What does it mean, if a girl tries to find ways to talk to you?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I’m a shy studious guy aged 20. And there’s a beautiful lady teacher at my college aged 30, unmarried. At first i didn’t had any feelings for her. Then I started noticing, that she was getting nice and frank with me. Like are you bunking classes? It’s okay, I’m fine with it. Seeking approval, wanting me to stay pleased with her. Sometimes talking more sweetly than my mother did. She gave me undivided attention, without even blinking eyes. Not even my best friends gave me that level of attention. I started developing feelings. Whenever she saw me, she gave me an intense eye contact stare, which was intimidating sometimes. And when I try to run away, she stops me and tries to initiate a conversation which can be as dumb as, what is the time? even though she’s wearing a watch. Every single time she sees me, she find ways to talk to me.

One day, I came to her instead and initiated by saying I want to ask few things about the home work, she replied with high anger and disgust that not now, come later. She almost screamed on me. From that day she started behaving weird and irritated, don’t know why. Some other day, she screamed on me again saying your work is incomplete, you might get fail/backlog. Again one day she avoided me saying I’m busy, come later. Since then she’s always been very angry with me saying it’s not my responsibility to remind you to complete your work on time, while you are just chilling here and there. I then left the college for some reasons. We never saw each other after that.

I just have two questions:
Q1) Did she had feelings for me?
Q2) Why did she started behaving angrily with me?

She just liked you as a student

She had feelings for you, romantically

It’s all in your brain, there’s nothing between you and her

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Guys..

[SueShe]

If she did have feelings for you, then she should not do that kind of job knowing that it may only cause tensions and that in a number of schools, teachers are prohibited from interacting too much with students. That is very unprofessional and can lead to a number of issues.

Such an issue is probably the reason why her behavior has changed towards you. Someone may have reported her to the headmaster or dean of the school for improper behavior with students and she may have been reprimanded for being too close to you or seemingly giving you a favored treatment.

Teachers being too close to students is a real problem because those teachers are no longer impartial in their judgments and the risk to favor the one student over the other is real.

[Asker]

Didn’t explicitly answer the question but thanks for trying to help. And it is not possible that someone had reported her to headmaster, because she didn’t publicly say anything to me. So no one knows.

[kevypatyy7]

So true. Maybe she realized and stooped by being rude to him

[Anonymous]

She’s definitely not romantically interested in you.

[Asker]

If you could explain how you’re so sure, it would be more helpful. Thanks.

[Opinion Owner]

Everything you’ve explained suggests she isn’t. She’s just merely being a teacher talking to a student.
Because you’re infatuated with her you’re imagining these things in your head.

[TJ1892]

Well, without sounding condescending or rude in any cases of someone engaging with you in conversation or looking for way to find out about your hobbies and interests or to talk about her own to you would suggest a likeness towards you. Whether that's in a romantic sense, or a "friend" capacity without knowing the full dynamic its would be hard to pass full judgement.

[Vikkrram]

Buddy I think there was nothing romantic involved in that it's coz you had feelings for her so you started to observing more around her.

And the anger part was a bit weird might be she had a bad day or you know personal problems that's why she was behaving wid you. And not only you wid others also.

[Asker]

And what about finding excuses to talk to me, every single time she sees me?

[Vikkrram]

Bhai ab pyaar to nahi hi keh sakte na might be it would have just a lust as you are handosme so she might have kinda... samajh rahe ho na aap...

[Anonymous]

Depends. Had she been frank with everyone? Was that just how her personality was?

If no, then she likely did have feelings for you.

Her angry behavior could've just been anything tbh. Maybe she was just having a bad day or maybe she realized how unprofessional her feelings for you were and started deliberately pushing you away.

[Asker]

I don’t know if she’s Frank with everyone or not. My friends say she’s very strict at least in class. And I’ve never seen her taking with anyone so i can’t tell. But one day when i was going towards classroom, she was talking to another teacher, but when she saw me she shifted towards talking to me while we both entered the class.

[Anonymous]

She is like 10 years older than you and she might see your like her “young brother “ considering if you guys are Indians? Then yeah she is nice to you that’s all
But she might also like you hard to tell you can know this unless you ask her.. you can ask her or you can say it first that you like her and notice what she says !
That’s the only way to be sure

[kevypatyy7]

In my opinion, she definitely had feeling for you in the beginning. Am sure she later realized you are a student and nothing can happen between you two. That's why the only way to stop it is to behave rudely to you

[WhitneySnow]

That’s very strange. It sounds like she liked you at first. I don't know why she flipped out.

[Anonymous]

That’s hot, you should go for it if you find her attractive.

[Iron_Man]

It means she wants to discuss whatever she wants to discuss

[katiesmuff]

I think it's in your head

[Asker]

I also want to believe the same, but the question arises why every single time she sees me, she find excuses to talk even though I was trying to avoid her. This isn’t normal behaviour. It is awkward.

[CoolCatMar1]

There wasn't anything romantic in this

[Asker]

I’m getting your point, friends. But it just feels unusual to me that whenever i pass by, she always come after me and tries to interact. Also I don’t have any explanation of she staring me with wide open eyes. Waiting for me to say something. Giving me her full attention.
Maybe she is just like that. Or maybe she just like me as a student. We’ll never know. Let’s just leave it, we can’t do anything about it now. Peace.

[Guy13]

She likes you.

[Nikki1989]

You are overthinking this way too much.

[In_Trance]

It means she wants to talk to you

[Anonymous]

She obviously likes you.