What does my girl crush think of me?

[Spiritual88]

Hello! I am a 23 year old straight male!

Back in highschool, I was a loner-weirdo. All I did in highschool was be alone and different. That's it. I didn't bother anyone other than myself.

In highschool, my bully made a cruel joke about me so the entire class laughed at me including my girl crush but the joke does not seem to be funny other than being very mean.

It seems like the entire class laughed at me on purpose. It seems like it is stupid to think that the joke is so funny that the entire class can't help it. The joke is clearly not funny but only mean. Why did the entire class do that?

But here is the most important part of my question:

What does my girl crush think of me?

[SueShe]

A crush is usually a one-sided affair and often, crushes are not even aware that they are being crushed on by somebody.

Now, if she made fun of you together with the other kids, then she probably did not think much of you. She was simply a follower that did what others did just to be like the others and not to be different.

The best way to know what she was actually think of you would be to ask her directly. If she was "on your side", she would have defended you but the fact that she did not do anything leads me to believe that she either did not reciprocate your crush or that she did not want to feel out of place.

[Spiritual88]

Did she hate me?

[SueShe]

No, I don't think that she hated you but if she crushed on you, she did not take your defense.

[Spiritual88]

@SueShe

What makes you think that she didn't hate me? Why do you think so?

[SueShe]

Because, according to your descriptive, she only joined the others that laughed at you. She did not make mean comments which would indicate that she had something against you.

[Spiritual88]

@SueShe

The thing is that the joke is not really funny which would mean that she laughed at me INTENTIONALLY even though she knew that laughing at me hurst me.

[EpicSnail]

Seen you asking if she hated you, don't think people generally hate those they don't know. Sounds like you were a bit of a blank page to her. It's also kinda commendable that you didn't bother anyone. But yeah, maybe you can try opening up more to people.

[Spiritual88]

@EpicSnail

What makes you think that she didn't hate me? Why do you think so?

[EpicSnail]

Sounds from your description like she barely knew you?

[EpicSnail]

Hatred is a stong emotion, and it's hard to stir hatred in other people if you're just a wallflower.

[Spiritual88]

@EpicSnail

Then why did she laugh at me?

[EpicSnail]

Laughter is a social behavior, that's why they have laugh tracks on sitcoms. She probably just laughed along with the class, and even laughing at someone is not necessarily hating them, more like finding them comical or pitiful.

Maybe the experience hurt you a lot, so you figure it must have been because they hated you? I think the unfortunate truth is that people are often cruel for no deep reason, and they don't even think about it that much.

There is more to you than what happened in that class. It does not have to define you.

[Spiritual88]

@EpicSnail

Sure. She thought I was pitiful and comical, but she should have been considerate towards me if she really thought that I was an innocent person. She should have been considerate towards me if she really didn't hate me.

If she thought that I was an innocent person who she didn't hate, then she would have been considerate towards me.

In conclusion, the fact that she was not considerate towards me means that she hates me.

Normally, people are considerate towards others they think of as innocents that they don't hate.

Plus, she could also think that I deserve hatred because she thought I was comical, worthless, and pitiful.

That's it! I consider her as my enemy who takes my bully's side. I think I should fight her.

[EpicSnail]

You sound like ChatGPT

[strateguy632]

her laugh does not show either way. only if ask out can u see her reply. about laugh, people are scared of bully caused all to laugh.

[Anonymous]

People are sadly mean

[Spiritual88]

Did my crush hate me?

[Anonymous]

She thinks you are great