to be single. and there is nothing i can do about it. i have no other choice but to accept it. im not afraid of being single. its just that im afraid that after my kids leave the house, i would have nobody to talk to

[AmeerX]

Mind if I ask what do you want in a man?

[pupluv45]

humor, wittiness, spontaniety,

i need all of the above but its hard to find such guys in an age where vast majority of guys lack social skills

[AmeerX]

Haha, 🤣, I won't lie 🤥 but I want those things in a girl. Look guys are programmed differently from girls. Like girls are fun and enjoyable beings although sometimes too much heavy on the pocket 🙄.

As a guy if I want something and tell about it to someone, e. g. I want so and so girl looking like a Romanian or something and has thrift and beautiful face and average body and caring personality and good cooking and fashion sense. Then I will probably get called racist 😅 or stupid and names and scornful eyes even among my family 🤣.
But if same thing is asked by my sister's my parents and relatives will say wow, grape 😒. (Pun intended).
I don't think you are asking too much just not something in a man normally. I mean I might not open up to a girl that easily

[pupluv45]

The only girls who look too heavily in the pocket are usually the ones who couldn't succeed in life.

I can't afford to have standards in physical appearance because it will just further limit my non existent options. Yea... nobody fits the bill. I can afford to be picky on his looks or wallet.

I have plenty of money. I don't care about his wallet. It doesn't mean I will date a guy without a job or an uneducated lazy one though.

[pupluv45]

i don't even want to tell you about the number of guys who fell for me but I rejected. so many that i can't even count

[AmeerX]

🙄 I think you have the curse of rejection casted upon you. Don't you know if you reject too many people their curse will befall you.

I see it in many people guys and girls. If you reject a lot of girls for someone better and better you end up in a loop.

As Karl Von Clausewitz said, perfection is the enemy of a good plan.

[pupluv45]

i reject because i am not attracted to them. not because i chose to. i dont understand how you would date someone you don't have any feelings for

[AmeerX]

Yeah tell me about it. I am stuck in this predicament where my father has told me, Eni meni minie mo, pick a picture you want to go. I have randomly selected a girl which was just okay to look. I don't know her, I barely talked to her parents and I don't know how she smells or anything.

I just guess what she will be like from her mom's figure which is pretty average 😭.
I hate it but I have to swallow a bitter pill 💊 now.
I guess we can't have everything in life

[pupluv45]

i think you're way too much into looks. Remember that nobody looks the same way forever, including you. If you can't stand the fact people age, its best not to get married. You truly have to appreciate the person you are married to in order to have a successful marriage.

[AmeerX]

I am not absorbed by looks. I only gave an example. And tell me something. Would you be okay with a person you don't even find attractive.
I mean I don't want a super model or a model. I just want her to be looking good and good on the inside.

What I fear is getting into an arranged marriage and finding an ugly girl both inside and outside

[AmeerX]

How else am I gonna know how she is. I only get to see a picture. A fucking damn picture to choose. I know she does too but what good is it?

And I told you I did marry a Russian girl over a Pakistani girl any day. And most Russian girls look like local girls for some reason

[AmeerX]

Some even look dark too but very smart and intelligent 🤓 ))

[pupluv45]

I wouldn't marry someone I"m not physically attracted to. But I won't marry someone with the expectation that they will look good forever. Marriage is not for you if you can't accept the fact your wife won't be beautiful forever

[AmeerX]

I accept that fact alright. You are assuming too much.
No one remains youthful forever but we can be beautiful forever)) through our deeds

[pupluv45]

you just called it a bitter pill to swallow.

its only bitter if you haven't accepted it.

you won't look good by the time you hit that age too.

[AmeerX]

I meant the bitter pill part because I don't even know her personality 🤣. You think I was referring to her mom's figure only.

I just see her picture and decide. This is the worst part in arranged marriage. I don't get to date her to see what I am getting into. Just her photo and that's it.
It's like blind dating but with no interview

[AmeerX]

I don't know if she will be good to kids, or be bossy or just sweet, or if she is going to be intelligent or just a dumb girl, or if she will even accept how I live my life or if she has same interests as me. I have totally no idea what I am getting.
God knows and her parents know what she is like in real life

[pupluv45]

maybe you can present your criteria to your parents so they know what to look for when picking a girl. i know that in Asian culture, parents control every aspect of their children's lives.

