What's the point of crying for help?

[Lessthanaveragr]

My mental health is rapidly declining, and my rampant drug use are becoming a huge problems. I've asked for help, from friends, family and anyone that will listen. And it seems as tho I'm on my own. No one has so much as pointed my in the right direction but it's on, I'll be fine. Thank you all, and have a great day.

[SallyTho87]

Many people don't really understand, or know HOW to help those whom are struggling. It depends on the type of help from friends/family that you have asked for. Did you tell them you are having a hard time, and would appreciate seeing them in person to talk? Or did you say something similar to your question "my mental health is declining, my drug use is becoming a huge issue, I need help"

Family and friends may not be the best to go to for this issue, as drug use can really emotionally endure people who love and care about you.
I would recommend discussing with a clinic, or seeing a medical professional to get the help you need. Drug use is a huge aspect to your struggling, and coping, and depending on WHAT substances you are using, your family / friends may not be comfortable getting involved, as addiction can tear families apart and take a great emotional toll on those who value you in their lives.

Try seeing a medical professional, not only for your mental health, but for your drug abuse issues too. You admit you have a problem, and it's increasing. This is a great indication you are needing and ready to make the changes and do the work at this time. Try a local clinic, a walk in clinic, even the ER and speak with medical professional to guide you in the right direction.

Remember; your family and friends have an entire life outside of their connection and relationship with you. They have work, personal life issues too, responsibilities, etc. that may prevent them from giving you the time they know you need. I do not know what your relationship to them is like, how close you are to your family, or how often you are involved in each others lives with family and friends, but this is a hard, emotionally distressing topic for many people, and of course they cannot get involved if it is serious as this.

I would try reaching out to them again, but NOT asking for their direction, as they likely don't know what to do, or how to help you! Instead, ask for their support in ways they CAN. Like communicating more, maybe set a day each week you can visit and reconnect, talk on the phone with them, etc. Having support is crucial to growth and overcoming the issues you are facing.

I hope you get the assistance you need, and the guidance from medical professionals. You can stop by your local Addiction Services office to pickup brocheurs, or pamphlets with contact information regarding drug use, services offered in the community, etc. That could be a good start, but I DO recommend seeing medical professional - your health and wellbeing matters too. When someone uses drugs it affect ALL aspects of the body, so please get checked out and get some info from anyone who can provide it.

Good luck, sending hugs

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe no one’s listening to you now because you didn’t listen to them in the past. They don’t respond to your cries for help because you ultimately rejected it. That was the case with my uncle and his blackout drinking for a long time. He got arrested, got a DWI, had to drive around with a breathalyzer in his car for 6 months. He asked for help but rejected everyone’s suggestions of sobriety, or cutting back. It wasn’t until they held an intervention that he saw how much of what he was doing was hurting his family, and he checked himself into a rehab center for a month. He’s currently 90 days sober, and we’re very proud of him, but he wouldn’t have done that before. He would have asked for help but no one gave him an answer that allowed him to keep his addiction because he didn’t want to see his addiction as an addiction, or a problem. I imagine it’s a similar perspective for your family and friends, you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help.

[Yannae]

The chance that you receive the help you need, that's why we do it.

[Anonymous]

in life most people dont really care that much about you and the ones who do often are uncomfortable with your problems or dont know what to do. in the end you are the only one who can really help yourself. so it's best to come up with a solution on your own and deal with it on your own.

personally i think you should probably get put in rehab and get professional mental help, though for you wallet and career get a ticket to Canada or Europe so you get all that nearly for free and there's no record

[TeraGER]

Hopefully someone will help