What do you think of ladies who do not have some decorum in certain situations?

[Anonymous]

Will be a turn off for guys? And for women what do you think of some of us ladies who lack of decorum?

I have a female cousin who is 55yrs old, but since she was young she is the type of lady who liked to get away with it, she had boyfriend very young, she escaped herself from home with male friends and return late to home over all she had always been like that a bit of ordinary. Even when she was married she wanted to do things her way. She is divorced now for many years.

But her being ordinary she never changed that. So one tiem we wer at a family gathering and we were talking about things you get embarrased in front of men even if taht men is your own relative or your own brother or even your best bff. So she was saying she is not embarrased to be seen by her own brother or her super BFF when shen she is changing clothes or be seen in a bra lets say if they are on vacations and sharing a room. and she says "what is wrong about it, you are my brother or he is my BFF" I dont see what is embarrasing about it". Then her own brother added a comment and said: "No, even if Im your brother is not nice to see your own sister changing her bra or clothes in the same room"? The his sister replied: "Im not embarrasing to do it cause you are family"

So this is why I said we have to have certain decorum around people even if they are super close family or super friends with a man.

My brother is also the same, he tells me to cover up if some clothes reveal my bra or my underwear (but this is different as changing clothes in the same room as a my brotehr or my a super best male friend beause I dont do that i have decorum for that, unlike my female cousin) and he explained the same: Not nice strangers to see that from a woman.

Updates

11 mo

When my bra is revealed I dont do it on purpose it is just because the shirt I wear is sleeveless perhaps and it shows a bit the bra or the skirt Im wearing it is a bit short when I lean down to pick up something, but is not somethign I do on purpose beacuse I want to expose myself, Im not like that.

[Emanon25]

It’s better to cover up, if it’s not done on purpose then they should work on it and learn how to keep it covered.

[Asker]

I agree but my female cousin does not mind to be seen even by her 48 yrd old brother

[Emanon25]

That’s her choice but it’s better to cover up, it’s her respect.

[Asker]

Indeed it is her respect and that is why I blieve she as a woman has to have certain decorum for respect

[Emanon25]

I agree with you, they way you think is the same way I do, I hope we can talk more and be friends.

[strateguy632]

what you describe accidently showing a bra or slip is no big deal because the bra covers you.

[Asker]

But Im not revealing myself in a bra in front of my brother or relatives either.