Why are men afraid of confident women?

[Anonymous]

[KingdomFictiom]

I can tell you one thing right now. I'm terrified of my girlfriends confidence. Not in the sense of fear but of her overwhelming personality. She is never afraid to tell it like it is and in my case she is never afraid to take charge of most situations that I could handle. I'm used to taking care of myself and living on my own, but my girlfriend has no problem telling me what I need to get done and doing things on my behalf.

At first, I felt demasculated. In a sense, I felt like I wasn't "the man", and it pissed me off from time to time. But over the months I realized it was who she was and it was a former of love language for her, even when she seemed bossy and aggressive, I was able to compete and comply when I knew she was right or she had the answers first.

It is very intimidating, especially if a guy is used to his own independence. The problem with relationships (or advantage) is that men have to give up that independence for a functioning relationship that'll prosper. It can be done and great teamwork allows for an easier life and love can be built and kept strong.

Good luck my friend

[zorro8888]

I actually prefer confident women.

[zorro8888]

Thanks for mH! :)

[RJGraveyTrain]

There's a lot of men who only like confident women; in fact, whenever a guy takes interest in me it's always because of my confidence, or at least this is what they tell me.

The men who are intimidated by confident women either aren't used to the concept, aren't confident themselves, or the woman in question isn't just confident, but perhaps overbearing and outright aggressive. Some people call having an inflated ego confidence, so it can be many things.

[ArtDent]

It's 99% your last sentence and a half

[kaylaS91]

I've never heard such a thing, that they're 'afraid' of a woman just because she's confident from anyone but the 'confident women' in question. Making being confident sound as if it's a bad thing, and that leaves the majority of women where? Being weak, spineless damsels in distress?

Sounds like something someone would say just to save face when they're rejected or fail to garner interest from who they want it.

[Transigence]

Let's notice that it's asked anonymously :)

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

I find that they tend to be intimidated by confident women, especially if the man is shy/reserved. Confidence IS sexy but a confident woman seems to be a force to be fucked with so men may think that they're 'too much' for him to handle.

[redeyemindtricks]

Yeah... This is true.

I'm a hopeless nerd, through and through, and I've digged (dug?) my share of hopeless nerd dudes over the years, but, nope. They were basically quadriplegic deer in headlights, in front of me.

It didn't help that I'm 6'8" in heels and talk REALLY LOUD AND FAST ALL THE TIME. I only talk at a decent pace when I've discovered that someone is evil and I'm about to destroy their soul.

The problem, of course, is that "confident" has been co-opted by women who are actually just kinda bitchy.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

thanks for MHO

@redeyemindtricks

I know, nowadays women are just bitchy but viewed as confident, and i think it's b. s.
I think it's funny when men are intimidated by women simply because she speaks her mind-like me- or if they're confident-like you.

[redeyemindtricks]

Yeah. But, you've seen half the problem, here, over the last few days. You can't tell "speaking honest truth" from "being bitchy" ... unless you can detect honest truth. And just think of how many threads there've been, this past week, on which people have looked honest truth in the eyes, turned, and run for their lives.

So there are gna be lots of people who can't tell the difference. Can't because won't because don't wanna.

[loofah]

Too much confidence is intimidating. Just enough is super hot. Not enough can be very difficult. Regardless of gender

[heavensgift2girls]

The idea that men are afraid of confident women is an idea used to shift blame. If a woman isn't good with men, then all the woman has to do is to insult the guys by accusing them of being afraid of her. This removes her from having to accept any responsibility for her lack of relationship. Whatever her flaws, she doesn't have to accept the truth as long as she believes it is the man's fears that keep them from getting into a relationship.

[KENKONG]

You not getting no MHO

[Humping_Tornadoes]

Great answer! 👏

[dricky2011]

guys are not afraid of confident women, some like women with such a trait some less so.

the idea of males being afraid of females is not really true, what it really is, is guys are afraid of rejection, the emotional feeling, that is what guys avoid , I'm sure females are the same,

it is not something that goes totally without justification, there are plenty of times when an average person will approach a member of the opposite sex who views themselves as more attractive and will be looked down on, it is this negative type of behaviour that leeds people to avoid people who come across as confident or are viewed as very good looking

[abzence]

This is like guys complaining that they are rejected because they are nice and come to the conclusion that women don't like nice men. Women like men who are nice but if nice is the ONLY positive trait they have then they are not very interesting.

It's the same with confident women. Men like confident women but just being confident is not enough. Especially if you also have traits like arrogance.

[Johnagain]

Great punch line! 😁 but good point too. Other traits play here, so the confidence can't be singled out.

[Jibaku]

Please be more general.
It's about as general as saying "Why are men gay?"
Is this an opinion you formed reading what was written on G@G? or based off clear personal experience?
In my experience Some men are really unsettled by confident women and a lot of men are attracted to confident women.

[hellionthesage]

Why do you think men are afraid of you? Why do so many women seem to think its the mans fault for not being interested. Perhaps its not because she/you is confident but your egotistical? Or not physically attractive, or not their type, or any number of reasons all of which are more probable then all men having a problem with you/her who has no flaw to speak of except that she is "confident".

[Applefan1]

After what I have been though I am afraid to even talk to any women.

[Asker]

Awwww

Filler.

[Applefan1]

Yeah, sadly I have just recently give up and am going to get animals to keep me company. How I got treated on Sunday and Monday made me decide it was the last time I was even trying.

[Asker]

Must have been bad for you to give up totally :-(

[Applefan1]

Yes, it has been very bad.

[bluenose1872]

There's confidence then there's smarminess and arrogance. Those latter 2 are nauseating on a woman. I love confidence on a woman. Characteristics make the person. Not many people know their characteristics and how they can affect you for the better or worse. They should teach it in school. Judging by a lot of what I read on here not many people have a clue about it.

[OpenWine]

For me there are 2 kinds of "confident". The one who just is herself but has a open personality so doesn't shy away from talking to new people and the other kind.. a woman who appears to be arrogant and cocky I really don't talk to people I don't enjoy and I am ok with people not talking to me when I am not feeling well cause I am confident in some way but I have my ups and downs that can switch me between both categories

[MissNowhere]

Not all of them, lots of guys actually like confident chicks. The ones who are afraid... guess they're just intimidated for some reason.

[johnbackerson]

I've never been afraid of a confident woman. I wish a confident woman would approach me and ask me out but unfortunately it's never happened.

[Mysterio421]

Afraid of what now? Define "confident". Oh and while your at it, how tall are you and how much do you weigh?

[tyber1]

We typically aren't, I like it when a woman expresses interest in me.

[rgb008]

I don't think they are.
If anything, they're attracted to confident women.

[Anonymous]

I think it's because I can't relate to them- not just women though, men too.

I want a woman I can relate to and I'm quite shy. I've been out with shy women and I prefer it because we can talk about our problems and relate to each other.

[justbanANNAz]

... not all of them are #generalisation480 but the ones who are just aren't as ambitious.

[Anonymous]

*picks up chair and chucks it across the room* Where the hell are all these confident women girls on the internet keep saying are everywhere? I don't see them anywhere! Dammit I must just live in shy girl city

[Words_and_Wisdom]

I'm not. I'm just afraid of fucking up when talking to one since I'm more attracted to them. >.>

[Anonymous]

I'm not afraid of confident women. I'm afraid of high maintenance, nasty, psycho bitches. There's a difference!

[SuperOzgurX2]

My ex wasn't very confident. Always doubted herself. Very negatvie. Notice how i said ex? Yeah i prefer confident women.

[Jayded1]

I have never met an adult who is. Maybe teenagers are? i dont remember.