There's a girl from work (22F) that I (23M) thought was really cute. I began asking about her and everyone told me she was the nicest person I could ever meet, however, when I tried chat to her she seemed really shy.
At the Christmas staff party we exchanged numbers and were clearly into eachother, however she began to tell me she doesn't date co workers. We kept texting for a few weeks and she would blow really hot and cold. She would always seem interested in me, but then once I felt I would get some traction she would go cold.
Last month she begins to text me and yet again, it becomes obvious she likes me, but once I make headway she pulls back. One night then she went out drinking with friends and started texting me. She basically said that she's jnto me but she doesn't trust men at the moment and there's nothing can be done about it and she can't change that.
Last week she offered me a lift home from work and on the way home she wouldn't converse much at all. We ended up making out and she confirmed she does like me, but she said last year her ex dumped her and she was heartbroken and because it affected her so much she just doesn't trust men not to do it again. She wouldn't let me know much about her all along either because she was afraid she'd begin to feel a connection and risk more heartbreak just as she has begun to feel comfortable in her own skin and regain her self confidence.
We talked for a bit and she said she wanted to hang out. The following day she started talking to me at work and texting me after to plan a cinema date. All was fine and then last night she sent me a text saying she can't do it. She said that she can't mix work and relationships and that she's just after becoming comfortable again and she's not ready for anything and doesn't want to hang out with me or see me now.
I must say I was gutted because we both know we like eachother, and I just want a chance to prove I'm a decent guy, but she seems too afraid. What can I do?
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Eventually, you will realize that this ping-pong game can run a very long time and exhaust your patience. And do you really want to be with a chick who doesn't want to be with you, just because you think she has a hot body and you talked her into it?
And, eventually, you wll move forward in a different direction.
Dude, a girl at work just rejected me today lol. It was awesome!
Don't keep trying my friend, it's over. The better you take it, the higher the chance she'll reconsider in the future. But for now... no
And whatever you do, for the love of god, don't take it to heart and make things awkward at work.
A high value man doesn't give a fuck if he gets rejected, and just enjoys the experience of asking them out.
Women can see that and they'll know that about you for the future
She's not.