Girls, I called her beautiful and she told me to stop?

[Anonymous]

I have called my (single) friend beautiful twice now, and she has told me I need to stop because I apparently don't know beautiful.

Is this her setting boundaries, or is it her insecurities and not believing she is beautiful?

Setting Boundries

Insecurities

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+1 y

Should have included this withing the question, she has a very harsh view of herself and puts herself down a lot, both on her achievements and her appearance.

[Screenwriter]

Some people have never heard from their parents how attractive they look in an outfit, or that they're good looking in general.

I believe that if you don't hear this reinforced in your home of origin, you'll have trouble believing it later on. I heard it a lot and I'm glad I did. I've also passed it on to my son, who is also a good looking young man and who dresses well.

And he got these skills from me, I'm glad to say.

All you can do is be gentle with her and keep saying, you look fine. I believe it or I wouldn't say it. You NEED to hear it more. I've got no reason to lie! Good luck.

[On_cloud_wine]

I recently told my manager to stop staring at me to

let him know my boundaries. Especially because he wasn’t good at hiding the fact that he found me attractive and I work with a bunch of girls and all those brats talk shit

[Anonymous]

Leave it be.

[Jazzy54]

Probably setting boundaries. She doesn’t want the lines blurred.

[Anonymous]

She sounds toxic ngl. She can call herself ugly all she wants but why is she being passive aggressive towards you for giving her a compliment?

[laraWM]

I think she is not comfortable with it

[Asker]

She has a very harsh view of herself. My comment contradicts with her own belief. Is this what would make her uncomfortable, or is it just that the words came out of my mouth and not someone else's?

[laraWM]

I don't know, the first one seems more likely