[pupluv45]

i want an arranged marriage too. because it is often lonely being single. studies have proven that married people tend to live longer than single people. Imagine going out to a restaurant to never have anyone to eat with, imagine going on vacation all alone, traveling always alone, going to an empty apartment with nobody to talk to, nobody to care about you.

its pretty hard. im thankful i will be having children to make life less lonely. but im afraid of the day my children move away.

[AmeerX]

You want to embrace Arranged marriage? Why 😦?
I get so uncomfortable with the uncertainty.

You know what you are getting into? Your parents decide and then emotionally blackmail you to accept whatever they want as your spouse.

I also want someone like that but I am just afraid of a toxic girl, she trying to keep me away from my friends and parents ((. A lot of girls try to create this war of independence too. I am fine if a girl doesn't try to keep me away from my parents and spend from whatever I can give her. Definitely not gonna starve her but I also don't want a gold digger wanting to go on world tours or open stupid businesses with no experience in them or no how of accounts at all 🙄

[AmeerX]

They don't control as in feed off as they portray in the dramas 🤣 but they will manipulate to get what they want 😑

[pupluv45]

like i said, you can interview the girl yourself to see if she is the right fit. stop letting your parents do the picking, you do the picking.
I'm Asian too but I live in america. Over here, my parents have no right to tell me what to do and I do not need to listen to them.

[pupluv45]

It is better to get married, have a nice family than to go throughout life struggling to find someone to fall in love with but never end up finding someone.

[AmeerX]

😢 sadly I am in love with someone from another country. But my parents don't listen. They keep telling me she will become a cow 🐮 like her mother so I should forget about her ((.
See I told you I wasn't really looking for someone for her looks. She talks to me and I feel like I am in heaven.
God I wish I could never see anyone outside my neighborhood. The more I explore the more I feel this world just keeps betraying my heart and eyes. It shows me one thing and gives me another:/.

Sorry if it makes you uncomfortable. I wish God had not saved me all those years ago. I feel so much pressure and anger inside me. I don't know what to do.
I am losing my mind.

I am just glad you are in US. Please never be ungrateful about having your life. You're free from the burden of arranged marriages))

[pupluv45]

arranged marriages actually last longer than romance marriages. Over here 50% of all romance marriages end up in divorce. don't think that this feeling of being in heaven makes a more successful marriage. It doesn't.

[AmeerX]

Pupluv45 I guess I am to do that ((. It's not easy but I am doing just that.
May be she turns out to be the one who loves me as I failed to find someone who loved me back

[pupluv45]

You may think marriages over here in america are better but they are not. Too many divorces. Few marriages make it past 25 years. A lot of broken / divorced families. People are even opting to never marry because they want to leave each other easily without fighting over separation of assets.

[AmeerX]

Pupluv45 divorce rate of arranged marriages is also high now.

And you have to spend the next 20-30 years with them. How could you if they are uncivilized and not really hygienist and so on :/

I have a fear of all of that. And the one's I know are very happy in there married and love life). Don't You want to have a heart?

[pupluv45]

Divorce of arranged marriages are only 4% while divorce rates in america are 50%.

Truth is, finding romance is not the key to a successful forever marriage. It is the willingness to stick together through hardships and respecting each other , resisting temptation which makes a successful marriage.

"how amazing someone makes you feel" does not make a successful forever marriage.

if this was true, then nobody would be divorcing in america. but we have the highest divorce rates in the world.

[AmeerX]

But there are a lot of factors as well. We assume love marriage is at fault. But living in arranged marriage doesn't make them more happy happy.
My country saw 6 times increase in divorce during covid despite arranged marriages

[pupluv45]

Sometimes, its better to have a family than to have nobody there for us. You think getting remarried in america is easy, it isn't. There are a lot of people who die alone here without families or children because they failed to ever find love in their lives. Or their marriage ended on divorce without children.

Its better to have a family than have absolutely no one at all. Its a very sad, lonely life.

Marriage is not perfect, there will be fights. But its better to have someone care for you than to die alone.

