Why are men intimidated by successful women?

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Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I´m not sure if they are intimated per se though to be fair it looks like that from an outside perspective. I think the main reason is that many guys don´t want a woman that makes them feel like they are competitors of who´s the most achieving at home.
But at the same time it´s not only the guys that are at fault since I´ve heard recently of a study that woman are more likely to unhappy in a relationship when their partner makes less than they do.
Generally speaking I think it´s a climate of jealousy that´s the problem. In a such situation where everybody just thinks what kind of partner would make them look great and is less interested in how to build a great relationships people cry about such problems.
Many guys define their masculinity by what they achieve. Being a man is often defined by deeds in modern days and not by physical attributs. So if there´s a woman that´s more achieving I think there are quite a few guys that feel like she´s outperforming in everything. So these guys avoid dating a woman that seems to be better in everything.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

we're trained to think in terms of winners and losers, at least in the West.

If she's winning, how can we win... so we lose. We don't have something to offer.

That's all false, and have to learn to think differently...

MrOracle · Answer

They are NOT intimidated. This is a lie that women tell themselves to feel better.

Rather, men are UNINTERESTED in them, because they are too much of a hassle to deal with. They are invariably masculine, combative, and do not bring peace.

Women value men that have money and social status, but those are NOT things that men value in women. Men do not value a woman's education, career, or income, and in fact, those things are often a negative because they usually come at the expense of youth, fertility, and femininity - plus, women do not pay for men like men do for women, and for the few women who do, most come to resent him for it.

Most men deal with successful people all the time and don't care. Success isn't itself the problem - it's that success for women usually comes at the expense of the things men want from women, and bring little if anything to a relationship that the man cannot already get on his own.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Why are men intimidated by successful women?

They're not intimidated. For the umpteenth time. (Mostly. Except for a small portion.)

Females who SAY men are intimidated by them have the worst damn attitudes. It's ugly. Ugly on the inside. That's why men don't want them. So the females justify their shit attitude by pointing the finger at, and blaming men.

Guy13 · Answer

Just the social media, couch sitting, games player, Mommie says, "you're perfect the way you are mommie boys" who are broke asses and blame everyone else for their problems.

Enaya · Answer

Men are raised to provide in most societies and they want to impress women with their capabilities. Most men are not raised to play second to their wives. That's why you see so many successful men with women with hobby careers who don't make as much as them and who are generally pretty and fawning. A successful woman can be pretty, maybe even beautiful but it is not easy to make a successful woman fawn unless the man is something impressive. Women they can't impress with money, careers, cars, etc tend to be more successful than the men. It's not like the guys wouldn't desire them, they just think they can't provide what those women want. They are right to some extent because most women practice hypergamy - they want someone at their level or better. So the chances of a woman who is very accomplished finding a mater goes down as she gets more educated and goes up the ladder.

Not only is traditional society to blame, but men these days in the US at least are falling behind women in education, so statistically hypergamy becomes more and more difficult. Still, you won't see the Amal Clooneys of the world dating Joe Shmoe. That is just the truth. Neither gender is to blame. It's evolution. Men are hunters whose egos are dependent on providing. Women want the most strong/successful man she can find to be father to her children. But if men in today's society are falling behind on education, it will create a problem. That leads to this truism that successful women are intimidating. No, their standards are intimidating. It also creates poison in the men who feel inadequate by those standards.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I'm not but only the more positive side. Some would rather be the breadwinner while she stays at home. Me, I'd like a partnership, whatever that eventually entails - she and I both work, she works and I stay home or she's a traditional housewife, that's not something I can predict. But that would ultimately require for a highly unlikely event to occur, someone to be interested in me and me in her.

If she is independent enough to carry her own weight, man may feel inadequacy. Traditionally, a man is a provider. Being successful can also change a person, their attitude, their mentality, many men are turned off by what they become.

Strong will can result in these personal traits, some negative, some positive - pain tolerance, self-Motivation, self-control, honesty, domineering or controlling behavior, uncompromising, callousness or no respect for boundaries.

The very thing that's called, toxic masculinity, they end up also having. Who wants a partner that doesn't give a fuck about boundaries or their partner's needs and wants?

A big turn off to me is the mere mention of "I don't need a man" on a dating profile or hearing from a prospective partner in real life. It isn't the the same as hearing, "I'm capable of taking care of myself, but desire companionship", it makes me think of the more negative aspect that they're set in their ways and you can like it or lump it. An ideal relationship for myself is one where we both compromise, we're not going to agree on everything, obviously.

