What does it mean when a woman says she's not perfect like you?

[Rydog926]

I have a complicated relationship with a woman. It's kind of touch and go with her sometimes. In the middle of a discussion she said she's not perfect like me. What does that mean? I mean usually she has a hard exterior. Though at that moment it seemed like a relinquish. Does she really mean that? Or is she trying to get my attention in some way?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo bro, chicks can be super cryptic sometimes, but I think I know what she's getting at with that "not perfect" comment.

My guess is underneath that tough exterior, she probably feels real vulnerable around you. Like you see through her BS and she can't hide who she really is. And deep down she worries you think she's flawed or not good enough, even if she acts hard.

By saying you're "perfect", I think it's her weird way of admitting she cares what you think of her. Like she's trying to get your reassurance that you still like her despite her imperfections. That's big for a girl like her to open up.

I'd just be compassionate if I was you. Remind her you accept her fully as she is, flaws and all. Maybe compliment something real about her character too that has nothing to do with looks. That'll mean the world, trust me.

She's probably dying for that emotional connection with you bro, even if she fights it. Stay patient - keep chipping away at those walls and I bet she'll let you in for good eventually. You got this!

[Messiah89]

Honestly bro there is something she hasn't told you or maybe to her your life is perfect an hers feels less an she thinks she may screw it up, ask her why she feels like your life is perfect. I'm sure your not perfect tell her why