Guys, what is the most attractive thing a girl can do/say over text (while keeping it friendly)?

[Anonymous]

When texting a guy friend, what are some of the most attractive things a girl can do? Also, what are unattractive things that girls do over text that make guys annoyed or lose interest?

This is for a guy FRIEND, not a partner.

Thanks very much!!

[SnowedIn]

Respond with more than one word. Ask questions. Tell your own stories. Actually have it be a conversation. Have emotion. So frustrating to type a story and get "cool" in response. Also somewhat annoying to have the conversation be in all abbreviations: ngl fr annoying to only get wdym, ikr, and all the other stuff.

[Asker]

I agree - especially about the emotion and not using abbreviations. Thank you for sharing your advice!

[SnowedIn]

You are most welcome! Best wishes to your friend!

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Summeroflove]

If you like him then be direct that’s probably the most attractive thing you could do.

[Summeroflove]

I will say this. Even with fear of rejection. If you’re flirting with a guy who isn’t into you. You’ll probably chase him off.

So better to be direct

[Asker]

Thank you. I appreciate your advice!

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome and thank you

[QuietVerbena]

Compliment him but it a subtle yet sincere way. Obviously you like him as more than a friend or you wouldn’t care about appearing attractive to him.

[Asker]

Yes, that's a good point. Thank you!

[QuietVerbena]

No problem 😊

[exitseven]

Being attentive is more important than what you say.

[Asker]

Agreed - that sounds very true. Thanks!

[exitseven]

I bet you are good friend,

[Asker]

Thank you very much!

[BarryLiverstone]

If he’s just a friend, you can be silly and laugh and tell jokes or stories

[BarryLiverstone]

An example of something that would seem annoying is if I clearly communicate a thought or idea and all she replies with is : “wtf?” or “wdym?”. Because if I’m being clear I would just have to repeat myself

[Asker]

Thank you - these are very helpful! I can definitely see how that would be annoying, especially if she doesn't just politely ask you to rephrase or elaborate on your ideas.

Thank you again!

[Asker]

Got it! When's too soon to start sharing stories? Or just when it feels right?

[BarryLiverstone]

If someone is a stranger it’s best to not tell a longer story as you would wanna respect their time. Generally you can kinda mimic their replies and length with yours. But if their are a friend by then you should feel safe telling longer stories. If you are hesitant you can always ask “hey I’ve gotta tell you about what happened today, you ready to listen and laugh?” Cuz that prepares them

[Asker]

Thank you very much! I totally understand what you mean about judging how well you know someone (an aquiantance vs. a friend). And that's a great idea!

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. As you asked about a friend it should feel easier to be more open and share with them. Is this anyone in particular?

[Asker]

Well, it's a guy friend that I care very much about. We haven't known each other on a personal level that long, but we've been familiar for a couple years through a mutual friend.

He's very easy to talk to, but I still worry about saying something that might annoy him. And of course, I act like myself with him, but I still want to know if there are things that guys like for girls to say or do. So your ideas were helpful! I'll try sharing a story with him and see how it goes.

[BarryLiverstone]

My only caution is that you care very much about him but sounds like you haven’t spoken to him a lot. I can understand why you don’t want to annoy him if you are already highly emotionally invested. Sure share a story but best thing is to relax and know if you are respectful of his time and attention it’s all good. Good luck :)

[Asker]

Yeah, I do care a lot more about him than he probably does me. And I don't say that in a malicious or self-pitying sense; I'm just the type of person who feels other peoples' pain and happiness deeply. I care very much about what he's going through, and as you say, I am highly emotionally invested.

And that's a very good point you bring up; I think for right now I should just step back, see how things roll, and not try to force or rush anything. And you're absolutely correct - respecting his time also means that I need to acknowledge that his attention won't be on me whenever he's free.

Thank you for all of your advice! 😊

[spartan55]

Why are you 'trying to be attractive' when you are 'friends'
?

[Looksnicholas]

It's a mysterious world fellow stranger and fellow GAG'er 😈😈😁😈😁👀

[Asker]

Fair enough. It's complicated, I suppose.

[spartan55]

Are either of you in relationships?

[Asker]

No, neither of us are

[spartan55]

Good, then you can flirt with a clear conscience.

[Asker]

Yes, I definitely wouldn't flirt if either of us was in a relationship. Thanks for the advice and Happy New Year!

[Anonymous]

There is nothing attractive about any text. Texting is cold and emotionless.

[Thessalian]

She may yes when I ask her to remember her new admirer when she unhooks at the end of the day. It is the ultimate kindness if she agrees.

[Vemynal]

Just talk like a normal person. There isn't a formula.

[slatyb]

What are you doing this weekend?

[misogynistic_pig]

Send a picture of the ass.