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ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Successful, available, my age, living anywhere near me? What unicorn do you speak of? And why would she care that I even exist? And if the only measure of success here is income or wealth in terms of fleeting treasures or an unstable dollar, then where's the soul? If she doesn't have that, she'll turn ugly once the global elites bleed her account dry. She won't join a militia to take the country back, and stick a middle finger to the neo-feudalists. She won't learn survivalism to live in the woods, and network with the rest of the fleeced victims.

She'll just keep whining, until she either sells out to these thieves like a whore, or else they get tired of her whining and hire some lunatic to put a bullet in her.

If that's where her heart lies, then she's a sea lion that other sea lions won't let catch enough fish to maintain her preferred standard of living. What use have I for a sea lion?

Moreover, to her, I'd just be a fly on the wall. Ignored at best, swatted at worst.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think they are intimidated maybe the women shows to much arrogance too and unnecessary proudness.
Have you ever heard about the story of this poor men.. named Daniel Halseth 45 years old men. He was already rich and well known in his area but but his wife had a “dream” becoming a politician. Ofc as a civilized earth king he let his wife fulfill her dream with HIS MONEY. He spend so much for her campaigns.. and guess what happened. She cheated on her husband and found another men within her field a politician. She cheated on him for 3 years this men was suspecting her but still let it go because of the kids. Until one day it became obvious he realized she was cheating and it became obvious because jungle bells jingle bells - she loved the bastard sue found 🙄. So they got divorced and she took the kids away from him. Once he got divorced he went to so many therapy session and psychiatrist. In a way she destroyed a family because yes she was arrogant and proud - foolish proudness. Was hai dick better than her husband one? Obviously not but she is a witch with no soul.
At the end this men got killed from her daughter.. she didn’t want to live with her MOTHER she also went to therapy sessions when her patents got divorced. She was a lunatic at 15 years old and liked her dad. If her parents never got divorced she wouldn’t have never killed her dad.

Successful women are arrogant they believe they deserve - someone as they are high and intelligent lol

Anonymous · Answer

It's a common stereotype that men are intimidated by successful women, but it's important to note that this is not true for all men. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to why some men may be intimidated by successful women, as it can depend on a variety of factors including cultural and societal norms, personal insecurities, and individual experiences.

One reason why some men may be intimidated by successful women is because of traditional gender roles and expectations. In some cultures, men are expected to be the primary breadwinners and hold positions of power and authority, while women are expected to be nurturing caregivers. When women break these traditional gender roles and achieve success in traditionally male-dominated fields, some men may feel threatened or insecure.

Additionally, some men may have personal insecurities about their own success or abilities, and seeing a woman succeed may make them feel inadequate or inferior. This can lead to feelings of intimidation or even resentment towards successful women.

It's important to note that these are generalizations and that not all men feel this way. Many men are supportive of women's success and are not intimidated by strong, successful women.

Unit1 · Answer

Give me successful women! I will make them happy. i dont need your money! i make my own money 😁😁😁😁😁 Dope!

genericname85 · Answer

of course they aren't. but i observed that women love to choose these exact words that you used in your question. cause the word "intimidation" already predetermines any affirming answers as pathetic. i personally think this is an expression of toxic femininity. it's rhetoric bullying. i give women the benefit of the doubt. i think they don't do it intentionally but nevertheless, that's what they do.

Anonymous · Answer

That's a misleading question. Men typically are not intimidated by successful women so much as most guys who know how woman think and KNOW that women's EXPECTATIONS are generally relative to her status in life. In other words if a woman makes 25k a guy better make 50k, if she makes 50k he better make 100k, if she makes 100k he better make 200k, and so on and so forth.

This is a repeating theme when it comes to dating. Women worry about finding a quality guy who's not just looking to get laid or a guy who's not going to flake on her down the road. But women don't realize is quality guys worry about finding a REALISTIC woman. One that is going to be supportive of him, as these types of women unfortunately are in just as support supply as quality guys.

msc545 · Answer

Women seem to think that the same metrics by which they judge men are the ones that men judge them by. We don't really care how much money they make or how much education they have. What we really care about is what kind of people they are. The only people that go after other people's resources are women going after the results of men's hard work. This is why men were looking after their own well-being don't get married.

notwoke · Answer

We're not intimidated, but women with big careers typically don't usually have the qualities men value in a mate. While women are looking for a mate to be a strong masculine breadwinner, those are not traits that are highly valued by men. Men value the traits typically found in a woman raised in a traditional environment without feminism and matreialism

thatssuppy190 · Answer

We’re not intimidated, were just not necessarily attracted to it. A man is more attracted to a more submissive and in need woman than the other way round. Just like a woman mostly isn't attracted to a submissive and in need man. Men and women are just different people. When are we going to stop bitching about our differences..

misogynistic_pig · Answer

No man is intimidated by successful women, only old men who are not successful think that. Marrying a woman without money or from a lower social class would only impoverish the man, as well as hinder him. Beautiful women marry a rich man, ugly women go to college, we college students know that, elite college and postgraduate students are unattractive women, who in the future are easily manipulated by young black and Mexican men who want their money. The image of a young, attractive, successful woman with big tits is just a wet dream for old spinster frigid feminists.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

Successful women aren’t intimidating. They become trickier to navigate though.

