I’m going to fit in as many details as possible. We dated for about 9 months in the beginning. She was very much the pursuer those first 9 months and I ended up breaking up with her because I didn’t feel as attracted to her as she did to me. I was also talking to someone else. She found out about it after our break up. During the first break up she needed up talking and sleeping with another man (not saying I blame her, just trying to give you a better understanding of her). Eventually, the no contact and worked on me and I realized how important she really was to me. We ended up building trust back and dated again. At the beginning of this second term, she had plans to go on a day trip with her coworkers. Apparently all of her coworkers pulled out except for this one guy. Since I felt like a dick for breaking up with her and I wanted to build trust back I let her go to NYC with this guy. She has never done anything like that with me. A few months later, probably 10-11, we start to get into more and more arguments about usually small stuff, but the big one being that she doesn’t want to see me as frequently during the week. We have argued about this over the course of our entire relationship. Eventually, toward the end she starts to take away more parts of the relationship. First the sex, she blamed her lack of libido on the depression medication. Sleepovers, then time together. Eventually, one night she comes over crying saying we need a break. She says she needs time to work on herself and get over her depression and that she’s not enough for me since I want to see her more than me. During this time she still texts me and tells me she loves me and stuff like that. A week later she just completely breaks up with me for the same reasons. I cry and she holds my hand and kisses me one last time. She also tells me that she won’t date and it’s ok for me to date. She still texts me for a few days but we agree space would be best. It’s been a month since that. Thoughts?
My girlfriend broke up with me for depression reasons and to work on herself. She said we needed space. What is she actually thinking?
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9 mo
I’m sorry for a giant block of text. I’m trying to fit in as much as possible. Also yes, I suspect that she might have had someone else she was talking to. The reason I mentioned other things she’s done with other guys is because I thought her past behavior might be important for now. I think I should move on, but it’s hard and hearing from you and your opinion would help.
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9 mo
Thank you all for you responses. It truly gave me the resolve to move on and that I was doing the right thing. Anyways more has happened since my post this morning. I ended up texting her because I didn’t care about no contact anymore. It was foolish of me to throw it out the window. I guess I felt like I needed to tell her that I didn’t want to talk to her anymore and I was legitimately trying to moving on. I used the come pick up your stuff thing and she says her friend will come to pick it up
