Girls, If you blocked a guy over a reason that could have been worked out and you stop talking to him, how likely would you reach out to mend things?

[Anonymous]

[_Maya_]

Well first I don't block people. I find that childish. I know sometimes it is a necessity but most times it is not. If I don't want to talk to someone I just don't. They get the picture. It is rare though I have to do that to anyone. I can't think of the last time I was that upset that I completely ignored a person. In your scenario though I would reach out if the problem was something fixable. Might be worth cooling off for a bit and really thinking about what went wrong and then approaching him with a level head.

[Asker]

I talked to my mom and older Sis and they said listen we think she acted out irrationally, just give her space and time, maybe she has a lot going on. I can't reach out to her on social media or phone because she blocked both. It wasn’t even an argument it was a disagreement and i dont want to make it a she-said, he-said thing. I told her two main things, that she can reach out to me when ready and that due to our lack of communication on certain matters that makes her tick and I didn’t know it was a quick approach. Her response was, you should have known its common sense. I didn't insult intelligence, I didn't insult someone she cared about or family, i didn't curse at her, I wasn’t looking at other girls. It happened on Wednesday last wk. I tried apologizing for a solid 8 hours until I said f-it and she’s like im gonna block you. I told her im not gonna beg someone. So i just let it be.

[_Maya_]

You are doing the right thing by not begging her because that will only feed her ego that she has the control. She sounds very immature and irrational if it wasn't a big deal. I would have said the same as you mom and sis. Just give it time. Doesn't sound like she is going to let it go. Look at it like this though... if she is going to act like that over something small it is bound to happen again and again.

[Asker]

That’s the same thing my mom said but i do believe if someone is dealing with a lot in life or past experiences it may hinder their mind on certain decisions. She even told me she doesn't hate me, but she feels she shouldn’t talk to me anymore hence the block. I think Im an open minded guy so if she reached out, and I hope she does (can’t hold my breath) but if she did, I would talk to her normally and be like its cool. I don’t want to judge others solely on one mistake because then im no different.

[_Maya_]

I think you have the right mindset and doing the right things. I would say just give it some time and see if something changes or she comes to her senses.

[Riribichri]

What u did

[Riribichri]

He’s the guy? He’s supposed to mend

[Asker]

Well if she blocked him how can he mend?

[Asker]

Lol..

[Riribichri]

What? Is this some weird online relationships.

[Asker]

No :-S she lives in the same city as me, we went to the same uni, we’ve met before lol