If a girl lures you in and then rejects you repeatedly, what's this about?

[Anonymous]

Girl flirts a lot and made me like her... then if I show any liking she basically rejects me... does it over and over.

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+1 y

Guess what? It was 100% for validation/Ego boost!!! Saw her yesterday and she was all bragging to me and I caught her in some lies... how pathetic... and also found out her life's not so great... the pattern did a full circle and it's now obvious has very low self esteem to the point she has to use me for validation. I'm So over her!! She fell off the proverbial pedestal.

[BoopBoopBeep]

It's about you being a sucker and falling for the same thing over and over like Charlie Brown and that chick with the football. You deserve better than her drama.

[Asker]

Lmfao!!

[bingbongbangbung]

SHE WANTS YOU FOR VALIDATION AND MAYBE AS A REBOUND/PLAN B

[Asker]

Bingo!!! I can feel it in my GUT!!! I think I'm her back up... keeps me on the back burner! Thanks yes

[bingbongbangbung]

thanks for MHO

[Asker]

You're welcome :D thanks for the help

[TruthBeTold77]

Means she just likes attention. Stop giving it to her.

[Asker]

For sure likes the attention too

[Asker]

And when I ignore her for while she doesn't like it she will go outta her way to come and find me and be all nice and flirty always gives me this look like common what don't you like me anymore? and she looks into my eyes and it all melts away and I like her all over again it's absolutely crazy. We have went through this whole cycle twice, on the third ignore (I'm ignoring her) cycle currently. See what will happen I'll let you all know🤣

[TruthBeTold77]

To right deffo keep ignoring her, she deserves it 👏😂

[WhitneySnow]

Just block/ignore her

[Jdodkfndosn]

she a manipulative bitch who Is screwing with you head and causing you to increasingly create further dependence

[dolemite58]

she’s using you for attention and validation just ghost her

[Sunnybeach123]

Some people just like hurting other people

[Asker]

Ya I swear that must be what it is because I dont know what she thinks she's gaining. It's super cruel every time I pull away and ignore she lures me back in... unfortunately I'm very very attracted to her and we work together😵‍💫 she has a strange hold on me.

[Sunnybeach123]

I get it. That's power for you. I've totally been there, attraction is so easy to use against someone else. It hurts and they know it.

[Asker]

Ya it %#£inf sucks I didn't even like hee before she lured me in- it's so weird!!! at one point she had me feeling all sorry for her and we were having a great time being friends and then she pulled some romantic/flirting on me and I fell into this trap. It's insane. I swear to god everytime I back off and swear I'm done with her she does something to rope me back in. I feel soooo foolish. I swear she's done it for the last f'n time.

[Sunnybeach123]

I know it can be hard to resist, especially when they know you like it. It's ok to feel foolish, you're human. I knew someone pretty intimately and jeez did they know what I liked and used it to hurt me. Talk about feeling foolish.

[Asker]

Thank you very much for your advice and comments. Uhg ya it hurts so bad. What do I do? I almost feel like snapping but I feel like she may gaslight me. Most of the flirting is done non verbal.

[Asker]

At this point too I dont care if I ever get to be with her but I wanna know wtf this game is.

[Sunnybeach123]

Yes I think the strongest connection is usually nonverbal. Eesh. Maybe have one serious talk with her about how you're feeling and if she keeps things up after that ignore her. And yes, I know how hard that can be. I'm no one to talk.

[Asker]

It's hard because she's my superior at work. I really don't wanna make this an issue because I know she will totalllllly deny it and it'll cause SO much drama etc. I like my job. I think it's best I just ignore these flirts until she moves on. I dont know it's so hard she's SO hot and I guess stealth... a good manipulator...

[Sunnybeach123]

It's hard. Especially with that kind of dynamic. But it might be best to ignore her, unless you have a life with her outside of work. I was hot for my boss (actually she was like my boss's boss's boss!) She was so hot (like a Valkyrie) and I felt she flirted with me, honest to god. And I was turned on by her, but I forced myself to keep a distance. Like it would be my ass if I didn't.

[Asker]

Omg Valkyrie haha!! good thing kept ur distance! These women geeeesh...

[Sunnybeach123]

Omg yes! I think if we were naughty she would tear me apart. She could wrestle me to the ground, lol

[Asker]

Exactly 🤣👏