Why are women intimidated by successful men?

[Anonymous]

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In my case, women are intimidated by me. I am more successful than women of my age. I belong to a wealthy family, I was a brilliant student of my class. I have done my bachelors and masters with any gaps. I got a high paying job. Earned millions in stock trading. People said, your have accomplished a lot in your life bcoz you are gifted and the luckiest person. But I am not lucky in love though. I think girls are jealous of my success including my feminist younger sister.

[Jersey2]

If you have the ability to take a sabbatical then get a used van, travel the country on a low budget, bounce around some towns and even stay a while if you like it. You will bump into some girls who will see you different than those who know you already. If they ask, tell them you are taking a road trip and just seeing a bit of the country but don’t lie about yourself, just don’t be putting it out there… so no helicopter dates or high end hotels or restaurants, think State Park barbecues or a modest dinner and movies. You may find a gem of a woman that cares for you and not the other stuff as it will be too late for her to be intimidated.

[Asker]

So you are telling me to find a girl from countryside?

[Jersey2]

Small town, suburbs even a city girl but not the Upper East/West side. That’s one strategy. I like it because it would be someone who genuinely likes you for you. To me that would be important.

Or you could even just go after an intimidated girl in your circle that you like and breakthrough it all with some determination and finesse.

[Asker]

I am a career guys, so naturally like career girls but it's not working with them. I am a good guy and I think husband / wife relationship is not a competition. We must support and motivate each other to achieve more.

Career women are playing hard to get. I will try dating girls from suburbs and small towns. Let see what happens next? I like girls who are easy to get along and submissive. Any good girl is fine if she loves me unconditionally and wants to spend her life with me. I don't have a long checklist.

[Jersey2]

You sound like a young me except I came from nothing but it was a good family. I have been married for decades now and like it. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks!!! 😊

[mobiusforniner]

I feel women are attracted to the ATTITUDES which come with a successful man who has worked hard to get to where he is in life. This growth brings about a carefree, humble, relaxed, and mature behavior which I discover is very attractive to women. And having kids yields an even more patient approach to all kinds of personalities which again, is very attractive to women.

For me personally, it seems attractiveness is proportional to success and I have frequent PROBLEMS with attracting too many women even years after I'm married.

So rather than gloat in your perceived successes, focus more on your own ATTITUDE.

Humility isn't thinking less of yourself. It's thinking of yourself LESS.

[Saville_Row]

I don't know. How chill are you about it? If you spend ninety percent of a date talking about how successful and great you are, it is definitely going to turn a woman off. You can mention some details about your work and about your accomplishments, but it should not be done aggresively.

You need things in common and to form a connection, not giving a woman your resume.

[Asker]

I thought women are impressed by successful men but it's not, it's a big turnoff especially for career women. Career women don't like successful men. They are intimidated and jealous of my success.

[IveGotNoName]

It is inaccurate to state that women are specifically intimidated by successful men. Women are intimidated by women, men are intimidated by women, men are intimidated by men.

People are intimidated by succesful people because it hightens their fear of being inadequate.

[IveGotNoName]

Some women are also intimidated by succesful men of course, but again it's not specific to the gender.

[Vick2828]

Men are not intimated by women

[IveGotNoName]

@Vick2828 They certainly can get intimidated. Even I have experienced that, since I am in STEM, and almost everyone I am sorrounded by are men.

[Tina19]

I think yes people will be jealous of u so you will have to select a women who wants to love you not compete with yoh.. someone who is a secure confident lady

[Asker]

Your are absolutely! right!! Where is she? Hard to find that kind of girl. I need a girl who will support me to achieve more and in return I will support her too.

[Tina19]

Yes but still exist somewhere out there good luck 👍

[Asker]

Thanks! 😊 Everyone gives the same answer.

[Tina19]

Because everyone who said that are absolutely 💯 right 😃

[Asker]

😊👏👏👏

[Effably]

If we assume you're right. And we also assume most men would prefer a successful man, or for their man to be successful, that would tell us a pretty funny thing about women.

But I think that it also tells us most women are not intimidated by our success.

[bamesjond0069]

Some women will be because they are women and they get scared and intimidated very easily. Just don't talk about it much. They will also think you look down on them for not being as successful... because this is how they would do if the situation was reversed. So communicate that you don't care they aren't successful. Or explain how a successful woman to you may be other attributes like pleasant, moral, social etc.

[ElGato31]

Because I think that he will think I'm with him because of his success and I don't want to feel like I'm not enough.

[ElGato31]

Also, I find it a bit odd that such a successful man spends a second on here.

[Asker]

I'm looking for my soulmate here.

[ElGato31]

Well, at least you are funny.

[RARETRAMP]

It depends on successful man's attitude!! Boasting about yourself is a no-no in not only in women dictionary. Really no one likes arrogant pricks even if they are successful!!

[Anonymous]

Don't pull any muscles patting yourself on the back. Nothing of what you just said is true anyway.

[Anonymous]

I think it's just because I know they can easily get other women.

[In_Trance]

For the same reason men are intimidated by successful women

[misogynistic_pig]

because they are inferior

[Agape93]

I'm not. I couldn't care less.

[SaoirseS]

I don’t know of anyone who said we were.

[Leopard23]

Because it arouses them.

[boobliker]

coss they are users

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I see what you did there, lol.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I'm not.

[Anonymous]

Is it? Are you joking dude?

[Jamie05rhs]

They're not.