Men is it important to feel needed by the woman?

[lightbulb27]

Watch what this Rabbi says...

Women do you ever say... the worst thing a woman can say to a man is "never mind, I'll do it myself"

I agree to some extent. .. a man needs to know he is useful, necessary, important... more so than the woman...

yes

no

[Finchie40]

Yes , feeling wanted and needed by her is important. If a girl doesn’t make her partner feel wanted and needed , he will feel like she doesn’t love and value him anymore , he will feel used and feel he is just a convenience to her that could possibly push him to be open to another girl that wants to make him feel wanted and appreciated. When a girl constantly nags and bitches and complains to her partner little does she realize she is pushing him away , No guy wants a girl that brings misery into his life , he wants happiness , if he doesn’t receive happiness from her he will find happiness elsewhere , Either he will cheat on her or pursue a hobby to distract himself from her Distancing himself from her as much as possible , when my ex started treating me like shit and criticizing me and constantly putting me down , I just walked away and focused on things that made me happy and started to act like she no longer existed to me , even though I loved her with all my heart i realized I was being mentally abused and used so I distanced myself and focused on things I enjoyed , she would try to ruin those things as well , like I was wrong for having a hobby and having fun , to find out she was cheating on me during that time , so if a girl starts treating you like shit and is criticizing you and constantly bitching at you , my advice is to just kick her to the curb where she belongs , she is more than likely cheating on you , never settle for a girl that treats you like a convenience, you should be her top priority the same way you make her yours , if that changes in the relationship, walk away and dump her ass , you deserve better than that shit , Life is too short to with with someone that wants to bring misery into your life , Find yourself Happiness

[lightbulb27]

I'm sure you are in a much better place now! That be exhausting.
Did you two have kids? Ever go to therapist early on... I'd wonder what was really going on that lead to her emotional issues. Some women/people... are just difficult, wounded, and self destructive.
I know a guy that spends no time with his wife. I wonder what it's really like inside the doors, but I suspect I know why he is constantly... somewhere else.

[Unit1]

I can't say. One thing that is for sure is that i don't Want to feel like she needs me for my money.

I put much higher emphasis on just being loved. its that simple.

[lightbulb27]

I don't like to say this, but wounds control. If it's a wound, the sub conscious mind navigates the person towards that until it's resolved.
Choose wisely is all I can say. The more secure you are the better it will be.
not all women are money hungry, but they all want what they want... the life they want.

[Unit1]

I love girls.

[kylee2437]

While I agree, a man actually has to be useful. I’m not crediting a man just because he needs to feel needed, he actually needs to be exactly that

[lightbulb27]

being thankful for little things... important to you? Do you think it's important to him?
I think so...

[kylee2437]

Little things are great but if he can’t help with tasks that are important for the both of us , is he really that useful?

[DaySpring]

I wouldn't want my wife to think like you. You sound ungrateful. You should want your love to feel appreciated regardless of the thing they did. When you praise someone it influences them to keep doing good things. Basic psychology. People want to feel good and appreciated. What kinda of culture are you creating in your household.

[kylee2437]

@dayspring well great thing I didn’t marry you. I personally don’t know you but I have a dad that has worked his ass off and one that I can rely on and I can’t settle for less for what he does. My father will not be alive forever and I need someone to call when I’m having car troubles, or someone that compliments how unhandy I am. I’ve learned from my dating experiences, that you need a partner that is reliable and I won’t settle for less. A man that feels offended by what I say is probably one that isn’t as useful as he wishes

[lightbulb27]

We'll... there's no perfect person and a lot of boys aren't being trained by their dads to diagnose cars, replace brakes, do mechanical and house stuff. Some maybe good at video games and computers and networking, but lousy at home. If you require certain skills, make sure he's got them else kick him to the curb... otherwise he will suffer.
there's a lot more to life as well... but if you can't respect him, he's not for you.

[kylee2437]

@lightbulb27 I agree but the fact that men are stemming away from jobs like that is problematic in my opinion you are giving reason as to why a woman then needs to do things on her own which defeats exactly what the actual video is referring to

[lightbulb27]

we can all replace each other. I don't need a woman to cook and you don't need a man to move the furniture. it can all be outsourced. we have to find other reasons to value each other for what we CAN do and enjoy doing.
I think... that's how we do things at home...
my wife doesn't need me... she was fine without me. But it is important that I feel I add value to the family. ya know?

[kylee2437]

@lightbulb27 but you are missing the point. You can’t expect a woman to praise you if you aren’t being the part of who she needs. Marriage was originally created because both parties needed each other. Your wife requires less than I do and that is fine but let’s say you started dating someone that is wheelchair bond and you don’t help with her day to day tasks, are you being a reliable boyfriend in that case? If I can’t rely on you for what I need and I’m going to be married to you for 70+ years , isn’t that a little crazy?

[kylee2437]

Bound **

[kylee2437]

I see two sides to this theory, I see that a woman needs to be open to be appreciative but a man that also needs to make sure he is actually being the part a woman needs.

[lightbulb27]

I think you are right, there are must haves and as well, those must haves can change over time. That be a kicker. But you decide what you accept and don't and make the best of it. If your requirement list is long, it's harder to find someone. realize, he has his as well.

[kylee2437]

@lightbulb27 and hey I know what I am signing up for when I have a bigger list, but the thing is, is I’m happier single than being with someone that just doesn’t do it for me. I already run my life, I have my own job , I cook, I clean and I do those well because I do have hard working men around me to the point where I had to figure out how to maintain what I can do because it was needed

[lightbulb27]

fair enough. you are young right? you can't imagine a day you need help. Trust me... that day comes. there's a reason two are better than one... unless they divide each other in half. And then there's just wanting someone in your life for companionship and such.
I was single forever and married now. It's all tradeoffs, but I'd rather be married and generally happy. I have changes to make to be my best life, but it's opened up new life for me.
def don't marry somone you will be unsatisfied with... no point.

[Nik1hil]

You have a point, I agree with, he should have skill that his women does not!. Do the task she cannot do and then only expect credit

[Constatine]

I think this is something that works in both directions..

[Anonymous]

Of course. Everyone, man or woman, needs to feel needed, and it's important to let your partnr know they are needed. Anyone who thinks oherwise is a fool looking for a failed relationship.

[shades777]

not these modern women, i rather move to another country then to deal with them but if there's a feminine woman out there then yea

[Anonymous]

People want to be appreciated. That's it. People want to feel like you actually like them.

[LiamJHayden]

Not to me. I'd prefer to be wanted, as in the choice, rather than be a necessity.

[AngryCarl2]

It's important to feel desired. I don't know about needed.

[Jerre]

Yes, I think it is very important to be needed by a woman.

[Jerre]

@lightbulb27 Thank you for the Like