Girls, I am an introvert and I dont have the guts to even start a chat with her... what should I do to strengthen my bond with her?

[Anonymous]

I have a huuuge crush on a girl but I am way too afraid to talk to her... so what should I do. ALSO 99.9% She already knows that I have a crush on her, and this fact pulls me away from her whenever I try to overcome my fear of talking to her... its not that i cannt talk to girls... i have a lot of female friends but she is kinda special (AND EXTREMELY BEAUTIFUL... SO MUCH THAT I FEEL SHE IS KINDA OUT OF MY LEAGUE and I am an better-than-average looking guy) dats y i cannt talk to her... i guess i hv told u girls everything... so PLEASE HELP!!

[AmandaYVR]

"She used to be a great friend of mine before covid, but nowadays whenever we cross by, we dont even make eye-contact."

You're 17, you used to be great friends, and you're 99% sure she already knows you like her.

Sorry to say it, but it might be time to stop pining for her.

And, you can't have relationships with people if you don't talk. There's just no way around that. Talk, or have no one in your life. That's what it comes down to.

[Asker]

I have got a contradiction here... @changiis07 said that she might want me to start the conversation and you said that she must have dumped me in her heart... what should I do... and even if she did then is there any way I could change her opinion for me and get her to accept me?

[Asker]

and also I forgot to add one more thing...

Firstly, I would like to know what's your preference, a person's looks or his secure future... cuz I have been a scholar of my school since last 6 years... so if girls prefer a career oriented guys more than good looking peeps, this fact might be of some help

[AmandaYVR]

I personally believe here, with what you've provided, that the girl is likely not interested. Sorry.

I based my advice to you on the specifics you gave (including your replies), and I often read in detail before giving someone my observations. I am cognizant of trying not to lead someone down the wrong path. Others just read the title q and the body, but not your exchanges with the others.

If she was into you, she could contact you. Sounds like she has access to you, at school, or the gym, and on social media. The fact that she doesn't look at you, in your direction... not a good sign. I think it's done.

Maybe you should watch this movie.
www.youtube.com/watch

[Asker]

Sad... but gotcha point tho... thanks

[BrightBubblyKat]

Well, just think about whether you’d end up majorly regretting never getting up the courage to talk to her. It’s silly, isn’t it? What’s she going to do to you, put a bullet between your eyes? Beat you up? Man up. Or you’ll just really annoy her and she’ll lose interest, thinking you’re weak or you’re settling for her.

[dustybiker]

You have to be brave and give it a shot. You can spend your whole life waiting for others to come to you.

[Asker]

Is it ok to just go out of the blue and propose her... won't it give a bad feeling... maybe 'He's a despo' kinda vibe...

[dustybiker]

I would talk to her first. You came at someone like that you’re going to get turned away.

[Asker]

Thats the problem... I am way too afraid to start talking to her... can you tell me what topics would a 17 year old girl would like to talk about... and please be realistic as those wikihow tricks are a big flop

[dustybiker]

It’s been a while since I was 17.
Maybe break the ice by telling her she caught your attention and you’ve been trying to think of ways to talk. Say you are a bit shy. Then see what she says. Being gently honest might soften her. If not let her go.

[dustybiker]

Wait a min. You’re 25-27 hitting on a 17 yr old?

[Changiis07]

You've got nothing to lose. Maybe she is waiting for you to talk to her

[Asker]

Can you tell me how to start talking to her... maybe a few tips or a few topics which she would love to talk about

[Changiis07]

Try talking to her like you would any other friend. Depending on where you see her you can start with a good morning how are you? or hey been seeing you around recently how are you..

[Anonymous]

You said you're better than average... does that mean you're cute? How does she act around you?

[Asker]

I guess she is more into buff guys (I GUESS) cuz she herself is a gym freak and posts stories on insta related to body builder guys and gals... and I am pretty buff... have moderate-big biceps and chest... but i dont think thats enough... also lemme tell you I am just 17... so dont expect me to be like John Cena or something...

She used to be a great friend of mine before covid, but nowadays whenever we cross by, we dont even make eye-contact.

[Anonymous]

Remember, there is no such thing as leagues. Remove that attitude and you might get somewhere.