[AmeerX]

I get it what you want to tell me. I know marriage isn't perfect either.
I wish for a family too. I am not asking too much I just want someone who is fine and not too controlling wife. Nor she is a model but I want her to be a good lover or care for me

[pupluv45]

No marriage is perfect. Its only the people who are willing to stay in an imperfect marriage and try their best to make a successful marriage- who end up being married forever.

If you fall in love with someone, you can fall out of love with them too.

[AmeerX]

I understand but what I feel is I miss the things one normally does in a relationship if I am just thrown in the bed with a random girl.
I mean it feels more like a one night stand and friends with benefits in the start of marriage. We don't have feelings and having sex forcefully

[pupluv45]

Like I said, you also can have a say in who you marry. Its just that you chose not to.

[AmeerX]

I did tell them what I want 😂. You are not hearing. I told my Dad, let me merry my uncle's his friend's daughter. He said no he won't even ask as they will be curious why I want to marry an older girl. I like her beauty even if she is old. I don't know or wanted to do anything with her parents money. Yet my parents said no, anything but that 😡

[pupluv45]

tell your parents about the qualities you want in a girl. By that, I don't mean physical beauty. I mean inner personality and character. If I were you, I would just set up my own wedding and look for my own girl instead of giving that power to my parents. Its not that hard. Its just that you allow your parents too much power over you

[AmeerX]

Are you for real 😂. You know where I live you can't find girls who are open to dating as you are led to believe.
The qualities I have mentioned but they think I am stupid or something for that

[pupluv45]

you don't even have to date. you just insist on what you want to your parents. what are things you are looking for in a girl? tell them that there will be no marriage unless they have YOUR approval.
The problem is your culture. In American culture, we stand up to our parents and we hold the ultimate decision making power. In your culture, you hold no power

[AmeerX]

😒 good evening. And nope, I had a man to man talk with my dad. He says I can marry but I must find a girl whose mom is fit or at least not fat. Otherwise, according to him he is doing it for me that I should not have to look at a girl for 30-40 years and feel unable to love her.
And I get it you have a very good culture where people do try outs sleeping together for years before marriage.

I don't think I want to sleep around. I just want someone half as decent and I will be okay. She shouldn't be a dumb girl or too clever. Or be a Goldie and I really don't want a psycho religious girl which most Muslim girls can turn out to be. Rest things I am okay to do. She can do job, sit at home, have children, but dress up in more western style like those skirts. More open minded I suppose. And not mind me keeping female friends.

[pupluv45]

sweetie, everyone is gonna look like shit at some point in their lives. At some point, all you will have left is the person you married, not their looks or figure. If you can't appreciate the person you are married to without their good looks, don't marry them. You will just regret it.

[pupluv45]

In order to have a happy forever marriage:
Find someone you enjoy talking to. Someone with a good temperament. Similar interests. Similar values.

[AmeerX]

I already told you I have someone I love talking to but sadly my parents wouldn't let me be with them. They have similar interests. Average looks but I am blinded okay.

I never found a similar interests and values girl in my own country. I got to know a girl. Through snailmail. She is also older by 2-3 years but I like her. She is technical minded person like myself)

Happy marriage is just a delusion. And what do you want me to do. I also have preference. Should I kill my preferences?

[pupluv45]

I'm just telling you that your preferences are wrong. If you're looking for a wife based mostly on how fit or thin her mother is, then you're just stupid person setting yourself up for an unhappy future marriage.

[pupluv45]

you also need to look at a wide variety of girls, not just 1-2 in your neighborhood.

[AmeerX]

Not me lol. My father refused the girl based on her mom's figure 🙄. Weren't you reading?
I literally went South to find a girl and you have this to say. Why do you assume just because we are on two sides of computer screens I am just a fat loser with nothing to do?

[pupluv45]

I'm just trying to help you out. I can tell you that stupid people don't tend to succeed in life. If you don't want my advice then thats ok. we can stop talking

[AmeerX]

I need the advice but you are just being too hard on me.
FYI I have done 80% of the things you have mentioned. And you think I really like looks and beauty. I don't want to sound like a brag but I choose the most simple girls in my college days too. I had bad luck okay. Because they soon started to show true colors too. 5/10 type of girl in looks and turned out 2/10 type of girl in character 😔

Otherwise I would have been happily married

[AmeerX]

And thank you for taking your time. I know it is precious

[AmeerX]

So, you can't just say I am basing everything on looks. I am certainly not that dumb. I am just saying I tried your approach with parents and on my own.
I guess part of the reason is a bit personal. I don't want to tell it openly

[pupluv45]

I think you're just stupid and young. Your father doesn't seem to be very intelligent either.
Just being honest.

