I have this female friend and we've been getting VERY close for the past two weeks. We text good morning/night and throughout the day whenever she has time. We’ve also called on the phone which she thanked me for and suggested we should do it again, but when I ask she apologizes a lot and says she can’t. A couple days ago she sent me a photo of her in her underwear and I said “wow I can’t stop staring 😍” to which she said “awe that’s sweet 🩵”Yesterday I messaged her in the afternoon, but didn't get a response back for 5 hours so I messaged her again asking if she was okay and she said "not really". Then I started panicking asking her what's wrong and that I was worried about her. She said that she had a really rough day and didn't wanna talk about it. Before I could say anything she said "I have a lot to do I'll ttyl". So I just said "Okay I won't press you further. Good night I hope you have a better day tomorrow", I texted her good morning and told her if she needed someone to talk to I’m here for her she replied “thanks hun I’ll keep that in mind ❤️” then I said you’re welcome and asked her to text me when she feels better and she said okay. I haven’t heard anything back and I’m trying to give her space, but it’s so hard not texting her. How long should I give her space for? What if she never texts me? Should I text good night? I have so many questions
Why did she change her attitude all of a sudden?
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Do you know this woman in person? If not, maybe after sending you that photo, she regretted doing so. Do you even know if this woman is single, married, dating?
What DO you know about her personal life? If you've never met her, this may be the source of the attitude change. Lots of people make tenuous internet connections to help them through a day, a week, a month, but have no intention of meeting or doing anything else with this person.
You may be texting to such a person.
We’ve never met each other in person. Same and her are actually friends with benefits, sorry I thought I put that info in the question. We’ve also been talking about meeting in person, she’s even said she will do everything it can to make it happen. But we never really talked about it
Part of me wants to tell her how I feel and that I want something more than friends with benefits
WEll, tell her how you feel. Say you want to date and get to know her. That the friends with benefits situation sounds too limiting to you. See what she says.
I asked her if us getting together in person was us going on a date and she said it’s just us getting to know each other. So I think she wants to get to know me more before we become that serious. I was thinking maybe I can send her a text telling her how much she means to me and promising her that we will see each other soon?
Sounds like to me like she's gun shy and doesn't want to make ANY kind of commitment. You might say your getting to know her is a prequel to dating and you hope she will eventually feel the same way. Since you know very little about this woman, I don't know how much she can truthfully mean to you. Dial yourself back and take it slow. You can't promise her anything that she won't agree to.
Dating ISN'T serious in my book, but for her it appears that it is. You might ask her about THAT. It's a curious stance to take. If you're meeting each other to spend time together how is that NOT a date?
You have to consider that this woman might not be the best choice for you. She wants to pretend getting to know each other by dating is NOT dating? That dating is "that serious"? I'm miffed. Sound slike she wants to "hang out" like a high schooler. Think hard about whether this person is worth all this trouble..