Why do people ignore cries for help?

[Anonymous]

I honestly have zero close friends. I’ve been going through difficult times and decided to share with a handful of women I thought cared about me. I posted things on close friends Instagram stories over the past year and when that didn’t lead to feeling supported I posted about how hurt I was to open up to this trusted few and feel shame in their silence. I mean I shared openly about mental health struggles, being depressed, feeling alone, believing no one cares… and it’s like all these things went totally ignored. Not one message of support. Nothing. Why am I being ignored when I see others posting similar struggles and saying how glad they are to share because it made them feel less alone? Do these people who I trusted have no empathy or what are some reasons why people would just turn away from someone’s cries for help? I just want to know someone cares, and apparently that’s too much to ask?

[Anonymous]

Tbh it’s a horrible feeling ngl and feeling depressed and alone can lead to some very dark thoughts which is not good. Personally I’ve been feeling the same since last year November and I KNOW it’s not easy…. But I’ve also learnt that people don’t care, they are not going to un-depressed you, I’ve talk to some people and one made me felt worst. Not only that but I had to look back in my life and find all the things that made me happy remind myself that I have to keep going no matter what life doesn’t stop for you, and I’ve turn to the only one that could help and it’s God, keep seeking his help and try to help others and do good. I hope you feel better and don’t worry about your friends.

[jorfan3]

If a person does it too much, people can become desensitized. Too much drama can make people feel like this person is just a "drama queen".

It is also possible you are being abused and you don't know it.

How does your family treat you? Are they kind to you? Do they support you? Are they encouraging?

If they are and you're still posting, they might even feel offended. Why try more if their efforts don't matter?

Do you have a good family and circle of friends?

[Asker]

That’s a good point. I have a super small family with a supportive father and I have no friends. I have people I work with, I have acquaintances, but no *friend* friends. That’s part of the reason this hurts so much because I explained in my posts how alone I feel in my problems and I wasn’t worth the ten seconds it would take to say “hey sorry you’re going through a rough time.” Just total silence. I just don’t understand the apathy.

[jorfan3]

Would you like to be friends?

[jorfan3]

I'm a pretty good listener

[Asker]

Yes please, that’s very sweet. ❤️

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. I get it. Fake friends. It’s like the song you find out who your friends are.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/JREouTHpyJE

Everyone wants to pat your back and shake your hand when you’re up on top of that mountain. (Paraphrasing) when you fall down you look up and see whose around you.

I just answered someone else’s question. How someone asks someone all the time for favors, but she never repays him after claiming she will.

Sometimes if a better to keep your personal circle close. Having a few genuine friends. You can be nice to everyone. But if you let too many people in. Sone people seem grest st first. But they aren’t

[Huntingnfishin]

Could be a lot of reasons. Personally I try and make it through my own life and I find that tough enough most of the time without carrying others through theirs.

[Berethor]

You not Anonymous so I am not going to ignore it, if you want to talk about it feel free.

[Drew-1990]

I don't know you but I care, I hate hearing how sad some people are in the world.

[jahaims]

You are terrible at communicating. Dropping hints is not a mature way to communicate. You cannot form meaningful connections without proper communication so you don't have anyone close.

[Asker]

And you’re a stellar communicator. Please inform me more of what an asshole you are. I didn’t drop hints. I reached out to people individually and got brushed off. A pattern that continues to repeat itself. Just because I don’t have close meaningful friendships doesn’t make me a terrible communicator. It might mean my “friends” are apathetic jerks. Wanna be my friend? You qualify.