Why do I see myself as ugly?

Question

I mean I get so many compliments online saying I’m cute, pretty etc but I just can’t see it personally. Maybe it’s a self confidence issue but whenever I’m complimented I think to myself they can’t be talking about me right. I’m nothing special at all.

We are our worst critics I get that but I wish I wasn’t so harsh on myself and had more confidence in real life. If someone says I’m cute I should own it not wonder why they think that or they’re just being nice etc.

Stupid anxiety ugh.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because you are your own worst enemy , Most of us are , we knock ourselves down instead of building ourselves up , especially if you had your heart shit on before by someone , it can take a toll on your self esteem , and your confidence in yourself , I know it’s easier said then done , but the only way to build confidence in yourself is to value yourself worth and treat people the same way you want to be treated , Not everyone is going to like you , so distance yourself from those people and surround yourself with people that do like you , that treat you with respect and honesty , What’s makes us a beautiful person is the way we respect and treat others , , understanding that we can only give what we want to receive , understanding social media will screw with your head and make you feel that you aren’t good enough lol when really it doesn’t mean shit , most of it is bullshit , So find ways to love yourself and treat people the same way you want to be treated , that’s all we can do , if we want to be accepted and valued by others , Me personally became my own worst enemy when my heart got shit on a bunch of times from girls that took me for granted , that were selfish and that only cared about themselves , they didn’t wear my shoes like they expected me to wear theirs , once I learned how to remove selfishness from inside myself, I realized that’s the only way love can grow , you can’t expect someone to do for you , if you can’t do for them , learning to remove your inner selfishness makes you a beautiful person , people will be drawn to your positive energy when you learn to remove your inner selfishness , if they choose to walk away from you , let them go and realize you deserve someone that doesn’t want to walk away from you , Valuing yourself worth and treating others the same way you want to be treated makes you a beautiful person and yes you have gorgeous eyes , I don’t see ugly at all

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes we a people become worried about our looks because we've dealt with people who destroyed our self-esteem in the past. I had a friend call me ugly once. I never really did recover because she was one of those girls who could have any guy she wants and to me, she would know.

My advice, there are going to be times when you feel self-conscious because of certain past events or you look into the mirror and don't like certain features about yourself.

There are people out there that have never found love because they worry so much about their looks. If you personality is nice, that makes you look beautiful. Kindness brings out beauty in a person.
Like my friend that called me ugly, just seeing her face, eww! People like that are ugly to me. Remember, you are not judged by how you look, but by how much your heart loves.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

Because you have low self esteem. Work on your inner beauty.
I am average looking, I have high self worth.
when my daughter was younger…I always knew she is very cute/pretty/beautiful…sure coming from a mom. But I never ever said that to her. I worked with her to build her self worth…. now she is able to see her outer beauty as a teenager. I am glad to share that yes she is beautiful and told her I never did all her life for this purpose… so now she has both. 👍

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Don't fret, a lot of us feel ugly now and then - or maybe all the time. And you are right. We are our own worst critic. Here's what I tell my critics.

richardcory · Answer

If you get lots of compliments, its probably true. its difficult for people to recognize their own attractiveness.

I was at least 40 before I realized that women found me reasonably attractive. I'd always thought I was well below average appearance.

If your picture here is actually you, you have an nice face. If I were not married, I'd be happy to see you show up for a date.

desidoll · Answer

No, don’t feel that way. You are beautiful! Sometimes we are just too hard on ourselves. We attract negative vibe by being pessimistic. Eventually, you will start believing what your mind tells you. It is a bad form of energy. Remember that no one looks like us, and we are all unique in our own.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think one of the reasons could be that you get those compliments online since speaking from own experience I think compliments hit home differently if they are said in person.
Another reason you´ve already mentioned I would say that you´re very self-concious and you therefore have a hard time accepting that they talk about you.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Unless you're a full-blown narcissist, it's not uncommon for people to have some self-doubt. You can have 100 people give you 100 different compliments, and they'll probably all go in one ear, and out the other ear. However, for whatever reason, if one person tells you one negative thing about yourself, it'll stay with you forever.

Gent207-2 · Answer

I am my own worst critic - I can't take credit for my accomplishments as I always expect more and better of myself. Yet there are times I do think that I love myself. Is this love-hate part of having A. D. D? I don't know.
But therapy could help you come to accept the fact that you're a total 10

Hearts4u · Answer

I definitely understand how you feel. I go through the same thing, but honestly it’s all about building confidence. It’s not easy but it will come overtime. Try to give your self positive affirmations when you look in the mirror to start your day.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

That's just the way girls are!! I went to college with this girl, she was 17, drop dead gorgeous, sexy as hell, super cute, super sweet, very outgoing and fun, looked like a cross between Debby Harry and Kim Cattrall with a touch of Marilyn Monroe and every guy on campus wanted to fuck her brains out and I even wrote a few love songs about her but she thought she was fat and ugly!!

najekim · Answer

Believe or not, one of the best ways to build self confidence is to join and really get involved with a family orientated nudist club. There you will find that you are no different than anyone else.

