When I was young, my first girlfriend wanted to open up our relationship before she went to college, what exactly did that mean?

[Anonymous]

So when I was 18/19 I've been seeing this girl for a year, and we were friends for many years before that

We were both only really experienced with eachother, and she suggested we open up our relationship when she went to college (I went later)

Did this mean she didn't like me? At the time I wasn't very secure so this bothered me a lot and eventually ruined our relationship, but now I have different thoughts about it, being more mature, and I could see maybe she just wanted more experience

[laraWM]

It's been more than 10 years? Yes you're probably right. It's not easy to handle first relationship

[Asker]

Yeah I got jealous easily but now I'm different

I think it might've actually strengthened the relationship if I was cool with it, it could've given her more confidence and experience

You know what the funny thing is? Before we dated we were friends and I liked her but I introduced her to my friend and they had a brief fling lmao

[laraWM]

Yes it happens, I'm sorry

[Asker]

It's fine, I just wish I was more accepting back then, we were long distance too, by about 2 hours travel

[laraWM]

Yes it's even harder

[Asker]

She was really attractive too and that made me a bit more jealous, she had curly blonde hair, blue eyes, slim but big bum, so I knew she'd get lots of attention, but I just wanted her tbh

[laraWM]

It looks like you were really into her

[Asker]

Oh yeah I liked her for years and I would go visit her as often as I could, even before we dated, I just feel dumb ending it over something like being jealous :(

[laraWM]

Don't think too much about it, it's over now

[Asker]

Yeah, sometimes I almost think it'd be cool if I did agree to it though, I feel like I'd hear about all kinds of things from her lol

[Tim2nice]

To open up a relationship means to date other people outside of the relationship as well as each other

[Asker]

Yeah I know, that's what she wanted, to get experience