What does my crush thinks?

[Anonymous]

"I have a girl in my class, we sometimes cross paths at school, smile at each other, and have small conversations when necessary. Other than that, she replied to my story the other day, and being a bit dumb, I gave a response that didn't further the conversation. The next day, she didn't look at me in school. After some time, I sent a funny holiday message, she laughed and replied with wishes, but being dumb again, I didn't say anything else. Then, when she saw me at school, she came up to me, asked how my exam was, we exchanged pleasantries and said goodbye. This week, I wrote something related to class, just for the sake of it, and she pulled out her notebook and wrote back. I said I owe you now, and she said 'No worries.' Then I said , 'A cup of coffee never hurts,' and she just left me on seen after leaving me on 'sent' for 12 hours. What does this mean? Am I overthinking it? Or is she just being a bit coy?

I took the 'seen' as rejection, so I didn't do anything extra, but I also don't want to just delete everything. I'm still holding onto hope."

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo bro, chill alright? Sounds like you stressin over this way too much.

From what it sounds like, she's into you too man! I mean cmon, she always smiles at you, chats when you see each other, even pulled out her notebook to write back. That's huge signs she's feeling you.

But I think maybe you comin on a little strong with that coffee line. Even I know women don't like desperation, makes em run. Play it cool next time!

My advice? Lay off a bit now, play it casual. Smile and wave when you see her like before. Then find a nice natural way to chat again soon. Feel it out first before asking her out straight up, ya feel me?

She left you on seen cuz she prob overthinkin it now too like "is he tryna date me, what does he want" and all that girl BS. Give her space to miss you!

Trust me bro, she likes you for sure. Just reel it in with the moves next time and let it flow more natural. You got this, ain't nothin to stress!

[Asker]

Bro, something strange happened she just texted me (we were talking from instagram this time she texted from messenger). I put myself together played it cooled and we talked some. Its looking good right now. Its really about being chill, I was existed af when she first texted by let myself cool a little than it was nice.

Thanks for your opinion. Take care of yourself.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woahhh no way dude, that's awesome she hit you up on Messenger out of the blue! Guess playing it cool like we said really paid off, huh? Knew she couldn't resist your charm for long.

I'm stoked for you bro, knew you still had a shot with this girl. Props for keeping your cool when she texted too - that's key. Acting all chill when you're freaking out inside is a big move, haha.

See what I mean though? Girls can be so confuse, but if you just stay calm and casual it draws them in every time. She wants a dude who ain't desperate, you feel?

You gotta let me know how it goes from here now man! Keep up the smooth talking and who knows, might end up taking that coffee date for real. Way to go my guy, proud of you for closing in. Keep it up!

[Asker]

Hey buddy, we are kinda in a leveling up phase but I sometimes hurry too much and text her which I shouldn't. But It goes well we talk more and more everyday. Hope it goes well, thanks for your interest. Can you give me more advice about dating etc. It may help me, its been long time since I really felt something for someone

[Oliverlogan263]

Awesome man, I'm really happy to hear things are going well with you two! That leveling up phase can be tricky - on one hand you wanna talk to her as much as possible, but rushing things is never a good idea. My advice would be to just take a breath and pace yourself when texting. Instead of feeling like you need to constantly reply right away, wait a little bit in between so it seems more casual. That'll help things feel less high pressure too. When you do text, ask her questions about herself so she's doing most of the talking. Girls love sharing and feeling heard. And compliment her every now and then - but keep it genuine, not overly cheesy!

As for more dating tips - definitely listen without judgment when she opens up to you. Respect her boundaries too, physically and emotionally. Consent is sexy. Also try planning lowkey fun dates like hiking, baking cookies together, going to a free museum - quality time over money spent. Compliment her mind and character, not just looks. And most important - communicate how she makes you feel without coming on too strong. Tell her what you appreciate about her as a person. Just enjoy learning about each other and have fun together! You'll do great as long as you stay respectful and honest. Let me know if any other questions come up!

[Avicenna]

Well, you could try being a bit more direct and see what happens

[Asker]

What you mean by that?

[Nikki1989]

"she just left me on seen after leaving me on 'sent' for 12 hours"

Has it never occurred to you to talk to her face to face. You know, some people still know how to communicate, the proper way.

[Asker]

I dont want to cross her boundaries. Also she f*ckin dissappears after the end of the class

[Anonymous]

You’re gonna have to talk to her face-to-face

[Asker]

Yeah but if she doesn't like me i dont want to make her feel uncomfortable

[Anonymous]

Why u like her

[Asker]

I really dont know she just feels unique

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look

[Asker]

She looks friendly, sometimes I catch her looking at me while I am talking to other people. I look her admiringly.

(I assumed you are not asking about physical apparence, my native language isn't English)

[Opinion Owner]

I asked physical appearance

[Asker]

Oh my bad, she has light brown hair brown eyes (her eyes looks so beautifulll) average build 5' 3'' i guess her face is too cute. On the other hand I have dark blonde hair, hazel eyes kinda slim build and 5' 10''. My friends thinks we matches tho.

[Opinion Owner]

Your weights? Why u like her

[Asker]

I am 135 lbs why does this matter. I like her because she is cute she behaves everyone with respect, her speaking tone is the most calming sound i have ever heard.