[pupluv45]

I think you're also very defensive and have a hard time receiving criticism. You also don't seem to be very open minded towards learning new things

[AmeerX]

Stop being judgmental, and you don't know him either.

I can only say, you also get the same experience to understand my situation. I am the youngest and yet the first being pressured to marry what's on the table. I already have given consent what more can I do?

[pupluv45]

I am an intelligent person. I don't marry someone based off of how fat or thin his father is. If you have to agree to something like that, it means you are stupid

[AmeerX]

I didn't agree to that, what do you want me to do run away? FYI women also judge women in the most terrible way.

I agreed to marry first that is it. That's why if I find someone before them I will tie the knot

[pupluv45]

I don't see you readily accepting any of my advice. Just denials and indirect brush offs or excuses.
But overall, I think that you are very inexperienced when it comes to romance and relationships. You and your family are probably not very smart as well.

[AmeerX]

👍... Ok.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you think children don't need a father because you earn enough says it all. People hate because there is no way you can honestly say that what you are doing is the absolute best for the children. This is all about your needs and desires, not the kids.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are making the decision to deprive two children of their right to have a father. Many people would say such decisions are very selfish and immature.

[pupluv45]

fathers aren't needed. i really don't understand what is the issue.

[pupluv45]

i had a father. he was a terrible father. I'd rather have an amazing mother than to have a mother and a terrible father. fathers are overrated.

[pupluv45]

i had a father. he was a terrible father. I'd rather have an AMAZING SINGLE MOTHER than to have a mother and a terrible father. fathers are overrated.

[OlderAndWiser]

So you are saying that you lack the ablity to attract a man who could be a good father?

[pupluv45]

i had a father. he was a terrible father. I'd rather have an AMAZING SINGLE MOTHER than to have a mother and a terrible father. fathers are overrated.

[pupluv45]

I grew up with a father who caused so much dysfunction in the family that I honestly think I would've been better off with an amazing single mother. Its about time for people to stop thinking about quantity over quality. I'd rather have a QUALITY relationship with 1 parent than to have a dysfunctional relationship with my parents.

[OlderAndWiser]

So the only options are a good mother, or a good mother and a horrible father? ANd that is what you will teach your children?

Or is it time to sound the TROLL alert?

[pupluv45]

I'm here to teach you to quit stereotyping and looking down on single moms.
Because having an amazing single mom is better than to have a shitty dad causing a shit ton of dysfunction in the family.

[pupluv45]

studies have shown children of LGBT couples do better in school than kids born to heterosexual couples.

[pupluv45]

there is really no requirement that a kid must have parents of different genders in order to be happy. Its better to have a good relationship with 1 parent than to live with a mother DYSUFNCTIONAL father. Nobody cares about how many parents you have if your relationship with them sucks.

[OlderAndWiser]

TROLL! TROLL! TROLL!

[pupluv45]

You're just offended that you are not needed as a part of the reproductive process.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are flattering yourself. Trust me, I am NOT interested in being part of any "reproductive process" that involves you.

[Anonymous]

I smell boredom.

[pupluv45]

yea... its impossible for single women to get pregnant.. riiighhhhttt...

[kellytheman]

Well it might mean what have time for anything else and struggle hard to provide for your kids. I feel it takes 2 parents to raise a child or two.

[pupluv45]

I make 100-120 an hr

[kellytheman]

Wow well than you should do what you want but being pregnant and wear on your body might suck and you might get exhausted running after a couple Rugrats running around.

[pupluv45]

i can afford to hire a nanny.

[dancaps2]

Kids are built to have the love and security of both parents. You obviously do not value a fathers contribution or recognise any value in him. I think you are utterly selfish...

[pupluv45]

having enough financial resources is actually a much more important matter to raising kids than having parents of different gender.

