Is it a good idea to temporarily take a break from anything romantic and immerse yourself in self-love?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Right now, when I am asked out on a date or when a man who I am not interested in emotionally (my coworker for example) is showing interest in me just cringes me and makes me feel uncomfortable. I don’t like unwanted attention from someone whose feelings I can’t reciprocate m.

I feel like taking a break from anything romantic, keeping my distance with men and just enjoying my own company.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. I’ve done that for nearly 6 years, as I wasn’t meeting anyone worthwhile. Now, I know who I am, the sort of life and the sort of guy I want. One is coming to visit me soon. I’ve waited 6 years to meet him in person. He’s seen me through everything. If we’re attracted to each other in person, things feel so right that we’ll be married in another 2 years. I’ll be nearly 37. So yeah, I’d suggest take months or years of sex, dating and kissing and focus on making good friends, like I did. Friends can become more later. You need attraction, but mostly you need a solid foundation for love to grow.

[mandyfire98]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact there'd be something wrong with you getting out of a relationship and immediately jumping into another one.

Take time for yourself. Just have fun. Decompress a bit.

[molonski2]

I see nothing wrong with that as a Strategy , you need to love yourself before someone can love you , sometimes , everyone needs to sit on the sidelines , the problems come when you rush from one to another ( we all know people like this right? ) ..

Take a break , sit back , invest in self , read , go harder at the gym , smell the roses , its seriously amazing how good life can be as a single sometimes , you answer only to yourself.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Amazing advice 😇

[molonski2]

Thankyou , it what I've always done , bcoz I always think " I can sulk , get drunk , feel like sht -- OR , I can do the exact opposite " improving myself , learning about me , you never stop learning.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep. I agree

[soe11]

• I think it is a perfect idea and the best choice.
• Be positive and optimistic.
• Be yourself and pay attention own.
• Do not ask or seek for any relationship.
• Be a fragrant flower, sure some one suitable guy kneeling on you.

I hope it is sufficient answers for you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thank you. Yep they are ☺️

[Guido]

Sometimes it's good to take a break and do some self reflection to determine what you want before putting yourself back out there.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nope. I took the year off from dating. May take next year off too.

[slatyb]

Do what you feel. Do you have a hard time saying no?

[msc545]

You can probably do that until you get lonely and need to go out looking for men again.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Wow… It hurts, that you think of me this way.

I never intentionally looked for anyone. When did I go out looking for men? Like I am some kind of hunter. Why’d you say that?

I was quite lonely these days and dealt with a lot by myself. But I am not going anywhere, looking for men.

I don’t understand why’d you say this

[AmeerX]

Yes, taking a break is going to heal your mental health

[Alex8736]

You definitely need some "ME TIME " to reset and focus on YOUR goals and achievements

[Wowcraft44]

I guess that depends on what you mean by self love

[Christoff92]

Yes it is. It's great to embrace self-love.

[Z1pTD]

in my opinion, god romance is self love...

[Z1pTD]

*good

[Z1pTD]

But yes I do think it's a good idea. All your future partners will appreciate it!

[Charliefretz329]

I don't know, sometimes you need a break though