How to be myself at school when I'm targeted for being made fun of?

[iiinsOMNIA]

Annoying, shallow, teen girl problems, I know, but it still bothers me.

I'm probably the type of person that 80% of people would consider "cringe" if I were to simply be myself. I never bother anyone with my interests, but people go out of their way to make rude comments. It was a nightmare when classmates found my instagram account. I already lack confidence (yeah, I'm at least aware) and I want to know how I can be myself despite knowing people are going to try to ruin my confidence further. Tips?

[hungirl]

Hi! I’m a 25 year old chick, no professional, but I do care about bullying deeply since I experienced it in high school and saw even worse happening… What you need to remember is what they are doing is really immature, there is no bullying in real life after graduating high school. Keep that in mind, it’s a nice positive glance at the future! These bullies when they grow up almost always regret their actions towards others in high school. The good news is you’re more mature than them, so what you could try is calling them out on being actual bullies and having nothing better to do. Ask them like “What did you say? What are you, some bully? How old are you, 13?” In every argument in life I believe whoever stays calmer and has a calmer tone can’t end up as a real loser.
I would always advise to embrace your unique character, there’s no use in pretending to be anyone but high school sometimes requires you to defend yourself against dominant students. It might be useful to also remember to feel sorry for the bulliers. They are definitely going to struggle in the first year (s) of university for their immaturity - noone likes a bully, yikes! If someone makes a comment like that in a uni event or today like at work, we would just stop the conversation and be like wtf?
Hope my tips helped at least a little! All the good luck until graduating! X

[iiinsOMNIA]

Thank you, and thank you for the advice! :D

[ShesRad80]

you are 15 vent girl, a lot of us care, we dont have to know you to care, we have been through it. be yourself no matter what, as you see from me im an artsy weirdo but grew up being bullied which made me want to be myself even more. i get it to this day sometimes i have such a thick skin I'm like whatever when someone tries to be mean. my personality always wins them over in the end just being me. get some really good hobbies in your life, music is a must and maybe a good friend or two its going to be hell but without a doubt but I have faith you can handle it.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Aw thank you <3

[ShesRad80]

you got this

[Sixgunsound]

Artsy weirdos are some of the coolest people I've ever met irl. Don't stop.

[Sixgunsound]

The first question I have is why do you value the opinions of others more than your own? At the end of the day the only person who will care about your feelings and interests is you, so you should value that more than you value the opinions of others. What do you mean by cringe, exactly? Teen girls get to have problems without needing to justify their existence as annoying. Everyone older was a teen at some point, and found someone to help them get through it. I've found that people of any age who make fun of others often do so to cover up their own insecurity, and that feeling sorry for them is a good way to avoid getting mad or sad about them targeting you.

[iiinsOMNIA]

I guess I value their opinions because I want them to like me. I have a bad rep because I (someone who had no friends) befriended someone else who had no friends. She ended up being a horrible person, and I guess I thought I could "fix" her. She's since been expelled (the police even got involved) and I've been lumped in as a horrible person like her. I probably should have mentioned all that earlier. Anyway, I'm trying to show others that I'm not horrible and I'm just afraid to do anything that will worsen the situation.

[Sixgunsound]

You can't just stop doing anything though. No matter what is so cringe you are like as yourself, someone somewhere is into it too. There is nothing new under the sun. What is it you think is so terrible? I'd be happy to give you an uninvolved perspective on whether it objectively is or not.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Oh boy. I really like anime and kpop, and people have given me a hard time about it. I was listening to music at school and a boy took one of my air pods and wouldn't give it back because he wanted to make sure I wouldn't listen to non-english music. Another boy broke my expensive pens that had my favourite kpop group printed on it. I love drawing anime and some girls took my sketchbook and went through the whole thing laughing their asses off.

Sorry that was more of a paragraph than I would have liked. But yeah, I try to not let anyone know of my interests after that lol

[Sixgunsound]

Anime and kpop are HUGE interest groups in the rest of the world besides your school. If you can get to GAG on the internet you should be able to get to all sorts of other groups that share your interests. Don't let a few assholes at school decide what you like or can be interested in. Don't let them wim. They will try to give their feelings of inadequacy because they don't have interests at all to you in the hopes they become internalized. As bullies they're looking for reaction that shows them they got inside your head. As bullies they're looking for a reaction that shows them they got inside your head, don't give it to them and they will move on to an easier target.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Okay, thanks so much for listening to me and responding! I'll definitely remember this going into this next school year. I appreciate the help, seriously! I'll try to find some people online who share my interests.

[stepyo99]

High school is stupid. Just keep your grades up and get out of there ASAP without irreversibly screwing over your future. All of the cliques and social pecking order crap become irrelevant once you hit the real world. If you can make friends, great, but if you can't, don't let it bother you too much. As long as you're doing your best to be a virtuous person, that's all that matters.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Okay, I'll keep that in mind. Thank you :D

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I had bluish-grey marks on my face ever since 11, no one ever had bullied or made a remark on it.


You build yourself up to have the attitude necessary to awaken respect in others.


Start by respecting yourself.


You are not cringe. Don’t ever say that about yourself.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Thanks for the advice :)

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I'm sorry. Best thing to do is try to ignore those idiots that are bullying. You won't even know who they are in 5 years and will go on to have an awesome life unlike them, they will probably be losers for life. Focus on studying and keeping a couple of close friends.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Thanks, I'll try to keep that in mind :)

[gothbxtch]

i’m so sorry :( i was recently really severely bullied, to the point where i had to leave school, so i sympathize, and if you need anybody to talk to, i’m here!

[iiinsOMNIA]

Aww that's horrible I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. Same goes to you, I can be someone who listens if you need it <3

[gothbxtch]

thanj you so much!!

[MementoMori777]

Embrace the way you are, slowly open up with your personality, start with friends

[iiinsOMNIA]

Like start by making friends? I don't have any friends to open up to at the moment

[MementoMori777]

Yes that's actually perfect, be yourself, at this point the people that find your weirdness and unique-ness as a fun presence to be around, will friend you

[iiinsOMNIA]

Thank you :)

[MementoMori777]

💯🙏

[gorydetails]

Get off of social media. Enjoy your interests and stop giving a fuck about what other people think.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Social media? How will that help the situation?

[gorydetails]

Because social media is toxic

[LiamJHayden]

Ignore them and enjoy life knowing that you are not a nosy and petty person whose sole joy in life is trying to put others down.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Thank you, I'll try :)

[DextroShade]

It only matters what the boys think of you, not the girls.

[iiinsOMNIA]

I'm too ugly for that 💀💀

[DextroShade]

If that's really you in your profile pic then you are definitely not too ugly to get attention from boys. Just by not being fat you are already in the top half of attractiveness for women.

[iiinsOMNIA]

I'm a little chubby

[Wise4myage]

Ignore anyone who makes fun of you.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Thanks