I know it’s GAG not a bunch of professionally trained psychotherapists. But I usually provide very thorough details about my touchy questions. Make sure to provide them in context.
Anyway if it’s a dating/sexual situation women usually assume the worst about me especially when I admit I did something wrong. Doesn’t matter if I own up to what i did nor what context I deliver the scenario in. I know I am not “admitting defeat” if I admit wrong. However they fixate on the mistake I made.
But when women post questions about doing wrong I get more pissed off if they have the wrong attitude about it vs. the actual transgression itself.
For example if a woman admits to cheating and makes no excuses and accepts the consequences for her behavior that’s one thing. But if she blames her boyfriend/husband for not giving her enough attention or fishing for someone to tell her “oh it’s okay” that’s another. Again her attitude about what she did matters more to me then the incident itself.
But I feel like as a man women have much less forgiveness if I admit wrong regardless if I own up to it or not.
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I joined here because I wanted to talk about my sexual feelings. If the women here can't handle that, then I guess there is no point in me interacting with them anyways. A real human being is a mixture of things. Some good and some bad. The world needs to get a clue!
Touché. I owned up to some immoral sexual mistakes I made in another post. I knew opening up about those bad decisions would invite some idiot responses. But shared them with the objective of relating to how other men feel when they make bad decisions. I said I made no excuses for it nor was proud about it. Also warned I would block any asshole who trolled.
Out of five women who responded only one only really fully understood the issue I was asking about. The rest just fixated on what a scumbag I was regardless of my full disclaimer saying I wasn’t proud of it. They just get some stupid “feeling” in their head and all rationale flies out the window.
I don’t act that way towards women who admit transgressions if they own up to being wrong. I won’t tell them ”it’s okay” but I won’t blast them over their bad decision though. Different story if they are trying to justify it or fish for sympathy (which unfortunately common).
I agree with what you just said. Even in my own Christian faith, people often act as if they are not sinners. But the Bible says we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. I think the concept is, we all make mistakes in this world. We all can fall off the horse. But we need to do the best we can to own it, and get back up on the horse. Lots of people don't want forgive. But if they would just remind themselves, that they fall too. Maybe not in the same way you fall, but they do fall. And when they do, they want forgiveness too.
I have Christian beliefs too. But as our society becomes more atheistic we are seeing less and less forgiveness in society and that is DANGEROUS. People are trying to judge others on their actions while judging themselves on their feelings.
This is creating a “dog eat dog” world. Atheists think that they can get away this by making “us vs them” on believers vs. non-believers.
But the woke eat their own. They don’t forgive each other either and when that starts it’s all a race the bottom. You can’t expect to be forgiven if you are unable to forgive others.
We need to stay in the word and in prayer. The world is going to get worse, until Jesus calls us home.
This is a bad site for sensitive topics. They are better suited to other websites.
I do not agree with you on a lot of things but I do agree with you on that one @nikki1989
Well that’s why we’re on gag. You can’t see their reaction.