Why would a woman not dare to ask a man out?

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but otherwise be the first to break up, or else turn him down but then not ask him if he wanted to stay in touch but instead just do so? I mean, why would she act so much one-sided?

GenderEqualityMyth · Accepted Answer

It's because women are weak. I don't care how smart, strong, or confident she is. All women have fragility stitched into the fabric of their being. I've believed otherwise for far too long and women themselves have gotten angry at me for it. In the same breath however, they will swear up and down that they're the best thing bestowed upon humanity since sliced bread.

Since they're weak, they rely on their communications skills to get ahead in life. A woman feels successful when she can extract value out of society with her social cues, i. e conversation and body language. They're particularly prone to subtly or implicitly communicating. Basically, they don't directly say what they mean which comes across as lying, although they're not above that by a long shot.

A woman's communication skills are equivalent to a man's arms. Since they're so fragile, being rejected is like cutting of their arms. It sounds extreme but you have to see woman as the opposite of men to understand them. Men are action oriented, women are behavior oriented. So rejection is the ultimate sign that she's a failure as a person, even though it's not that serious.

On the opposite end, being the rejector or ending the relationship gives them a sense of power. It reaffirms their value in their own eyes and makes them feel like they have influence over other people's behavior. For people so deeply concerned with social cues, this is intoxicating. It's why women barely put in any real effort into getting men even when they can have them at any time they want. They're more fulfilled simply knowing they're popular than doing anything productive with them. Positive affirmations are like cocoain to women.

There's a whole evolutionary discussion to be had from all this but I won't get into that. In a Layman, women are just really scared of rejection and really desperate to prove their worth.

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

It’s because of the following:

Most women are much less experienced with taking romantic risks and dealing with rejection. They are actually much more terrified of rejection than men are. Most of them aren’t used to it.
They don’t want to look desperate. They also don’t like the power imbalance given they are “vulnerable” showing interest.
Some guys assume it’s going to be a quick and easy lay if she approach’s a guy. She might have had a few bad past experiences with that. Out of all the reasons women have not to approach men this one is the most legitimate (the rest of it is cowardice in my opinion) and this is something men need to improve upon.
She was raised conservatively and expects men to always approach.

But ladies you really need to step up your game more here considering how the dating landscape has changed for men. Most men don’t “enjoy” approaching women. We do it because we have to. But all the #metoo bullshit that went down a few years ago has made this exponentially more risky for men. We not only risk rejection but we risk having our reputation damaged or worse if she doesn’t like us.

Anyway I know there are women out there who have no fear of doing this but they are in the minority. A growing minority but still a minority.

Also guys got to stop assuming it’s a green light for quick sex. If she is looking for a hook up then she will most likely intimate that too if she already approached you. So don’t assume it’s a quick run to home plate unless she runs there first.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because they don’t have to. I’ve been approached plenty by men I’m interested in and don’t feel the need to change the narrative just because men in this day and age are p*ssies. What’s next, why do men have to be the provider of the family? Why does the man have to throw the ball with their son? Why does the man have to be the one to ejaculate to get the woman pregnant?
Good god, we’re in a feminine men apocalypse, while all of the actual good men who don’t bitch about what a woman does and doesn’t do, have girlfriends.

Selliebeanz · Accepted Answer

Then there’s my type where if I’m into you, I will go straight for you and ask you out and if I’m not I won’t do anything but will remain friendly. A lot of girls are afraid of rejection or don’t know how you feel about them so they shy away which is okay and understandable. I don’t mind rejection though it just points me in the right direction.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Because she’s not interested  Because she got other options who are more engaged with her  Because she has her eyes set on someone else  Because she’s lazy 😂  Because she is shy 🙈  Because she’s taken, married or just don’t want to be left alone …

Abin2003 · Answer

It's mainly coz of insecurities and the fear of getting rejected. Some girls want ur attention and they want u to ask u out first and then maybe turn u down or be like ok lets try. But other girls actually like u but what they think in their mind is: 'Should i ask him out?, does he like me?, what if he rejects me?, will we have a good time?' And many more.
I don't know bout the first type of girls much coz i never dated any one like that but the second set of girls i mentioned r the ones who actually like u, they just fear of rejection and other stuff.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I do not dare for various reasons but the biggest one is this:
• it feels desperate and wrong when a woman does it, it's the truth (I am old fashioned though)
• woman (me included) wants to feel wanted by the man, the man wants that too but really it's natural for the man to be the suitor, not the woman

msc545 · Answer

Women don't want to take the risk of rejection. Women are risk adverse and if possible will always place men in the position of risk rather than run any risk or take any responsibility themselves. Yet another example of the unfair treatment of men by women.

BumbleStix · Answer

Women are very rarely ever initiate.
Even looking at dating apps proves this
Roughly 80% of accounts on Tinder are men, and they are the ones that put in all the effort.
The position of females on Tinder is just to pick through the dozens of likes they receive every day.

Anonymous · Answer

She simply does not want him that badly. If a woman REALLY wants to she will.

Women will make all kinds of excuses that she's shy, that she doesn't want to look desperate, that she's afraid of rejection. It's all nonsense. If a woman really wants him she'll ask him out.

Adaeva · Answer

It is not that we don't dare to ask a guy out. It is only because it is not necessary to ask a guy. If I show that I am interested, almost every boy I meet will ask me to have a milkshake with him or to join him in some group activity.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it makes us look desperate for sex. Or lonely. Ain't no female want that look. It’s why instead we give the viable male hints and signs for him to do what a Hunter male does and make his move.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Because women think men should do all the work. they are not interested in equality, they only want it where it makes things easier for them.

jshm2 · Answer

It's about the company you keep. You're probably hanging out with meek little psychos

Jazzy54 · Answer

She doesn’t want him to think she’s desperate for a man. That’s my philosophy anyway. 🤷🏽‍♀️

sheikalana · Answer

She prefers the man to take the first step.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m an introvert and the thought of approaching someone first terrifies me

Sandraxxo · Answer

I couldn’t handle a rejection tbh and it feels kind of vulgar to make the first move as a woman.

strateguy632 · Answer

she breaks up because found someone else

LiamJHayden · Answer

She might be a traditionalist in that way.

MaxUsefull · Answer

Because is our job to do it

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Maybe she's traditional?

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