[pupluv45]

being a child to a rich single mom is better than being a child born to heterosexual parents without the financial resources

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't understand, how do you hate ON something?

[foreverams]

Because you're asking for a disaster. You've obviously never met a single mother because any of the sane ones you'll meet will tell you how hard it is.

[pupluv45]

only broke single mothers suffer. rich ones do not suffer. I'm bound to make 100 an hour as a operating room nurse.

[foreverams]

Whatever floats your boat but I think it's pretty selfish to deprive your child of having a father.

[pupluv45]

Im bound to make 100-120 dollars an hour. I would have no problem hiring a nanny.

Studies have shown that children of lesbian or gay parents do better in school than kids born to heterosexual couples. Parents don't need to be of a specific gender. Parents just need to be good parents.

[foreverams]

Also, you sound kinda childish. Nurses barely have the time for themselves so you won't even be able to see your children most of the time. You can easily get away with stripping a child of their family but you won't even be able to really see them yourself.

[pupluv45]

do you realize that in nursing 36 hour work week is considered full time? its 3 days, 12 hour shifts. We don't have to work 5 days like you.

[foreverams]

Did you get your nursing degree at a garage sale?

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

I have two bachelors degrees , sweetie. no need to be jealous

[foreverams]

Good for you I guess. I just feel bad for your future children. I'd hate to have you as my mother.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

I can actually support my children well. Unlike you, you'd be lucky if you get to ever pay for children

[foreverams]

I work a decent job actually but thanks anyways. What I'm implying to you if you're not a troll, which you probably are, is that you'd be a selfish asshole for unreasonably cutting a major person out of your child's life.

[pupluv45]

maybe you are just nasty cuz you're just a jealous bitch.

[miss3rin]

That's not even funny. Holy shit. Trolling is one thing, but belittling someone for their career? I can automatically tell what kind of person you are deep down.

[miss3rin]

@pupluv45

[pupluv45]

@miss3rin

i see another hater here.

when you belittle others, other people will belittle you back.

[foreverams]

@miss3rin ignore them. Don't feed the troll.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

yea... because single women can never get pregnant. thats why she's a troll

[foreverams]

That's not what indicates you're a troll lol. Your replies are a dead giveaway.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

Not a troll. Just love making fun of the bullies

[foreverams]

Okay.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

bully me, i will bully you right back. i double dare you try it again

[foreverams]

I'm not bullying you lol. I told you my opinion and you lost your shit.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

telling me that my degree was from a garage sale was not an opinion, sweetie.

you got nasty after i told you i work 3 days a week ,100-120 an hour.

i make more money in 1 day than you make in an entire week. ok? so show some respect

[foreverams]

I asked if you got your nursing degree at a garage sale because you the way you reply isn't that of a professional nurse but what do I know?

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

just because im a nuse, it doesn't mean i have to suffer from your nastiness.

nurses are human too and we can be super nasty too.

by the way, we talk behind your back all the time. you just never hear it.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

doctors, nurses, surgeons talk about shit patients all the time. Maybe not in your face. but doesn't mean we don't do it.

[foreverams]

You are really starting to get on my nerves. Make a new troll post.

[Fuentes]

It's selfish and counter productive & most kids raised by a single mother become degenerates.

[pupluv45]

I make 100-120 an hr dude. my kids will be living in a rich neighborhood and attending elite schools. My kids have no need to steal.

[Fuentes]

So rich kids don't become degenerates? Theirs been many stories it doesn't matter the expenses, every child needs a father.

[pupluv45]

studies show kids of lesbian and gay parents do better in school than kids born to heterosexual parents.

[Fuentes]

Lgbtq parents aren't a big percentage in society actually, but if u have those numbers I'd look at them

[pupluv45]

do you know why?

because lgbt folks tend to be richer than heterosexual parents. lgbt folks cannot have kids. but the lgbt folks who can afford to pay for modern technology to make babies - tend to have kids that do better in school.

why?

richer parents can afford to give their kids a better education.

[pupluv45]

money matters more than the gender of the parents.

[joeldalton]

Because you’re planning on fucking up your kids’ lives on purpose.

[DerkR]

Do you intend to adopt kids?

[pupluv45]

I'm having my own biological kids, not adopting.

