Does it mean it’s over and she lost feelings if she says she thinks we need space?

[Anonymous]

So lately we’ve both been going through a lot and haven’t been on the best of terms and she says she thinks she needs some space rn because she’s finishing school this week and has a lot to do! Does this mean we’re over or not I’ve asked to talk and she asked for a few days so that’s what I’m doing.

[qwert1234]

Yes. I don't believe in asking for "space".

If she is busy and she still has feelings, the best way to convey this is telling you she will be busy for a while. She will make time to at least tell you small but meaningful things like "Good morning" or "Good night" or small talk about having eaten already, how stressed she has been...

Asking for space for me is like playing games. I interpret it as "get away from me, so I can completely muster the courage to break up with you in peace" or "get away from me, so I can completely remove all my feelings then break up with you".

If she comes back, good. I personally won't expect it. I personally won't chase it.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree with the taking a break look of it but at the same time she’s been going through a lot of mental stuff right now as well I don't know we’ve been close for 3 years and I’m scarred I’m going to lose her

[qwert1234]

Ofcourse you are scared, you love her.
You can hope for the best but prepare for the worse I guess.
I hope it works out on you man.

[bota_selena]

Nope at all, I don’t think she lost interest because for example I’m finishing school and lots of exams so I want to concentrate on my studies since I can’t have time for both a guy and exams. So I feel her. But if you’re supportive and can understand if she’s not giving you her time or attention, then that’s fine I guess.

[bota_selena]

Did she tell just for “some time”?

[Asker]

No she just said she needs to focus on school then after that she’ll talk to me about it this weekend

[bota_selena]

I hope everything is fine, don’t overthink!

[Asker]

Yeah I hope so too but the thing is she blocked my number but not on Instagram where we’ve exchanged a few words about talking when she’s done thank u !

[bota_selena]

You’re welcome, I think you guys need to talk openly

[provokeesmokee]

Not necessarily, but if you don't understand "I have exams/final school stuff, please let me focus on it", then you'll definitely drive her away.

It isn't a break up, it's a busy period at school.

Establish when you two want to communicate again, and take time to just focus on you during that.

[springxxx]

I think in this case she's just focusing on her school and mental health since she's on her last week. I would wait till school finishes to see if she still want a break if I were you

[itsalyssaagain]

Usually when I’ve wanted space in the past it’s because I’m hurt and I really just don’t want to be around the person. Usually it’s been followed by a break up yeah.

[Nikki1989]

Not necessarily, but it is not a good sign. You might have some work to do.

[coffeelovergirl]

I think she is just desperate about the feeling “something is not right and good, but I don’t know what exactly this is.” Maybe try to ask her what makes her do this move and if there is a chance you together can work thing out.

[In_Trance]

Yes, that's never a good thing