When does “we” include yourself?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Sometimes people will say “we are all going to…” but that’s it. Is that an invitation to join them. I use to think it did until I realized it didn’t include mean I was invited. For example I was once told “we are all going to take a group picture” but what they meant was “we are going to be in the group picture, but we want you to take the picture.” So why shouldn’t I always assume that when people tell me “we” that it doesn’t include me?

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There’s also been times when after they all went and I didn’t they would ask why I didn’t go. That the “we” was an invitation.

[HomoSaysWhat]

It's something which i was thinking I never really put much thought into it although I've actually have. Several times i was expected that i would go to an assumed that everyone knew all were invited and because I didn't know to ask "can i come" and no one said "everyone's invited" or "you're coming right" I assumed that i was not invited. Yet not being somewhere and people wondered where i am later has happened a lot with me.

[Anonymous]

If it includes you, they'll mention that after.

"We're all going to the movies. Wanna come?"

Don't worry I feel your pain though. My friends used to have parties and not invite me, then talk about what a great time they all had. Dicks.

(To be fair, it was because all the girls kept focusing on me when I was there and I hurt their chances of getting laid. Not trying to be conceded but that was why. That's what they told me anyway.)

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Yes I assumed that but then there have been times I’ve been asked afterwards why I didn’t go or wasn’t there.

[Opinion Owner]

Huh, that's weird. I guess you could always say "Are you asking me to come?"
You know, if they're not being clear about it

[Opinion Owner]

Of course, taking a picture and going out to do something are different.
Why would they mention they're gonna go do something if you're not invited?
Unless they're dicks like my friends

[Heolurt]

We had never included me, unless it was I saying it but that's never happened so it was never meant to include me.

[ChefPapiChulo]

We just means more than one and who is part of that we depends on context.

[Jennz6]

“We” includes all of us

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Not always. I’ve been in situations when they said we and it didn’t include me. For example. My coworkers once said, “we are going to leave work early and get some drinks.” Which really meant, “we are all going to leave early for drinks and you need to stay and cover.”
So we doesn’t always include “all” of us.
Like if you’re at your friend’s house and he says “we are going to have sex.” He’s probably talking about him and his partner and not you.

[Jennz6]

I didn’t go that far in school so I can’t help sorry