Why does my girlfriend allow nude photos to be taken of her?

[Anonymous]

my girlfriend dresses in a very provocative manner... she loves the attention she gets at the beach... or a night out of town... whatever the situation may be... she likes to tease men and does it frequently... there is no compromise when it comes to her fashion sense... her model is less is better... she pushes the envelope too far sometimes... we are close to breaking up... due to her fashion choices... she has gravitated to allowing photos to be taken in a nude, or semi-nude setting... she talks about becoming a "cam" girl... this is going to far!!!

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1 y

perhaps I did not make myself clear... I am the photographer... I have told her I will not continue taking photos of her... her response is... "you are the only one I trust"... if I quit, what will become her... if someone else takes my place, will we take advantage of her? she's not a hoe... or a gold digger... she makes a tremendous amount of money in marketing... I've never given her a dime...
does she have daddy issues

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1 y

Sorry about that I lost the connection... perhaps I didn't make myself clear... I take the photographs... he didn't trust anyone else to do it... she makes a tremendous amount of money as a SMM... I've never given the moment to dime... and she's never asked for any money... I have never attempted to control her... but I don't always approve of her questionable fashion sense... I wonder does she have daddy issues!!!

[SteveSmith1985]

When you say "daddy issues" I don't know exactly what you mean. I recently was a bit of a jack-ass in response to this girl about that. What I said is a part of it. But it's incomplete. Are you talking about THAT aspect of what you're calling "daddy issues"?

or

Look at what the dude wrote under my reply. THAT is what "daddy issues" are truly and actually about.

Guy said I most have daddy issues why would be say that?

So if you're talking about more, what I said here... the description I give... then...

What it is, (whether "daddy issues" related or not), is a woman who craves overt sexual attention.

The WHY that is the case... is going to matter less than the fact that it IS the case. For whatever reason, she is a woman who likes to do this photography thing, and dress all revealing. And... I don't blame you for feeling the way you feel about it. I wouldn't be ok with it either.

But fact is, she IS that way, and has every right to be, if that's how she wants to be.

It's up to you whether you're ok with having a girlfriend who acts the way she does.

I don't see how you reconcile this. Either way, somebody is unhappy. You either have to suck-it-up and live with having a girlfriend who is acting in a way that's not appropriate to you (or me, or most guys in your shoes).

It's a flaw that for me, would necessarily make that woman someone I couldn't be in a relationship with. To me, that's not ok for any girlfriend to be doing. So if a woman is of that type. She has every right to be that way. But you need to decide if that's acceptable to you or not. Because like you said, you don't want to try and control her. So if it's not acceptable... you have no real choice but to leave. It's a sign that you've got different values when it comes to this.

Neither of you are "wrong". But might just be wrong for each other. You kinda need to be on the same page with regards to "what's appropriate behavior when in a relationship". Regardless of the situation, if you're not on the same page on that... it can't work. At least not in a way that dosn't require an unfair comporomise on somebodys' part.

[TruthBringer]

You got a low-quality woman on your hands, my guy. Any woman who is starving for the attention and validation of people other than her own man should not be considered long-term relationship material.

What did you expect when you got with her? That she was going to change? She won't. Women like that don't. She doesn't respect you nor does she care for you. She cares more about the attention she gets from other men than she actually cares for your feelings. Your gut already tells you to break up and that's exactly what you should do. These types of women are notorious for cheating on their men. And if I were you, I'm not going to wait and see.

I would rather break my heart once by ending it and moving on with someone more modest than to stay in a relationship with a hoe who is going to break my heart over and over again.

I'm currently with a modest and mature girl who only cares for my validation. And life couldn't be any better. You could also have that life if only you get rid of the hoe on your hands.

[PrettyPriya]

Break up with her. I am not even sure why this is a question. I would not allow this sort of behaviour from my partner. End it now before it gets any worse than it is. It is her choice to do whatever it is she wants to do like being a cam girl, but it is also your choice whether to tolerate it or leave her.

I think the choice is pretty clear that you need to leave her. You find the behaviour unacceptable (I would too) so time to break with her and find someone more suitable.

It does not sound from your details that she is going to change and this is the lifestyle she is going to pursue. I would have stopped immediately if my partner started teasing or flirting with girls. I know that my husband would not stand for me acting like this. It is not the values of a high quality individual.

I am surprised at the age of 45+ you cannot work this one out on your own. Seems like a pretty simple decision to me.

[Asker]

I've considered breaking up with her, but she's a young woman of 22 and young people make mistakes... due to a lack of life experiences... she basically a good woman with good values...
she has a gorgeous body and knows it... and she truly loves me... I think!!!

[PrettyPriya]

It is the last two works that have me worried. "I think" meaning you don't know. All signs point to she doesn't if she is getting nude around other guys, right?

[Agape93]

She can do as she likes, mind your business and stay out of hers.

[Asker]

she is my business... I don't believe you fully understand the problem... she's a free spirit and she's very young... young people make mistakes... but she is basically a good woman... thanks for your opinion...

[Agape93]

Uh no, she isn't your business. You make take the pictures, but that is only what you do as a favor. What she does or why, is not your business. If she wants to have pictures taken of her in a nun habit, she can. If she wants one of her naked stuffing a beer bottle in her asshole, she can. She can take her photography needs elsewhere to someone who won't judge her.

[21Cowboy21]

It sounds like she is more or less using you as a wallet while she peacocks for better quality mates who could be potential upgrades for her in the future if she can find one who is willing to commit just like you have already - but who is hotter.

I'd break up with her and remain as just friends with benefits if she's still attracted to you. But if you are exclusive - understand your relationship is only exclusive from your end only and she sees. you more as a sucker that is plan B than anything while she "finds herself" as so many girls like to word it these days (while they find themselves hoping around 10 different men on rotation until the lock in with the highest quality one they can get to commit just to them and settle down.

[Wade12345]

Either you make the choice to love her as she is, or the two of you will end up breaking up. It's that simple.

[rachel776]

some girls are like that. all girls are like that a little bit, but not as extreme as that

[SnowedIn]

It's what she likes!

[Asker]

you're absolutely correct she does like it... she loves the attention!!!

[SnowedIn]

I agree with @PrettyPriya

End your relationship with her. It's neither your place to judge her (I'm not saying you are) nor to change her. She can do what she wants -- not up to you to have her do differently if you don't like it.

[Zayed_]

She doesn’t respect you or herself.

[Asker]

I don't believe that's the case, but it is possible... the woman wants me to marry her...

[Iron_Man]

Not good at all talk to her

[Asker]

she's a headstrong young lady... she's very opinionated... she can also be unreasonable and overly emotional... not to mention the biggest pain in my butt...

[In_Trance]

you answered your own question

[Anonymous]

Is she a cam girl?