If she’s socially conservative, chances are she’s traditional, she wants the man to be the bread winner. If she’s a lawyer or doctor, chances are her standards are in the top percentile. You better be a great doctor, or leading attorney of the firm. And how many of us are there?

If she’s socially liberal, she may be more accepting of you being less financially advanced. However, you may have to deal with looser boundaries, such as friends with exes, doing OnlyFans, her being a party chick, etc. She might ask for a prenup, etc.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Are we really intimidated though?  Only successful women can get a shot at me. I need to be impressed... and given a lifestyle of no work.

CindyRuns · Answer

Because they can't handle the competition. I'm smart, strong and powerful... if I guy couldn't handle it, let him find someone else !!!

rienna888 · Answer

I think everybody will at some point question if they’re good enough for their partners. So they start to compare things like education, status, looks, personality, humour, etc. I think it’s natural. But no you should constantly improve yourself to be the best.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

We aren’t those women just need to tell themselves that men are intimidated because they don’t want them

women don’t share their resources success and wealth doesn’t make women more attractive like it does for men

megabamse · Answer

I'm not at all. If my lady where to earn so much money that i don't need to work a single day of my life then hell yeah. I can stay home and take care of the house and stuff. Do my hobbies

RationalMale · Answer

Women think that being successful should be attractive to men the way women are attracted to successful men.

We aren't. Its not a turn on. So then women realize this and tell each other men are just intimidated.

The other problem is women date across and up, men date across and down. Meaning, a successful man is going to be more attractive to women who make less vs women who make equal pay.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Lol, that's a good question to win you some points w/ the female users but, men aren't intimidated by successful women it's just that a lot of the traits that make women financially successful make them unattractive to men and don't tend to hold women accountable.

fonduegirl · Answer

She can easily discard him if she's successful herself. Know why many marriages in 80s survived? Wife's financial dependency!!

bean2k21 · Answer

No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other. - Gospel of Bean2k21

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I am not intimidated by successful women at all. There are a lot of them that I won't hang out with because of personality and some tend to be in a rush all the time, but I don't feel intimidated.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

What's to be intimidated about? Still just a woman when you strip away all the success/luxuries.

This socioeconomic crap is what makes us a dumb species, thinking someone is better than another person bc of the car they drive. What a pile.

Pegases · Answer

It's true that some men find successful women intimidating, but it's also true that successful women are often insufferable to be around, especially today. Most often from what I've seen, and a man not wanting to be around a successful woman, had more to do with her character. A lot of women just default to saying men are intimidated by them, or gay, because its trendy, and an easy way for them to protect their ego.

Jersey2 · Answer

Successful people generally aren’t “soft” people, they are hard or hard nosed. Men want a feminine woman not a business partner.

RavVid · Answer

Who says we are intimidated by successful women? This a feminist trope because they think men should have the same mate selection criteria as women. They explain our lack of interest in some successful women as 'being intimidated'. It has got to be a male failure instead of the female being unattractive.

RobT312 · Answer

I don’t know but I’m not. My future wife is going to end up making more money than me in the long run. It’s just the nature of our professions and I say good for her.

clampfan101 · Answer

The same reason I am for beautiful women. I worry I don’t deserve them. (That of course doesn’t mean I wouldn’t want either/both. I’m just extra shy.)

Anonymous · Answer

In my case, women are intimidated by me. I am more successful than women of my age. I belong to a wealthy family, I was a brilliant student of my class. I have done my bachelors and masters with any gaps. I got a high paying job. I made millions in stock trading. People said, your have accomplished a lot in your life bcoz you are a gifted and the luckiest person.

But I am not lucky in love though. I think girls are jealous of my success including my feminist younger sister. Some of my male friends are jealous too. They can't digest my success. All my friends who make less money are married. But I am still searching for soulmate.

Anonymous · Answer

In this stereotypical world are you really surpried.

For many many years men have been brought up to be the bread winner, the man, the protector of women.