[DerkR]

So you would just like a guy to get you pregnant and leave?

[pupluv45]

he can leave or he doesn't have to leave. it doesn't matter. i will still love my children.

[DerkR]

Oh, that's ok. But honestly I think it would be good for you to find a nice guy to help you take care of the kids. You know, a child is costly and it is also very important for a child to grow up with a male father figure and a female mother figure, this directly influences the psychological and well-being of the child.

[pupluv45]

Im bound to make 100-120 dollars an hour. I would have no problem hiring a nanny.

Studies have shown that children of lesbian or gay parents do better in school than kids born to heterosexual couples. Parents don't need to be of a specific gender. Parents just need to be good parents.

[DerkR]

Ok but the study talks about gay and lesbian couples not a single person lol

[foreverams]

This person has no idea what she's talking about. Basing off her replies, she's not ready to be a mother.

[pupluv45]

@DerkR

It disproves your theory that parents must be of two different genders in order for a child to be successfull

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

you're just jealous I make more money than you while working 3 days a week.

[foreverams]

You have no idea what I'm doing for a living. At least I don't sit around in front of a computer 24/7 trolling. Get a hobby.

[DerkR]

@foreverams I'm starting to think it's just another troll

[pupluv45]

@foreverams @DerkR

like i said, way too many people hate on single moms. just like the both of you.

[foreverams]

Yeah, I pieced it together. Probably a bored kid.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

you're probably just a girl who makes minimum wage at mcdonalds.

[foreverams]

You caught me! I'm a single mom hating McDonald's worker that makes minimum wage and is jealous of a random internet stranger.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

yea.. of course. why would you say I got a degree from a garage sale then?

i have 2 degrees and also a nurse license.

so go fuck off , ok? hater?

[pupluv45]

@foreverarms

I notice specifically that you suddenly turned nasty to me right after i told you i can work 3 days a week making 100-120 an hour.

yea... sorry... but thats just how much i make.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

[foreverams]

Okay.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

i can actually afford to have kids. you can't.

[foreverams]

Okay. Great.

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

you mad?

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

im sure you are.

[foreverams]

Yeah, I'm heated. Lol

[pupluv45]

@foreverams

of course you are. you wouldn't have been so nasty if you werent.

[DerkR]

Why would a rich person take a comment on a website so seriously? lol

[pupluv45]

@DerkR

what makes you think I take you seriously? I dont take you seriously. But I take bullying seriously. If you bully me, i will bully you right back.

[pupluv45]

@DerkR

what you say doesn't matter to me. but if you gonna bully other people on here, I wouldn't hesitate to teach you a lesson

[DerkR]

Wtf, I didn't bully anyone

[DerkR]

What bullying did I do to you? I just said that I would think it would be better for you to find a partner to share the child's responsibilities, share the costs and that this would be better for the child's psychology. If you disagree with me and prefer to take full responsibility for a child on your own then that's fine, go ahead, I have no problem with that.

[pupluv45]

@DerkR

i can hire a nanny to share childcare responsibilities. Truth is, having enough financial resources to raise a child is more important than having 2 parents to raise a child.

Kids of lesbian and gay couples do better in school because these les / gay parents tend to be of a higher financial standing compared to heterosexual parents

2 parents raising kids is better than single parent raising children because 2 working parents make more money than a single working parent.

It all has entirely to do with money, not how many parents or the gender of both parents.

[pupluv45]

Kids of lesbian and gay couples do better in school because these les / gay parents tend to be of a higher financial standing compared to heterosexual parents

Lesbian / gay couples cannot have kids. The only les / gay couples that can afford to have kids are those from a higher financial status that can afford reproduction technology such as implantation.

[DerkR]

Okay, so go ahead then

[pupluv45]

@DerkR

Having a father really doesn't mean a good childhood either.

I grew up with a terrible father. But yet here I am working a great career as a woman in great financial standing.

No childhood is perfect. But it doesn't mean we can't grow up into successful adults.

[pupluv45]

Life isn't perfect. Childhoods don't have to be perfect. But it doesn't mean we are all fucked unless we have a spotless perfect childhood.

[Summeroflove]

LMFAO okay

[TheFlak38]

whore alert