Should I just Move on from Friend?

[Anonymous]

I met this girl almost a year ago at work, she is younger than me, and although i had a crush on her and she found out a while back- I did not tell her, she asked other people or that opinion because i thought being friends was more important. It is really hard for me to makes friends- that is why I value it so much. I thought that things did not changed that much after that, However, recently I noticed that she has found a new female friend that is around the same age, she initiate spending time with her, going out, and texting. When i try to ask her to do the same thing, she outright dismiss it. i really don't see any effort from her, if she sees me, she just say hi, and leaves, there no conversation or anything, no texting if i don't text. I feel that this is just one-sided. I asked her to have a conversation with me because i wanted to discuss something with her - it was about me noticing her being distant and that i noticed something has changed in our relationship, i wanted in person but she was out with her friend, and so we had the conversation through the phone. I talked to her and she was surprised about it, and that she did not noticed that anything had changed. Although she knows now about my concerns, she keep doing the same thing. I think that i am getting tired of this, i am about to just let it die out, and move on. i thought, we were friends. What do you guys think?

[ilikesnow]

if it helps, i never text first because i think that if someone wanted to talk to me THEY would text first, instead of me having to text first every single time. if you really value her friendship then of course don't let it die out, but if you don't really mind i suggest you just let it fade because you're just putting a lot of stress on yourself right now..

[Anonymous]

Well, hi I’m Kat. I think you should ask her what’s wrong and tell her that you feel like you’re drifting away from each other. That you value her friendship. That’s the best you can do. You can’t control others.

[Asker]

Thank you, Kat, I agree with you with everything you said, but i think that i tried to at least have it, but she sees no change. I think I will just give her time and space, if she does not reach out I think I found the answer. Every type relationships requires time and effort from both people, if not it will not work. In the end it will die out on its own.

[Guy13]

If you really value her as a person and in a relationship then take appropriate steps to fix it. Firstly, talk it out or at least gently share your concerns. this is what real friends do and I do not understand the hesitancy in doing so.

[melanieeeB]

Let it die out and search for other friends, better friends that you're not also attracted too