My wife also had self confidence issues on how she looked and who she was. But after a year or so being active members of a local nudist club, her self confidence grew so much she was able to testify before a state senate committee against a bill that could have affected the nudist club. Something she would have never done in her wildest dreams before becoming a nudist.

Other benefits for both women and families can be found here.

SnowedIn · Answer

Very few people perceive themselves as cute or pretty or hot or whatever. Some believe themselves to be ugly. Part of who we are as humans and why so many teens and adults are on social media seeking validation and attention.

Guanfei · Answer

Oh I know that very well. Problem is that you've convinced yourself that you're ugly, and now compliments feel like lies.
I'm the same. Well except that I am really ugly, while you're a magnificent woman.

TooHot2Care · Answer

Lemme guess what your upbringing was like. . . . When something in the house went wrong, your name got called.

When people would bully you, and you would stand up for yourself? They would blame you for arguing or fighting back?

I bet your parents also blamed you for not keeping peace in the house when you got your little StormMistress emotions, right?

slatyb · Answer

Maybe negative messages from your parents or caretakers growing up? Counseling could help. My wife and I were both attractive in our youth but didn't feel that we were. We both made very bad marriages. If that's your picture you are quite attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

Because you are. That’s why you keep fishing for compliments and attentions from these desperate fucks to flood your DMs with “200 messages” … If that’s actually happened

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Well, for one thing, you are right you aren’t that’s special. However, yes confidence is what sets the people that are successful and can get a man or woman or whatever from most anything else. You are definitely not ugly. But that insecurity does make you less attractive in some ways.

kellytheman · Answer

Yeah don't be down on yourself and if your wondering why they think your cute or pretty maybe ask that person what feature makes me cute or pretty. Also it could not just be a physical feature it could be just who you are and personality you that makes you cute or pretty. When someone says you cute it just own it and maybe say I know in a funny way.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You have talked yourself into thinking that way. However, you can just as easily change that mindset.

AviatorTom · Answer

You are gorgeous. Try to start believing what people tell you, and not what you yourself think. We often underrate ourselves.

MementoMori777 · Answer

I think it's normal to have some sort of bias feelings towards ourselves, some just have it worse than others I guess

CubaPirate · Answer

You're obviously insecure and have confidence issues. Perhaps talking to a friend or relative will help

SawerBrown · Answer

You need much more confidence and you have every reason to have confidence in yourself quit besting yourself up.

msc545 · Answer

Forgetting the issue of your appearance for a minute here - is there anything else you dislike about yourself?

shades777 · Answer

a compliment online dont really mean diddly squat because they don't know you, I mean what would it take for you to see yourself as pretty without being delusional?

OnlyMeee · Answer

To me, I think you are pretty, I'm the same when I look in the mirror. Hate seeing myself. I could be better looking in my eyes. I think we're all the same in that respect.

Anonymous · Answer

because someone fucked up and made you believe that and it damaged you. we are not born that way to think of ourselves as ugly, nope.

Anonymous · Answer

You're just insecure, lot's of us are. You need a good man who loves you and tells you every day how beautiful you are.

Truthatanycost · Answer

It's because we are both flesh and spirit. Only when the two align do we truly feel beautiful.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

You look way better than I do, I'm legit ugly.

AydenHazor · Answer

You are absolutely cute, but I understand not being able to get over the inner negative self talk. I have the same issues and some of it comes from depression and anxiety, and some from childhood trauma for me

Backwood1988 · Answer

I don't think no female is ugly or anything but I don't know anything about anything but I don't know

clampfan101 · Answer

I feel that. I’m hard on myself regarding everything, and don’t even understand why.

Guardian45 · Answer

Yes, you have a crisis of confidence. You're actually pretty sexy AF!

EaterPeter · Answer

There can be many reasons which may have nothing to do with this reality.

AliceGregory · Answer

Do you compare yourself to what you see on social media?

exitseven · Answer

I bet guys are lined up around the block wanting to date you.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Judging from some of the trashy questions you ask, you feel ugly because your soul is ugly.

soe11 · Answer

Trust in yourself, building up self-confidence.

Anonymous · Answer

It's the human condition to devalue oneself  I openly will class myself as a -1 much to the chagrin of others I know IRL who get pissed about me doing it despite it being my view of myself

Kelly6 · Answer

stress and depression

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I don't know why cause your gorgeousl

Anonymous · Answer

Just love yourself please!!

sheikalana · Answer

That's called body dismorphia.

PointTaken · Answer

We are all hard on ourselves. You are beautiful.

NathanDavis · Answer

time to see a therapist

RavVid · Answer

Accept other peoples rating of you.

albertoo8 · Answer

you are totally fine

Anonymous · Answer

Because you are despite all of the makeup.

riverrat3 · Answer

You are not ugly

Anonymous · Answer

You're not wrong.. You're ugly trust me

Green96 · Answer

No You are stunning 👍

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