Girls, Why do woman friendzone guys for being too nice?

[LerchSmokesBud420]

[SueShe]

Women don't friendzone men for being too nice, they friendzone them because they don't correspond to the person they are seeking.

I basically friendzone every single man because I am not interested in dating. By doing so, I indicate that I have no emotional interest in them and that they should keep their distance with me. I don't treat a man differently from another one.

However, a man that is not nice, pretends to be an alpha, gamma, beta or any of the Greek alphabet letter will automatically be put on the priority friendzone list.

If I was interested in dating, then it would only be a person that is nice.

[Rei13]

Someone else said it but there is a difference between being ‘nice’ and being legitimately nice/kind. The ‘nice guys’ aren’t actually nice the majority of the time, since it isn’t genuine if something is expected in return. Being kind is doing something without the expectation of getting anything back for it. My dad is like that, my boyfriend is like that, and the people I keep in my life are like that. Whenever I rejected men in the past it was generally because I either felt no sexual attraction for them or I was not in a good place at that point in time to be in a relationship. Most of the genuinely kind guys I know are in relationships even if it took some longer than others to get to that point.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

There’s a difference between “nice” and “kind.” And the difference is being nice means you’re doing it to receive some kind of approval or praise, or in this case a romantic relationship, meanwhile kindness is doing it because you genuinely believe it’s the right thing to do. Women can tell the difference intuitively.

[provokeesmokee]

If a guy has to keep claiming he's nice instead of just being nice, that's a red flag and he's guaranteed not as nice as he thinks he is.

Also, just because a dude is nice doesn't mean he's owed a relationship. You're not gonna be everyone's cup of tea, that's life.

[HitsyHonesty]

The only guy I would probably friendzone is one who doesn't stand up for himself at all. If your partner demands unrealistic toxic things and he still says yes and does so. That's not a person I would see as dating material!
That's the only type of 'Too Nice' that turns me off.

[Nikki1989]

They don't. That is just an excuse men use for when they can't get what they want from a woman.

[Smashingdoozy]

The friendzone doesn't exist. Men pretend to be friends with women in order to get romantic or sexual interest from them. When the women aren't interested in that men complain about being friendzoned...

[Anonymous]

There would be other reasons for it. Being nice is a good thing. However it could also mean someone is a pushover, a people pleaser, a coward, not going after what they want, and/or not able to stand up for himself and others. A man who is nice, kind, but still confident (not arrogant) and brave is what women want. If he is just “nice” but have nothing else to offer, then yeah nobody wants that.

[BrightBubblyKat]

I reject guys for being weak. Afraid to go for what they want and be direct with me. I find it ridiculous.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

They don’t…

Are you sure, you mean being nice?

I am convinced that women love nice men, who can be not so nice when needed.

[HelpfulWoman]

No girl is obligated to date a dude because he's "nice". If they feel they are owed that, then they're not nice

[Lolahah]

Maybe they feel that there is no excitement, chemistry or that nice guys are a pushovers therefore weak.

[DreamLife7]

They're not obligated to like you just because you're fake nice. Nice isn't a personality nor does it pay the bills.

[Anonymous]

Why am I expected to date a guy because he’s nice? That’s the bare minimum, you should be nice without expecting something in return.