Seeing a woman take a higher or same roles makes the man not exactly feel happy and also makes him feel like people will laugh at him.

I'm not saying women can't be successful or be higher or same as a man professionally in a job but for a man's masculinity especially if she tell him what to do in front of others makes him feel less of a man.

If we are going down this road then let me ask you something, why in a divorce that the mother's have more rights over the kids than the father's and if the father does get custody of the kids does the mother pay child support and if not then why not? If the father has too if kids are living with the mother then why doesn't the mother if kids are living with the father

baseball_del_tuono · Answer

They aren’t!! intimidated and uninterested/turned off are different things. Having a private jet isn’t what a man thinks a woman’s success is

Anonymous · Answer

These gender questions have started getting tiresome 😈

JSmuve · Answer

Men aren't intimidated per se; they just know that women prefer to date up or across so a "successful" woman is more likely to look down on him if she doesn't view him as at least on her level success-wise. Men want to feel powerful like women want to feel safe. Successful women often fail to make men feel powerful because they're not wired to.

You could reframe the question to say "why are women so afraid of dating less successful men?"

Shiningtempest · Answer

@coachtanthony Some men are intimidated by successful women because of her rude personality & or unpleasant demeanor.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I think only the unsuccesful men are intimidated.

Still-alive · Answer

Toxic masculinity has convinced men they have to be the breadwinners and still see women as subservient to men and should stay home with the kids.

Keishio · Answer

Personally I'd like to be with a successful women. I'm no millionaire but i make good money in the construction industry and with the way things are these days being with someone on a similar income is an attractive thought. Every woman I've ever been with has always been in an entry level job and none of them have even been able to drive so someone with of self sustainability would be a nice change

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I think it's a dominance thing.  What do you think?

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

The question is, do men really care about the success of girls/women. The answer is a clear NO. Way more than average number of men do not.

Yes, a woman/girl with an attitude? Yes, definitely. I mean, who would stand such a human, right?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Insecurity. Doesn't bother me. I work with attorneys who get chunks huge settlements and often deal with "celebrities" on cases.

Anonymous · Answer

Because many men want to be a breadwinner and if they aren't they would feel useless in the relationship as it is traditionaly their role.

Sleeper07 · Answer

It's not intimidating to be with successful women, I think that's a wrong choice of wording, it's more that I don't wanna compete with someone I plan to make love to. It's just a preference, maybe I like being dominant. ;)

sheikalana · Answer

I personally never felt that I intimidate men. From my experience the men I dated and the man I'm currently with say that they always feel very inspired by my ambition and are always proud of my accomplishments.

ElGato31 · Answer

They're not. Most men like women who have their shit together. Also, the answer depends on how you define 'successful'

Anonymous · Answer

A rule of thumb to remember:

Men are normally perfectly okay with dating women who warn more than them. However, the vice versa is not true, as a woman earning more money does not override her demand for a man who outearns her.

As 21 Savage once said, a rich man can change a poor woman's life, but a rich woman won't look a poor man's way.

Anonymous · Answer

Biologically and historically , men are to be the providers, hunters. A woman taking his spot essentially by surpassing him is intimidating. It’s masculine territory they view it as. Even though woman would have to have somewhat of a drive to run a home, take care of their children, raise boys…etc. it’s never been neck and neck to men’s drive. Hope this makes sense

WhyohWhy69 · Answer

I don’t think they are as long as she is kind. If she’s arrogant, that may be the issue. People care more about how you treat them than your title. People don’t like arrogant men, either.

Stevefiveo · Answer

I'm not. I think it is best to celebrate your wife's success than be against it.

Mangospacho · Answer

I know several successful women and they are admirable and charming and not intimidating. The women who are truly successful don’t go around brag-plaining about how intimidating they are to men.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Because Successful Women are turned off by Guys who aren't that Confident.

Adaeva · Answer

I don't accept your premise as being the truth.

ChillaxingLove · Answer

I’m not personally intimidated by a successful woman. The real question is she willing to date a man who makes less than her? I’m guessing no

Miristheiss · Answer

She is most likely super busy ALL the time and acts very masculine. That is not what attracts most men.

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

They aren’t me. Don’t care if women are successful in the work place at all.

Pete671 · Answer

Because often they lie and cheat to get where they are, so often you just can't trust them, having said that my boss is female and one of the best bosses I've ever had,,,

CriticallyEmpty · Answer

Depends on what you mean by successful. Just wealth? Education? Status?

Intimidated isn't the right word. Uninterested/Disinterested. Put-off. Contemplate?

Different factors can limit your pool of suitable partners.

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