Why did he like picture that had sad quote?

[Anonymous]

He rejected me a month ago because of ” different life goals”

today I noticed he like a picture that said ”every pain is temporary, be strong and have patient”

[Anonymous]

I’m sure you want it to be about you, and I’m sorry to say it’s probably not. There could be a million other things happening in his life, and it doesn’t make any sense for him to be so sad when he’s the one who rejected you.
You’ve posted about this man more than once already so it’s clear you really liked him and are struggling with the rejection, but dwelling on that will do nothing but waste time. So you weren’t the one for him, that’s totally fine, you won’t be every mama cup of tea. For another man you will, but you’ll never find him when you’re too distracted with another one. Accept the situation, heal, and listen to Elsa: let it go.

[Opinion Owner]

*everyone’s cup of tea, don’t know how that got corrected to mama lol

[Asker]

by the way why did he say ” just in general level our plans don’t align” when I asked him what plan didn’t align?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, “in general” by definition means as a whole, right? That means not one specific plan, but all your plans in their entirety. For him, you just aren’t the woman he sees by his side in the future, and you shouldn’t let that hurt your soul. If anything I think it means you need a break from men and to work on your self esteem along with uplifting yourself. Things like this shouldn’t tear you apart.

[Asker]

Are you sire it meant that?

[Asker]

Sure*

[Asker]

We were talking daily for 2 months before we met ofc it hurts…

[Opinion Owner]

Well yeah, since that’s what in general means, it isn’t one specific thing and even then that could’ve just been him trying to let you down easy. 2 months just isn’t a long time, only a handful of weeks. I think what’s really hurting you is that you haven’t found success with another man since then, so you’ve fixated on this situation. I also believe you had failed situations in the past and your sick of it. But separation happens, it’s part of life and something you have to consider will be the outcome before even giving a guy the time of day. I’ve never ever dated a man and didn’t accept the fact beforehand that we may not work out. That’s why it’s better not to have expectations so soon, or over-invest. You don’t wanna have to go through this every time it doesn’t work out. It’s exhausting and taxing on your spirit.

[Asker]

Whole thing is just humiliating and demoralizing

[Asker]

I’m glad I didn’t sent him messages and I’ve remained in no contact

[Opinion Owner]

What’s demoralizing and humiliating? Is there something to this situation that you didn’t share? Also I commend you for holding out on no contact, that can be hard to do.

[Asker]

After the date I reached out to him first. We had short friendly conversation. Then I asked him if he wanted to see me again. All my friends were saying don’t reach out to him first after the date but I didn’t listen to them…

[Opinion Owner]

It’s not humiliating or demoralizing to have reached out first, there’s no playbook to dating, you just be yourself and either the person will give with you or they won’t. Do you think maybe you feel this way because it was after the date that he decided you weren’t a good fit?

[Asker]

Yeah after meeting me he’s whole energy changed

[Opinion Owner]

So you’re probably feeling kind of embarrassed or self conscious about that, like maybe you weren’t attractive for him or something and that thought will eat you alive if you’re already insecure. But you need to shake it off, his decision could have nothing to do with your looks and even if it did, that’s ok. I was in a whole LDR for 2 months before I met the guy in person, he started changing the very next day, and broke it off the following week. It’s tough but you can’t let it make you feel so bad. Start building your confidence and loving yourself more.

[Asker]

It’s very hard not to think that it wasn’t about my looks although he gave other reason

[Opinion Owner]

That’s something you have to work on. After my situation I didn’t date for months afterwards, because I never wanted to feel that way again and I need to build myself up to where i never have since then. You should do the same.

[Asker]

How do I build myself?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, what’s your biggest insecurity? Start there. For me it was my weight and my looks, I didn’t have the greatest complexion, some acne scarring. So I worked on both of those things but at the same time I built myself up. Every time I wanted to think bad about myself instead I used a positive affirmation, and pushed myself out of my comfort zone. For instance, I was so self conscious about my arms and wouldn’t wear sleeveless tops or dresses. I started small, wearing short sleeves rather than long, and told myself it didn’t look bad and who cares what others thought. It’s hard to change that mindset you’ve had the whole life but at some point you wanna feel better and not be your own worst enemy.

[Wise4myage]

Just ignore anything he posts.